Four Horsemen Relationship Quiz
See how criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and shutdown show up in your relationship in about 10 minutes. Free and no sign-up, it scores each pattern so you can talk it through together.
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Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
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Contempt (C)
Contempt (C)
Average
4.7
Normal range
2.7 — 6.8
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12
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Criticism (C)
Criticism (C)
Average
5.5
Normal range
3.3 — 7.7
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12
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Defensiveness (D)
Defensiveness (D)
Average
5.1
Normal range
3.4 — 6.9
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12
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Stonewalling (S)
Stonewalling (S)
Average
8.7
Normal range
7 — 10.5
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12
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Once you complete the test, your result will appear on the scale so you can see how you compare.
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- Say I need a short break, agree on a return time, and come back to the topic
- Ask for space but leave the return time somewhat open
- Go quiet and offer only brief answers until the conversation stops
- Withdraw completely and avoid revisiting the issue for as long as possible
- To the specific part of the agreement that is not working
- To whether this reflects a somewhat broader habit
- To what the repeated issue says about my partner’s priorities
- To the character flaw that I believe explains the whole pattern
- I describe the disagreement while preserving their dignity
- I add a mildly unflattering detail to convey my frustration
- I imitate or joke about them so others understand how unreasonable they seemed
- I present them as beneath me in judgment, maturity, or competence
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment
Four Horsemen Relationship Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
Explore how criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling may appear in your relationship interactions. This free, no-sign-up quiz scores each pattern separately; your highest score shows the strongest current affinity, while scores within one point suggest a blended result. Use it as a reflective conversation aid, not a diagnosis, clinical measure, or verdict about either partner. If conflict involves fear, threats, coercion, physical harm, or concerns about immediate safety, contact a trusted support person or appropriate local service.
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