Gottman Relationship Quiz

Understand your relationship in 10 minutes with 15 research-informed questions on connection, conflict, and trust. Get clear scores fast, free and no sign-up, for helpful reflection not diagnosis.
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July 22, 2026
July 22, 2026
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How the Scales are Structured

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3/15
Conflict and Repair (CaR)
Measures how effectively you navigate disagreements and use repair attempts to de-escalate, take accountability, and reconnect after conflict.
Repair needs attention
Developing repair capacity
Resilient repair habits
0NaNRepair needs attention6NaNDeveloping repair capacity11NaNResilient repair habits
A score of 3 suggests repair may often break down or go unfinished, so starting with one manageable skill (like a gentler opening or a planned return after a break) may help.
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9/15
Emotional Connection and Friendship (ECaF)
This scale reflects how consistently you and your partner show curiosity, fondness, affection, and responsiveness in everyday interactions.
Connection needs attention
Mixed connection
Strong connection habits
05Connection needs attention610Mixed connection1115Strong connection habits
A score of 9 suggests a meaningful friendship base with moments of connection, though consistency may fluctuate with stress or routine.
example score
8/15
Trust and Shared Meaning (TaSM)
Measures how consistently you experience reliability, teamwork, and a shared sense of purpose in your relationship.
Needs attention
Emerging foundation
Strong foundation
0NaNNeeds attention6NaNEmerging foundation11NaNStrong foundation
A score of 8 suggests an emerging shared foundation, with trust and shared direction present in some areas but not always consistent across situations.
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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

Committed couples checking in
41%OF USERS
Partners in steady relationships take it to gauge emotional connection, trust, and how well they handle conflict over time.
Couples after recent conflict
34%OF USERS
People who have had a rough patch use it to reflect on repair attempts, communication patterns, and what needs attention.
Individuals seeking clarity
25%OF USERS
Someone taking it alone wants a quick snapshot of relationship strengths and concerns before starting a conversation with their partner.
BASED ON AGGREGATED, ANONYMIZED DATA FROM TENS OF THOUSANDS OF FREUDLY USERS.
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Conflict and Repair (CaR)
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11
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8.113.8
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Emotional Connection and Friendship (ECaF)
Average
4.5
Normal range
2.66.5
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Trust and Shared Meaning (TaSM)
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10.7
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8.213.3
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CLEAR ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the purpose of this quiz?
It supports structured reflection on relationship patterns using 15 questions informed by widely discussed research principles. It provides summary scores to guide discussion and self-review.
What areas are scored?
Results include separate scores for emotional connection, conflict and repair, and trust and shared meaning. Scores summarize responses and do not diagnose relationship health.
How long does it take and how many questions are included?
Estimated completion time is about 10 minutes. The quiz includes 15 questions.
Is this a clinical assessment or professional advice?
No; it is a reflective tool and not a clinical assessment. For mental health or relationship concerns, consult a qualified professional.
What should be done if the relationship involves fear, coercion, threats, or violence?
Do not use results to manage immediate risk or safety concerns. Prioritize safety and seek trusted support or specialist services.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment

Gottman Relationship Quiz - Symptoms and Signs

Reflect on your relationship through 15 original questions informed by widely discussed principles from Gottman relationship research. You will receive separate scores for emotional connection, conflict and repair, and trust and shared meaning. This free, independent quiz is not affiliated with or endorsed by the Gottman Institute, and no sign-up is needed. It is a reflective tool, not a clinical assessment. If your relationship involves fear, coercion, threats, or violence, prioritize safety and seek trusted or specialist support.

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