42 QUESTIONS · 6 ROLES · ONE NUMBER

How Kinky Are You? Quiz

Vanilla, a little wild, or very kinky? Find out in five minutes and uncover the roles that really turn you on.

One honest number from 0 to 100 and the mix behind it: dominant, submissive, switch, brat, caregiver, primal. Many people turn out to be two or three at once!

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Brat

Strong

Kink range

22/30

Your kink profile

Example result

Kink level

/100

Very kinky

Vanilla with a twist

Kink-curious

Very kinky

Your top roles

Brat

26/30

Submissive

24/30

Primal

21/30

Switch

18/30

Caregiver

14/30

Dominant

11/30

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YOU’RE NOT THE ONLY ONE

That thing you keep thinking about? Lots of other people are thinking about it too.

7 in 10

adults have tried BDSM or fantasized about it

27,000+

people have already found their kink level

5 min

42 short statements, answered on instinct

6 + 1

six roles, plus your kink range, each scored independently

Holvoet et al., 2017, J Sex Med (N = 1,027): 46.8% have tried BDSM, 22% more fantasize about it

THE KINK METER

So, how kinky are you? You’re somewhere on this scale.

Your answers add up to a single number from 0 to 100. It will show how far past vanilla your sex life wants to go, and which of three bands you land in.

Example: 74/100

100

Vanilla with a twist

0⁠–42

You like it warm and familiar, plus one or two ideas you’ve never said out loud. Yet.

Kink-curious

43⁠–69

The fantasies are piling up and a few are ready to leave your head. You just want to find out where to start.

Very kinky

70⁠–100

Power games, wild nights, and a long list of “let’s try that.” Vanilla was never really the plan.

SOUND FAMILIAR?

Which of these makes you think “okay, that’s me”?

Six roles, six little scenarios. Find the one that makes you smile a bit too fast. This kink test scores every role separately, so you can be more than one.

Dominant · in charge

You decide when it starts

You set the pace, give the instructions, and enjoy watching someone wait for your word.

“He’s not moving until I say so.”

Submissive · letting go

You’d rather not decide tonight

Someone else takes the wheel and your only job is to feel it. Handing over control is the whole thrill.

“Can’t see a thing. Not complaining.”

Switch · both sides

Lead, follow, take it back

One night you call the shots, the next you hand them over. Sometimes you swap halfway through.

“Nice dip. Now it’s my turn to lead.”

Brat · playful trouble

You break the rules on purpose

Teasing, talking back, a little sass, all to see what they’ll do about it. Getting tamed is the prize.

“You want the remote? Come and get it.”

Caregiver · tender side

The best part comes after

Praise, a gentle hand, and the blanket afterward. Looking after someone at their most open is your kink.

“Tea, blanket, me. In that order.”

Primal · wild side

Polite is overrated

Pinned wrists and play-fighting until you’re both out of breath from laughing. You want it more animal than tidy.

“The pillow fight’s over. I won.”

Spotted yourself in more than one of these scenes?

You’re meant to! The quiz shows your whole mix, so a brat with a soft side gets to be both.

TRY A FEW QUESTIONS

Three real questions. Go with your gut.

There are no trick questions and no right answers. Just tell us how much each line sounds like you, from Not me at all to Totally me.

Pick an answer to see what it says

Brat · power play

From the test

A playful power struggle turns me on more than easy obedience.

You don’t want obedience handed to you. You want to win it, or lose it, properly. That points to a strong brat streak, often paired with a submissive side.

Easy obedience suits you better than a fight. That keeps the brat scale low and usually points to a calmer submissive side, or to you taking the lead.

Somewhere in between: a little resistance is fun, but winning the struggle isn’t the point. The other brat questions show how much weight that side carries.

Submissive · instructions

From the test

Being told what to do in bed turns me on.

Instructions do something for you. Your other answers show whether you’d rather obey quietly or make them work for it.

Taking orders doesn’t do much for you. Your answers will likely lean toward leading, switching, or a primal side instead.

Instructions can work for you, depending on the mood and the person. The rest of the submissive questions show how strong that pull is.

Primal · rough or gentle

From the test

I prefer slow, gentle sex to anything rough.

This one is reversed, so saying it’s not you counts toward primal. A third of the questions work in this way, so rushing through won’t skew your score.

Gentle or rough depends on the night. This middle answer adds a little to primal and keeps your kink range wide.

Slow and tender is your thing. The question is reversed, so this keeps primal low, and your caregiver answers show where that warmth goes.

These are 3 of the 42 real questions. The rest take about five minutes.

HOW IT WORKS

Five minutes from curious to your number

In bed, I like being the one who decides what happens next.

Not me at all

Totally me

STEP 1

Answer on instinct

Rate 42 short statements by what turns you on, not only by what you’ve tried. First thought wins.

