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Am I Being Groomed Quiz

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After 15 questions taking about 10 minutes, the Am I Being Groomed Quiz helps you reflect on patterns involving pressure, secrecy, isolation, threats, sexual boundaries, and dependence. Your result highlights areas that may need attention, helping you organize concerns, recognize warning signs, and consider safer next steps with trusted support.
Questions: 1510 minutes
Am I Being Groomed: situation and reply bubbles
July 22, 2026July 22, 2026Material has been updatedJuly 22, 2026Material has been published
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Scale Explorer

How the Scales are Structured

Emotional Control, Dependence, and NeglectECDaN
This scale reflects indicators of emotional control, manufactured dependence, isolation, coercive obligation, or neglect-like deprivation in a relationship.
example score8/15
8/15Act on the concernexample score
0None selected here
1 – 2Concern to examine
3 – 15Act on the concern
A score of 8 falls in the "Act on the concern" range, suggesting you endorsed multiple indicators consistent with stronger control, isolation, blackmail, or deliberate deprivation within this scale.
Physical Safety and ThreatsPSaT
This scale reflects experiences related to physical safety risks such as intimidation, confinement, force, or threats.
example score8/15
8/15Act on the concernexample score
0None selected here
1 – 2Concern to examine
3 – 15Act on the concern
A score of 8 falls in the “Act on the concern” range, suggesting your responses include physical-safety red flags that may warrant prompt support.
Sexual Boundary PressureSBP
Measures how much sexual boundary testing, pressure, coercion, secrecy, or exploitation is indicated by your responses.
example score6/15
6/15Act on the concernexample score
0None selected here
1 – 2Concern to examine
3 – 15Act on the concern
A score of 6 falls in the “Act on the concern” range, indicating your answers include stronger signs of sexual boundary pressure, coercion, secrecy, or exploitation indicators.
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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

Unsure About a Relationship
41%OF USERS
People who feel pressured, rushed, or controlled by someone and want a quick self-check to name what is happening.
Worried Friends or Siblings
34%OF USERS
People concerned about changes in someone close to them, like secrecy, isolation, gifts, or fear, and want to compare what they’re seeing to common warning signs.
Survivors Seeking Clarity
25%OF USERS
People looking back on past experiences to understand patterns like manipulation, threats, dependence, or boundary crossing and to validate their feelings.
BASED ON AGGREGATED, ANONYMIZED DATA FROM TENS OF THOUSANDS OF FREUDLY USERS.
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See How You Compare

Once you complete the test, your results are compared with real-world data from people in your country.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Shaded area — where most people score
Dot — the average
You — your score lands on each curve after the test— your score, after the test
Emotional Control, Dependence, and NeglectECDaN
You?
Average7.9
Typical rangeTypical5.8 – 10.1
Possible0 – 15
Physical Safety and ThreatsPSaT
You?
Average7.8
Typical rangeTypical5.5 – 10.2
Possible0 – 15
Sexual Boundary PressureSBP
You?
Average9.3
Typical rangeTypical7.3 – 11.2
Possible0 – 15
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS

Example Questions From the Test

    • They have not sent unwanted sexual content or asked me to create sexual images.
    • They sent or requested sexualized content once, then stopped after I expressed a boundary.
    • They repeatedly sent sexual content or asked for images after I hesitated, refused, or seemed uncomfortable.
    • They forced, tricked, threatened, or blackmailed me into creating, viewing, sharing, or allowing sexual images or recordings.
    • They have not tried to weaken or control my supportive relationships.
    • They criticized a trusted person or acted jealous once, but did not push me to reduce contact.
    • They repeatedly encouraged secrecy, distrust, or distance from people who might question the relationship.
    • They threatened, blackmailed, punished, or trapped me to stop me from contacting supportive people.
    • They have not initiated unwanted, sexualized, or boundary-testing touch.
    • They tried touch that felt like a boundary test, but stopped when I moved away or objected.
    • They repeated or escalated touching despite my refusal, freezing, discomfort, or lack of participation.
    • They forced sexual contact, restrained me, injured me, or continued through threats or clear non-consent.
These are 3 of the 15 real questions — the rest appear in the test. No sign-up needed to start.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES

Am I Being Groomed Quiz - Description and methodology of the test

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People trying to make sense of pressure, secrecy, or changing boundaries may turn to the Am I Being Groomed Quiz to organize what happened without reducing it to one incident. It is intended for someone reflecting on a current or past relationship or situation. For a past situation, its result can help organize grooming concerns and communicate them to a trusted person.

What This Assessment Explores

The questions examine boundaries, privacy, support, dependence, and safety. They distinguish isolated discomfort from repeated, escalating, or coercive conduct. The result identifies areas with endorsed experiences, while context determines their meaning. Grooming warning signs often appear as patterns rather than single events.

The three displayed scales are:

  • Emotional Control, Dependence, and Neglect (0-15) shows emotional leverage, dependence, and care-related concerns; poverty, disability, crisis, or unavailable support can affect their meaning. Bands: None selected here (0), Concern to examine (1-2), Act on the concern (3-15).
  • Physical Safety and Threats (0-15) shows intimidation, confinement, force, incapacitation, or threats; bands are None selected here (0-0), Concern to examine (1-2), and Act on the concern (3-15).
  • Sexual Boundary Pressure (0-15) shows pressure involving sexual content, touch, secrecy, or exploitation; bands are None selected here (0), Concern to examine (1-2), and Act on the concern (3-15).

Methodology and Scientific Basis

Viewed as a sexual grooming assessment, this is a structured self-report questionnaire. Each item offers four responses, moving from no listed experience through an isolated concern and repeated pressure to coercive or dangerous conduct. This format highlights persistence, escalation, retaliation, and loss of choice, but the questionnaire does not state a universal point value for each answer. Read the result alongside the situations endorsed.

The closest published reference is Sexual Grooming Scale-Victim Version. The questionnaire is conceptually consistent with that instrument's focus on grooming behaviors, not an adaptation of it. It also fits the model of grooming and related definitional work described in the literature. That literature concerns grooming involving children and does not establish norms or validation for this specific online questionnaire.

The displayed bands are unvalidated reflective summaries, not severity, legal, or clinical cutoffs; a low total cannot prove safety, any concerning endorsed experience matters independently of the total, and a single red flag should be acted on rather than discounted because of the overall score. Memory, current context, fear, and limited self-awareness can shape self-report, so immediate threats, forced contact, confinement, incapacitation, or danger require prompt real-world support.

Literature:
  • Winters, Georgia M., and Elizabeth L. Jeglic. "The Sexual Grooming Scale - Victim Version: The Development and Pilot Testing of a Measure to Assess the Nature and Extent of Child Sexual Grooming." Victims & Offenders 17, no. 6 (2022): 919-940. 10.1080/15564886.2021.1974994
  • Winters, Georgia M., Elizabeth L. Jeglic, and Leah E. Kaylor. "Validation of the Sexual Grooming Model of Child Sexual Abusers." Journal of Child Sexual Abuse 29, no. 7 (2020): 855-875. 10.1080/10538712.2020.1801935
  • Winters, Georgia M., Leah E. Kaylor, and Elizabeth L. Jeglic. "Toward a Universal Definition of Child Sexual Grooming." Deviant Behavior 43, no. 8 (2022): 926-938. 10.1080/01639625.2021.1941427

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