Gottman Relationship Quiz

Example Questions From the Test

• 1Your partner shares a personal dream that seems difficult to achieve. What is your usual response?
  • I listen politely, although the topic may not lead to further conversation or action.
  • I focus first on practical obstacles so expectations remain realistic.
  • I ask what the dream means to them and explore possible support without ignoring constraints.
  • I tend to avoid the subject because I do not want to encourage an unrealistic plan.
• 2How current is your understanding of what is occupying your partner's inner world?
  • I know some current concerns and interests, though important updates sometimes pass me by.
  • I mainly know the broad outlines of their work, relationships, and preferences.
  • I can usually describe their current stresses, hopes, priorities, and sources of enjoyment.
  • I am often uncertain about what has been emotionally important to them lately.
• 3An unexpected opportunity would require a major change in work, location, or family routines. How would you probably navigate it together?
  • We would share hopes and fears, examine the effects on both lives, and shape a joint direction.
  • We would compare the practical trade-offs and look for an acceptable compromise.
  • We would postpone the conversation until a decision became urgent.
  • Each person would develop an individual plan first, then see whether the plans fit.