Narcissistic Abuse Quiz
How the Scales are Structured
Who Usually Takes This Test?
See How You Compare
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Example Questions From the Test
- My outside relationships are generally treated as my choice.
- They sometimes express jealousy or seek extra reassurance but do not interfere.
- They repeatedly guilt me, monitor visits, create conflicts, or discourage supportive relationships.
- They use threats, confinement, exploitation, or serious retaliation to cut me off from support.
- I have not experienced unwanted sexual touching from this person.
- They tested a touching boundary once but stopped immediately when corrected.
- They repeated unwanted touching or treated my resistance as negotiable.
- They forced sexual contact, restrained me, injured me, or continued when I could not consent.
- Different memories can be discussed without attacking my grasp of reality.
- They sometimes dismiss my account but later allow a more balanced conversation.
- They repeatedly deny documented events, rewrite conversations, or insist that my perceptions cannot be trusted.
- They deliberately fabricate evidence, exploit a vulnerability, or threaten consequences to make me doubt or retract what happened.
Narcissistic Abuse Quiz - Description and methodology of the test
People who feel confused, controlled, isolated, or unsafe in a close relationship can use this relationship abuse questionnaire to organize experiences that may otherwise be difficult to name. The narcissistic abuse quiz is intended for personal reflection about a close relationship. Its result highlights which listed areas of control, safety, care, and autonomy deserve attention.
What This Assessment Explores
Items cover control or degradation, support interference, unmet care, intimidation or force, and sexual or reproductive pressure. This relationship safety questionnaire has three scales covering control/support concerns, physical-safety events, and sexual-boundary or autonomy concerns. Endorsement need not mean deliberate harm; unmet care may reflect poverty, crisis, disability, or unavailable care; zero means none selected.
The displayed result separates three areas:
- Emotional Control, Isolation, and Care (0-15) shows whether listed control, isolation, or care concerns were endorsed; bands: No listed item endorsed (0), Concern to notice (1-2), Support or action indicated (3-15).
- Physical Force and Immediate Safety (0-15) shows whether intimidation or unsafe physical events were endorsed; bands: No items endorsed (0), Concern to notice (1-2), Support or action indicated (3-15).
- Sexual Boundaries and Autonomy (0-15) shows whether sexual pressure or interference with choice was endorsed; bands: None endorsed (0), Concern to notice (1-2), Support/action indicated (3-15).
Methodology and Evidence Base
Each prompt offers four ordered response choices, moving from respectful handling through occasional concern, repeated coercion, and severe or dangerous conduct. The questionnaire does not specify how each response is converted into points, so the displayed ranges alone cannot establish an answer-to-point rule.
For interpretation, the narcissistic abuse test groups responses by domain. Interpret each score as the pattern of experiences endorsed in that domain. Its themes are conceptually consistent with CASR-SF (Ford-Gilboe et al., 2016), a published measure of intimate-partner-violence experiences, but this questionnaire is not an adaptation of it. Dutton and Goodman (2005) frame coercion as pressure that restricts choice, while Hamberger et al. (2017) describe coercive control as an ongoing pattern of domination.
Because the bands are unvalidated and self-report can be shaped by memory, current circumstances, safety, and willingness to disclose, the result is an online self-reflection measure rather than a standardized clinical scale; a concerning response matters independently of the total, and a single red flag should not be cancelled out by a low score, while a low total cannot establish that a relationship is harmless.
- Ford-Gilboe, M., Wathen, C. N., Varcoe, C., MacMillan, H. L., Scott-Storey, K., Mantler, T., Hegarty, K., & Perrin, N. (2016). Development of a brief measure of intimate partner violence experiences: the Composite Abuse Scale (Revised)-Short Form (CASR-SF). BMJ Open, 6(12), e012824. 10.1136/bmjopen-2016-012824
- Dutton, M. A., & Goodman, L. A. (2005). Coercion in intimate partner violence: Toward a new conceptualization. Sex Roles, 52(11-12), 743-756. 10.1007/s11199-005-4196-6
- Hamberger, L. K., Larsen, S. E., & Lehrner, A. (2017). Coercive control in intimate partner violence. Aggression and Violent Behavior, 37, 1-11. 10.1016/j.avb.2017.08.003
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