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Is My Husband Controlling Quiz

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With 78 questions completed in about 10 minutes, the Is My Husband Controlling Quiz helps you reflect on patterns of conflict, monitoring, isolation, and restriction in your relationship. Your result can highlight areas affecting autonomy and safety, offering a clearer starting point for self-reflection and deciding what support or boundaries may help.
Questions: 7810 minutes
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How the Scales are Structured

Conflict & CoercionC&C
Measures whether conflicts involve respectful problem-solving versus coercive tactics such as intimidation, guilt, threats, or forced decisions.
example score14/30
14/30Mixed/pressured conflictexample score
0 – 10Respectful conflict
11 – 20Mixed/pressured conflict
21 – 30Coercive conflict
A score of 14 falls in the Mixed/pressured conflict range, suggesting some disagreements may include guilt, pressure, or intimidation rather than consistently respectful resolution.
Control & MonitoringC&M
Assesses how often and how intensely a partner monitors or controls your time, whereabouts, phone use, or access to information and activities.
example score12/30
12/30Moderateexample score
0 – 10Low
11 – 20Moderate
21 – 30High
A score of 12 falls in the Moderate range, suggesting occasional or situational monitoring or control behaviors rather than consistent mutual transparency.
Isolation & RestrictionI&R
Measures the extent to which your husband’s behaviors may limit your independence by discouraging contact, restricting activities, or controlling access to resources.
example score10/30
10/30Moderateexample score
0 – 9Low
10 – 19Moderate
20 – 30High
A score of 10 falls in the Moderate range, suggesting some noticeable patterns that could reduce your autonomy or social connection at times.
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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

Second-guessing his behavior
41%OF USERS
Women who feel uneasy about jealousy, monitoring, or pressure and want a clearer sense of whether it’s normal concern or controlling patterns.
After a recent blowup
34%OF USERS
People who just had a conflict about friends, money, privacy, or decisions and are trying to understand what the argument might signal.
Noticing growing isolation
25%OF USERS
Partners who have gradually pulled back from family, friends, or activities and want to check if the relationship dynamics are contributing.
BASED ON AGGREGATED, ANONYMIZED DATA FROM TENS OF THOUSANDS OF FREUDLY USERS.
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See How You Compare

Once you complete the test, your results are compared with real-world data from people in your country.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Shaded area — where most people score
Dot — the average
You — your score lands on each curve after the test— your score, after the test
Conflict & CoercionC&C
You?
Average11.4
Typical rangeTypical6.3 – 16.5
Possible0 – 30
Control & MonitoringC&M
You?
Average16.7
Typical rangeTypical12.3 – 21
Possible0 – 30
Isolation & RestrictionI&R
You?
Average9.8
Typical rangeTypical4.6 – 14.9
Possible0 – 30
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS

Example Questions From the Test

    • Strongly disagree
    • Disagree
    • Not sure
    • Agree
    • Strongly disagree
    • Disagree
    • Not sure
    • Agree
    • Strongly disagree
    • Disagree
    • Not sure
    • Agree
These are 3 of the 78 real questions — the rest appear in the test. No sign-up needed to start.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES

Is My Husband Controlling Quiz - Description and methodology of the test

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People who feel pressured to explain their movements, surrender privacy, or manage a partner’s reactions may use the Is My Husband Controlling Quiz to organize what they are noticing. It is intended for adults reflecting on a marriage or intimate partnership. The result highlights patterns involving autonomy, monitoring, isolation, and conflict. As a relationship control assessment, this quiz can turn vague concern into specific areas for reflection and boundary-setting.

What This Assessment Explores

The questionnaire examines repeated behaviors that narrow choice or make disagreement feel unsafe. Items address privacy, friends and family, work or education, money, transport, schedules, digital activity, accusations, punishment, pressure, and threats. These items identify patterns affecting autonomy and decisions.

Results cover three dimensions:

  • Conflict & Coercion (0-30) shows whether disagreements involve respectful problem-solving or jealousy, intimidation, guilt, threats, and forced decisions; bands are Respectful conflict 0-10, Mixed/pressured conflict 11-20, and Coercive conflict 21-30.
  • Control & Monitoring (0-30) measures demands for whereabouts, updates, phone access, or proof of loyalty; bands are Low 0-10, Moderate 11-20, and High 21-30.
  • Isolation & Restriction (0-30) reflects limits on relationships, activities, money, transport, work, or opportunities; bands are Low 0-9, Moderate 10-19, and High 20-30.

The profile clarifies controlling behavior in the relationship.

Methodology and Scientific Basis

Each self-report statement offers Strongly disagree, Disagree, Not sure, or Agree. Items are grouped by theme and combined into dimension scores; higher results indicate more coercive conflict, persistent monitoring, or restrictions on autonomy. The questionnaire does not specify item-level points, so ranges cannot show how responses are weighted.

Its closest conceptual reference is the Coercive Control Measure (Dutton, Goodman, and Schmidt, 2005). The questionnaire is conceptually consistent with that work, not a direct adaptation. Dutton and Goodman (2005) and Tolman (1989) address coercion, psychological maltreatment, pressure, isolation, and intimidation. Digital checks and monitoring also overlap with technology-facilitated abuse examined by Brown and Hegarty (2021).

These bands are the questionnaire’s result categories and should not be treated as validated population norms or clinical thresholds unless documentation specifically supports that claim. Results can be shaped by memory, current circumstances, self-awareness, and willingness to disclose sensitive experiences, so readers should consider the concrete behaviors behind the score rather than treating it as a diagnosis. The profile can help organize concerns and identify relationship control patterns to reflect on when considering boundaries or support.

Literature:
  • Dutton, Mary Ann, Lisa Goodman, and R. James Schmidt. Development and Validation of a Coercive Control Measure for Intimate Partner Violence: Final Technical Report. COSMOS Corporation, prepared for the National Institute of Justice, 2005.
  • Dutton, Mary Ann, and Lisa A. Goodman. "Coercion in Intimate Partner Violence: Toward a New Conceptualization." Sex Roles 52, nos. 11-12 (2005): 743-756. 10.1007/s11199-005-4196-6
  • Tolman, Richard M. "The Development of a Measure of Psychological Maltreatment of Women by Their Male Partners." Violence and Victims 4, no. 3 (1989): 159-177.
  • Brown, Cynthia, and Kelsey Hegarty. "Development and Validation of the TAR Scale: A Measure of Technology-Facilitated Abuse in Relationships." Computers in Human Behavior Reports 3 (2021): 100059. 10.1016/j.chbr.2021.100059

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