Am I Unlovable Quiz
Understand why you may feel unlovable in about 10 minutes. Get clear insights into self-worth, rejection fears, and withdrawal with supportive results, not a diagnosis.
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Once you complete the test, your results are compared with real-world data from people in your country.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Conditional Self-Worth (CS)
Conditional Self-Worth (CS)
Average
4.5
Normal range
2.3 — 6.6
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Protective Withdrawal (PW)
Protective Withdrawal (PW)
Average
8.8
Normal range
6.1 — 11.4
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15
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Rejection Expectancy (RE)
Rejection Expectancy (RE)
Average
7.5
Normal range
4.7 — 10.3
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15
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- I consider both their need and my capacity, knowing a boundary does not erase my care.
- I probably help, though I may feel slightly guilty if I limit what I can do.
- I push myself to help because disappointing them could change how they see me.
- I feel I must be useful, even at my own expense, to remain worth keeping around.
- They may be busy or unsure how to respond, so I wait for more information.
- I wonder if something is wrong, but I can hold several possible explanations.
- I assume I probably annoyed them and review what I sent.
- I take the silence as a sign that they no longer want contact with me.
- I can ask an appropriate person directly, even if it feels vulnerable.
- I hint at what I need before deciding whether to ask clearly.
- I usually keep it to myself because asking could make me feel burdensome.
- I hide the need and pull away so nobody has the chance to dismiss it.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment
Am I Unlovable Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
Feeling unlovable is painful, but it is not proof that you are undeserving of care. This free, no-sign-up quiz explores three patterns that can shape that feeling: conditional self-worth, expecting rejection, and protective withdrawal. Answer based on your recent, typical experience rather than your hardest day. The results are reflective summaries, not a diagnosis or a verdict on your value. If these feelings persist or disrupt daily life, consider talking with someone you trust or a mental health professional. Seek urgent local support if you may harm yourself or cannot stay safe.
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