Are We a Good Match Quiz

Example Questions From the Test

• 1What is the fit between your preferred roles for friends and family in the relationship?
  • We both want a similar balance of couple time, friendships, and family involvement.
  • Our preferences are mostly compatible, with occasional negotiation around specific events.
  • One of us generally participates more or less than preferred to accommodate the other.
  • We want sharply different levels of involvement, and the issue regularly creates tension.
• 2How aligned are your understandings of what commitment currently means?
  • We have discussed it and want essentially the same kind of commitment.
  • We seem broadly aligned, though one or two expectations still need clarification.
  • One of us has adjusted expectations more than the other to keep the relationship moving.
  • We want meaningfully different levels or forms of commitment.
• 3A brief text message is taken the wrong way. Which response best resembles your usual recovery?
  • One person's preferred way of clearing it up usually wins, whether or not it suits the other.
  • We favor different repair methods, such as calling versus waiting, and often remain out of sync.
  • We can adapt to each other's repair styles, though it takes some deliberate effort.
  • We naturally agree on how to clarify the meaning and reconnect.