Am I a Stalker Quiz
How the Scales are Structured
Who Usually Takes This Test?
See How You Compare
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Example Questions From the Test
- I stopped, except for communication they explicitly permitted or a necessary formal process.
- I sent one final non-threatening acknowledgment and then stopped.
- I continued trying to explain, apologize, argue, or obtain closure despite the request.
- I refused the boundary and continued contacting them persistently.
- I did not recruit other people to carry messages around a boundary.
- I asked one person to pass along one neutral practical message, then stopped.
- I repeatedly asked others to persuade the person, relay emotional messages, or report their response.
- I pressured, deceived, or threatened others into helping me make contact.
- I did not ask others to investigate or report on them.
- I asked one mutual contact once whether they were doing okay.
- I repeatedly asked friends, relatives, or coworkers where they were or who they were with.
- I used deception, pressure, or someone’s privileged access to obtain private information.
Am I a Stalker Quiz - Description and methodology of the test
People who are questioning whether their contact has crossed another person's boundaries can use this stalking self-assessment to examine monitoring, pursuit, unwanted contact, and coercive responses. The Am I a Stalker Quiz is intended for personal reflection by someone reviewing their own conduct, especially after a request for distance, a blocked channel, or an escalating conflict. It identifies patterns that may require an immediate stop and deliberate change.
What This Assessment Explores
The items in this questionnaire examine conduct involving information gathering, unwanted contact, pursuit, intermediaries, boundary violations, and coercive responses. They ask about behavior after silence, blocking, refusal, or a request for distance, so the result concerns actions rather than a personality label.
As a stalking behavior assessment, it helps a respondent identify which patterns need to stop and where consent or physical distance requires clearer respect.
The result screen organizes the reported behaviors into three scales:
- Monitoring and Information Access (0-15) summarizes personal-information monitoring; bands: No monitoring endorsed (0), Boundary concern (1-2), Action warranted (3-15).
- Physical Pursuit and Coercive Escalation (0-15) summarizes following or coercive encounters; bands: No items endorsed (0), Boundary concern present (1-2), Immediate action warranted (3-15).
- Unwanted Contact and Boundary Response (0-15) summarizes contact after limits; bands: No concerns reported (0), Boundary concern (1-2), Action warranted (3-15).
Methodology and Scientific Basis
Each item presents four ordered response choices, moving from permitted conduct toward repeated, deceptive, threatening, or coercive behavior. The respondent selects the description closest to their actions rather than a simple yes-or-no label.
The questionnaire displays three summaries. It does not state how answer choices are converted into points. These unvalidated scores are reflective summaries or action prompts, not diagnostic, danger, or legal cutoffs. Any concerning response matters independently of the total, and a single red flag should be acted on.
Its closest conceptual reference is Stalking Assessment Indices (McEwan et al., 2021), a behavior-focused framework for organizing stalking-related conduct. This stalking questionnaire is conceptually consistent with that work, not an adaptation of it. SORI-Q offers a relevant comparison for obsessive relational intrusions, while Fox, Nobles, and Fisher (2011) address challenges in defining and interpreting stalking measures.
Self-report results can be shaped by memory, current context, self-awareness, and willingness to disclose accurately; these factors can affect how reported conduct is interpreted. Use the questionnaire to identify concrete boundary-respecting changes, especially when conduct includes threats, pursuit, unauthorized access, or physical interference.
- McEwan, T. E., Simmons, M., Clothier, T., & Senkans, S. (2021). Measuring stalking: the development and evaluation of the Stalking Assessment Indices (SAI). Psychiatry, Psychology and Law, 28(3), 435-461. 10.1080/13218719.2020.1787904
- Gamache, D., Savard, C., Faucher, J., & Cloutier, M.-È. (2021). Development and Validation of the Stalking and Obsessive Relational Intrusions Questionnaire (SORI-Q). Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 37(21-22), NP19420-NP19446. 10.1177/08862605211042808
- Fox, K. A., Nobles, M. R., & Fisher, B. S. (2011). Method behind the madness: An examination of stalking measurements. Aggression and Violent Behavior, 16(1), 74-84. 10.1016/j.avb.2010.12.004