Am I High Maintenance Quiz
Learn how your needs and expectations may affect relationships in about 10 minutes. 15 quick items offer a free, no sign up self check with clear insights you can use right away.
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Adaptability and Shared Responsibility (AaSR)
Adaptability and Shared Responsibility (AaSR)
Average
4.5
Normal range
2.2 — 6.7
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15
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Reassurance and Boundary Pressure (RaBP)
Reassurance and Boundary Pressure (RaBP)
Average
7
Normal range
4.8 — 9.2
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0
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15
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Standards and Respect for Others (SaRfO)
Standards and Respect for Others (SaRfO)
Average
7
Normal range
4.5 — 9.6
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0
max.
15
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- I appreciate the effort and discuss one important preference for a future celebration.
- I explain that I feel disappointed without expecting anyone to repair the whole occasion.
- I withdraw or repeatedly highlight what was missed so others understand my disappointment.
- I use anger, humiliation, or guilt to make others redo the celebration or prove they care.
- I respect their limit and ask when they might be available or contact someone else.
- I ask whether they can offer a brief check-in before taking the space they need.
- I continue seeking reassurance because my need feels more urgent than their limit.
- I use guilt, threats, or intimidation to keep them engaged after they have asked to stop.
- I assume they may be occupied and wait for them to respond.
- I send one follow-up if I need an answer, then give them time.
- I make several attempts because the silence is difficult for me to tolerate.
- I accuse, threaten, or punish them for not making themselves available.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment
Am I High Maintenance Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
Wondering whether your needs or expectations may be straining your relationships? This free, no-sign-up self-check looks beyond the “high maintenance” label to explore how you pursue preferences, seek reassurance, and respond when others cannot accommodate you. It is an unvalidated reflective tool, not a diagnosis or a clinical, legal, or moral judgment. If your behavior has involved threats, intimidation, blocked movement, or fear, pause the interaction and seek appropriate support; contact local emergency services if anyone is in immediate danger.
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