Red Flag Quiz

People considering whether patterns in a relationship feel respectful, confusing, or controlling can use this red flag quiz to organize their observations. It is intended for people reflecting on a current or past close relationship, using this relationship self-assessment to notice recurring dynamics across conflict, boundaries, and communication rather than judge a single disagreement. The result can help readers identify patterns that may deserve attention, discussion, or firmer boundaries.

What This Assessment Explores

The questions examine how partners handle limits, conflict, trust, accountability, consent, and control. Examples include escalation, guilt-tripping, pressure for access, isolation, double standards, and disregard for feedback. The questionnaire helps readers notice relationship red flags.

The three result scales describe different aspects of relationship functioning:

• Boundary Respect (0-20) reflects how privacy, time, friendships, money, and physical or sexual limits are honored: Boundary strain 0-7, Mixed respect 8-14, Strong respect 15-20.
• Communication Health (0-20) reflects openness, listening, accountability, and repair after conflict: Strained 0-9, Mixed 10-15, Healthy 16-20.
• Red Flag Severity (0-40) reflects the frequency and intensity of controlling, jealous, dishonest, intimidating, or boundary-violating behavior: Low concern 0-13, Moderate concern 14-26, High concern 27-40.

Together, these results provide a profile of boundary respect, communication health, and the frequency and intensity of warning signs across the situations covered by the questionnaire.

Methodology and Scientific Basis

Shown items use two four-option formats: agreement choices from Strongly disagree to Agree, and frequency choices from Never true to Almost always true. Items are grouped into dimensions, and higher or lower results follow each scale’s meaning; because equal response contributions are not stated, ranges should not be reverse-engineered into a point rule.

Conceptually, it is consistent with the Composite Abuse Scale, which treats partner abuse as multidimensional. Its focus on psychological control and maltreatment also aligns with Tolman’s Psychological Maltreatment of Women Inventory and later reliability and validity work by Hegarty, Bush, and Sheehan. This does not show that the online questionnaire adapts or revalidates either instrument.

The questionnaire has no stated norms or independent standardization; displayed bands are descriptive.

Interpreting the relationship profile works best when scores are linked to recurring situations. Answers depend on memory, self-awareness, current context, and willingness to disclose, so the result may miss hidden behavior or the other partner’s perspective. It is a self-report tool rather than a diagnostic instrument; consider boundaries, support needs, and next steps with the pattern.