Is It Love or Obsession Quiz

Understand whether your feelings reflect healthy love or fixation in about 10 minutes. Free, private, 15 questions that offer clear takeaways and encourage safer boundaries if things feel unsafe.
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July 22, 2026
July 22, 2026
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How the Scales are Structured

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8/15
Boundary and Autonomy Strain (BaAS)
Measures how much closeness is accompanied by pressure on privacy, independent time, personal interests, and respect for stated limits.
Room for two lives
Autonomy tension
Boundary strain
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A score of 8 suggests occasional autonomy tension, where insecurity may sometimes lead to extra reassurance-seeking, checking, or reduced independence.
example score
8/15
Fixation and Emotional Dependence (FaED)
Measures how much thoughts about a specific person dominate attention and influence emotional stability.
Steady attention
Strong pull
Fixation-heavy pattern
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A score of 8 suggests a strong pull, where contact and uncertainty noticeably affect your mood and focus at times.
example score
10/15
Mutual Care and Reality (MCaR)
Measures how much the connection reflects mutual understanding, responsive care, and realistic compatibility rather than idealization alone.
Intensity-led
Emerging mutuality
Grounded care
05Intensity-led610Emerging mutuality1115Grounded care
A score of 10 suggests emerging mutuality—genuine care and reciprocity are present, with some room to deepen shared knowledge of needs and long-term fit.
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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

Anxious in early dating
41%OF USERS
People in a new or on-and-off connection who feel intense highs and lows and want to know if their feelings are mutual or becoming fixation.
Stuck on an ex
34%OF USERS
People who can’t stop thinking about a past partner and are checking whether lingering attachment is normal grief or obsessive rumination.
Uneasy about boundaries
25%OF USERS
People noticing jealousy, monitoring, or fear of losing control in a relationship and looking for clarity on healthy limits.
BASED ON AGGREGATED, ANONYMIZED DATA FROM TENS OF THOUSANDS OF FREUDLY USERS.
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Once you complete the test, your results are compared with real-world data from people in your country.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Boundary and Autonomy Strain (BaAS)
Average
4
Normal range
1.96
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Fixation and Emotional Dependence (FaED)
Average
8.7
Normal range
6.211.2
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15
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Mutual Care and Reality (MCaR)
Average
6.2
Normal range
4.38.1
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15
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CLEAR ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

Frequently Asked Questions

What does this quiz measure?
It screens for patterns that may reflect grounded, mutual affection versus fixation, idealization, and boundary strain. Results are prompts for reflection, not proof of love or a diagnosis.
How long does it take and how many items are included?
Estimated completion time is about 10 minutes. The quiz includes 15 questions.
How should items be answered?
Answer based on current behavior and feelings, not isolated events. Select the option that best matches typical patterns in the relationship.
How should results be interpreted?
Scores are unvalidated and may not reflect clinical thresholds. Consider the full context, including reciprocity, respect for boundaries, and day-to-day functioning.
What if the relationship involves threats, coercion, stalking, or ignored boundaries?
Treat safety concerns as urgent regardless of the score. Seek support from a trusted person or a relevant local service.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment

Is It Love or Obsession Quiz - Symptoms and Signs

Strong feelings can combine genuine care, idealization, longing, and fear of losing the connection. This free, no-sign-up quiz explores whether your current pattern leans more toward grounded, mutual affection or fixation and boundary strain. It cannot prove that you are in love or diagnose obsession; its scores are unvalidated prompts for reflection. If the relationship involves fear, threats, coercion, stalking, unwanted monitoring, or ignored boundaries, prioritize safety and contact a trusted person or relevant local support service, regardless of your results.

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