Am I the Problem Quiz
Learn how your habits may fuel recurring tension in about 10 minutes. Get a quick, free snapshot of accountability, conflict communication, and boundaries to spot clear next steps.
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Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Accountability and Perspective (AaP)
Accountability and Perspective (AaP)
Average
11
Normal range
9.1 — 13
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15
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Boundaries and Reciprocity (BaR)
Boundaries and Reciprocity (BaR)
Average
9.7
Normal range
7 — 12.4
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0
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15
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Communication Under Tension (CUT)
Communication Under Tension (CUT)
Average
8.9
Normal range
6.7 — 11.2
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0
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15
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- I identify a specific thing I did and also consider what the other person contributed.
- I reconstruct the sequence of events before deciding what each person contributed.
- I focus on the circumstances that explain why I reacted as I did.
- I mainly focus on what the other person did that set the conflict in motion.
- I wait for the other person to reopen the subject because I have already said my part.
- I reconnect after a little time and act normally unless the issue comes up again.
- I follow up when calmer, acknowledge the tension, and propose a specific next step.
- I remain distant until the other person shows that they understand my impact.
- I describe the imbalance with concrete examples and ask how they see it.
- I reduce my investment somewhat and observe whether the pattern changes.
- I continue helping but keep track of whether they eventually return the effort.
- I pull back without explaining to see whether they notice and pursue me.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment
Am I the Problem Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
Wondering whether your own habits contribute to repeated tension? This free, no-sign-up quiz explores how you handle accountability, communicate during conflict, and navigate boundaries and give-and-take. It offers a reflective snapshot—not a diagnosis, verdict, or determination of who is at fault. Other people’s choices and the wider context matter too. If a relationship involves fear, threats, coercion, or violence, prioritize safety and seek support from a trusted person, qualified professional, or local emergency service.
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