Am I Self Sabotaging My Relationship Quiz
In 10 minutes, see whether protective habits may be blocking closeness, trust, or repair in your current or recent relationship. Get three clear scores free with no sign-up, plus a balanced take that keeps safety and context in view.
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Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
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Conflict and Repair (CaR)
Conflict and Repair (CaR)
Average
9.6
Normal range
7.2 — 12.1
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Protective Withdrawal (PW)
Protective Withdrawal (PW)
Average
4
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2.1 — 6
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15
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Reassurance and Testing (RaT)
Reassurance and Testing (RaT)
Average
6.6
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4 — 9.3
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15
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- Assume there may be an ordinary reason and continue with my day.
- Notice my concern and wait until there is more information.
- Send extra messages or search for clues about what they are doing.
- Become cold, post something pointed, or pull away to see whether they chase me.
- Rarely; I usually consider several possible explanations.
- Sometimes, but I can often let the thought pass or ask once.
- Often; I look for more signs or seek repeated confirmation.
- Very often; I react as though rejection is already happening.
- I accept the support and share as much as feels manageable.
- I say I need a little space, then make a point of reconnecting.
- I minimize what happened and quickly change the subject.
- I become suspicious of the attention and push my partner away.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment
Am I Self Sabotaging My Relationship Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
Explore whether protective habits may be getting in the way of closeness, trust, or repair in your current or most recent relationship. This free, no-sign-up quiz reflects on distancing, reassurance-seeking, and conflict patterns across three separate scores. It is not a diagnosis or proof that relationship difficulties are your fault. Stress, incompatibility, and a partner’s behavior also matter. If coercion, threats, or fear are present, prioritize safety and seek support from someone you trust or a qualified professional.
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