Am I Asking for Too Much in My Relationship Quiz
Understand whether your relationship needs feel reasonable, mismatched, or overly pressured in 10 minutes. Free and no signup, it gives three reflective scores on time, reassurance, independence, and reciprocity.
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Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Flexibility & Reciprocity Strain (F&RS)
Flexibility & Reciprocity Strain (F&RS)
Average
10.9
Normal range
8.8 — 13
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15
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Reassurance & Access Pressure (R&AP)
Reassurance & Access Pressure (R&AP)
Average
4.7
Normal range
2.4 — 6.9
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0
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15
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Time & Availability Pressure (T&AP)
Time & Availability Pressure (T&AP)
Average
6.7
Normal range
3.9 — 9.4
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0
max.
15
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Once you complete the test, your result will appear on the scale so you can see how you compare.
Once you complete the test, your result will appear on the scale so you can see how you compare.
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- One sincere confirmation would usually be enough until we revisit the issue.
- I would want repeated reassurance until their warmth toward me felt fully restored.
- I would ask them to check in once later so I know the distance is temporary.
- I would seek reassurance a few more times while we were apart.
- They should attend because being a supportive partner sometimes means overriding personal preference.
- We should consider the event’s importance, possible limits, and whether I could attend with someone else.
- I would want them to come for part of it, even if they left early.
- They should attend the whole event because shared participation is how I judge relationship support.
- Regular updates about where they are and what the group is doing.
- An arrival or home-safe message would be reassuring.
- No updates unless the plan changes in a way that affects me.
- A few messages during the evening so I continue to feel included.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment
Am I Asking for Too Much in My Relationship Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
Are your requests reasonable needs, signs of a mismatch, or expectations that may be putting pressure on the relationship? This free, quick, no-sign-up quiz explores how you approach time together, reassurance, independence, compromise, and reciprocity. It offers three reflective scores rather than a verdict about who is right. Relationship context matters: a partner’s inability or unwillingness to meet a need does not automatically make that need excessive, and asking for respect or clearly agreed boundaries is not asking too much.
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