Am I Settling Quiz
Understand if your relationship meets your core needs and lets you be yourself in about 10 minutes. Get three clear scores for reflection, free and private with no sign-up.
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Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Freedom to Choose (FtC)
Freedom to Choose (FtC)
Average
4.9
Normal range
2.5 — 7.4
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15
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Unmet Essentials (UE)
Unmet Essentials (UE)
Average
4.8
Normal range
2 — 7.5
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15
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Voice and Mutuality (VaM)
Voice and Mutuality (VaM)
Average
7.3
Normal range
4.8 — 9.9
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0
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15
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- We return to both perspectives and work toward a repair that affects future behavior.
- We reconnect, although parts of my concern may remain unresolved.
- The conflict ends mainly when I drop my point or reassure my partner.
- My perspective is routinely dismissed, and I have learned that pursuing repair is not worthwhile.
- I would still see a life I actively want, including its realistic imperfections.
- I could accept it, although I would continue working on a few concerns.
- I feel disappointed, but change seems less daunting than starting over.
- I feel trapped or deeply resigned, yet I expect I would remain because leaving feels harder.
- We examine the difference openly and decide whether a genuine shared path exists.
- We discuss it, although the final direction tends to favor one person's plan.
- I tell myself the difference may disappear so we do not have to confront it yet.
- I expect to abandon a future that matters deeply to me to preserve the relationship.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment
Am I Settling Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
This free 15-question Am I Settling Quiz explores whether your relationship reflects your essential needs, gives you room to be fully yourself, and remains an active choice rather than one driven mainly by fear or pressure. Your three scores offer reflective context, not a verdict about your partner or a diagnosis. No sign-up is needed. If fear, threats, coercion, or physical safety concerns are present, seek support from someone you trust or an appropriate local service.
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