How Well Does He Know Me Quiz

Example Questions From the Test

• 1During a disagreement, how well does he recognize the difference between your surface reaction and what is actually bothering you?
  • He sometimes senses there is more beneath my reaction but rarely identifies it without explanation.
  • He often understands the underlying concern, though I may need to correct part of his interpretation.
  • He tends to take my first reaction at face value because we have not learned each other's conflict patterns.
  • He can usually connect my reaction to the concern, value, or vulnerability underneath it.
• 2When he talks about your next few years, how closely does his picture match what you actually want?
  • He understands my main direction but may be unclear about timing or priorities.
  • His picture mostly reflects common expectations or his own plans because mine are not yet clear to him.
  • He knows one goal I have but not how it fits with the rest of my life.
  • He can describe my important goals, priorities, and the trade-offs I am considering.
• 3When choosing a small gift just for you, what would he most likely rely on?
  • A few interests or preferences he remembers, even if the final choice is not quite my style.
  • A safe, broadly appealing gift because my individual tastes are not yet clear to him.
  • A specific detail, collection, need, or passing comment that shows he knows what delights me.
  • One obvious fact about me, such as a favorite color or general hobby.