Your kink level

74/100

Very kinky

70⁠–100

STEP 2

Get your number

Your kink level from 0 to 100 and your band: Vanilla with a twist, Kink-curious, or Very kinky.

YOUR LEADING PAIR

Brat + Submissive

FITS YOU LEAST

Dominant · 11/30

STEP 3

See your mix

Your three strongest roles, the one that fits you least, and how broad your kink range is.

YOUR MIX

Your kinks don’t fit one label

Brat or submissive, dom or caregiver: most people are a bit of both. Your top two or three roles together say more about what you want than any single label, and that’s what the full profile explains.

Brat

Submissive

The brat who wants to lose

You want to give in, just not easily. The push-back is foreplay, and being won over is the point.

Dominant

Caregiver

Firm, then tender

You take charge, then take care. The rules are yours, and so is the blanket afterward.

Dominant

Submissive

The one who reads the room

Both sides run strong, so it depends on the night and the person. You can match almost any partner.

Primal

Brat

Catch me if you can

Sass first, then a wrestle. You want someone who’ll chase you, catch you, and laugh while doing it.

In a 2017 study of 1,027 adults, interest in dominant and submissive activities was about equal and closely linked, so wanting both is common.

WHO CLICKS WITH YOU

What kind of partner brings out your kinky side?

Every role has a natural counterpart. Here’s who tends to pair best with whom, and why it works.

You

Them

Dominant

Submissive

Switch

Brat

Caregiver

Primal

Natural match

More pairs in your full profile

Natural match

Dominant + Submissive

One wants to call the shots, the other wants them called. Simple and very hot.

Natural match

Brat + Dominant

A brat needs a dom who enjoys the taming and never blinks first.

Natural match

Caregiver + Submissive

Letting go is easier with someone who praises you first and holds you after.

Natural match

Primal + Primal

Two wild sides on equal footing. Regardless of who wins the wrestle, you both win.

Chapter 13 of your full profile names the partner role that fits yours best.

YOUR FULL PROFILE

Everything your answers tell you, in 16 chapters

The quick result gives you the number and your top roles. The full profile explains them: why you have this mix, what to try next, and how to bring it up with a partner.

What your kink level says about you, and how it compares

All six roles, from your strongest to the one that fits least

The kinks you’re most likely to enjoy trying next

What to tell a partner about your turn-ons

At the end you get a single-sentence summary of your kink profile: short enough to send someone tonight.

Kink profile · 74/100

Brat

26/30

Submissive

24/30

Primal

21/30

Switch

18/30

Caregiver

14/30

Dominant

11/30

Brat

Strong · 26/30

Submissive

Strong · 24/30

Primal

Medium · 21/30

Switch

Medium · 18/30

Caregiver

Light · 14/30

Dominant

Light · 11/30

What this means

Your 74 puts you in Very kinky territory. Brat and Submissive lead together: you want to hand over control, but only to someone who earns it. Dominant comes last, so leading isn’t where your fun is.

YOUR REPORT ALSO COVERS

How your kink level compares with other people

Are you a true switch?

Kinks you’ll likely enjoy trying next

The partner role that fits yours best

How your roles combine into one style

Your kink profile in one sentence

Example profile. Yours comes from your own 42 answers.

FREUDLY AI

Talk it through with someone who’s read your answers

Freudly AI knows your kink profile. Ask what a role means for you, find words for a fantasy, or rehearse how to bring it up with a partner. No blushing, no judgment.

Put it into words

Turn a vague, hot idea into a sentence you could actually say out loud.

Pick your first kink

Get a starting point that fits your profile, not a random listicle.

Bring it up

Find the right moment and the right words for your partner.

Make sense of a surprise

Ask why a role scored higher than you expected.

Freudly AI

Has read your kink profile

It says I’m submissive. I run a team of twelve and I’m the bossy one at home, too. How?

Look at what you picked: Totally me for a playful power struggle, Mostly me for being told what to do, and Dominant came last. You don’t want to give in easily. You want someone to make you.

That reads less like “I want to obey” and more like “I make every call all day. At night I want someone who can out-decide me, and I’ll test them first.”

When you picture handing over control, where does the thrill start: when they take it, or when you finally stop fighting it?

So maybe the question isn’t “why submissive?” but “what does someone have to do to earn my yes?” Your answer to that is your type.

Honestly? They’d have to win the argument first. Is that a brat thing?

TAKE IT TOGETHER

Curious, still deciding, or already playing?

Take the quiz on your own first, then hand over your phone. The easiest way to get into a talk you’ve both been circling is to compare your two profiles side by side.

Kink-curious

You’ve got a few fantasies and no idea yet how kinky they really are.

Finding your role

Dom, sub, switch, or brat? You want an actual answer.

Already playing

You know your kinks and want the full picture in numbers.

Take it separately, then compare together

Answer on your own so nobody plays to the crowd. Then compare and talk about where your roles fit together.

REAL RESULTS

What people said after seeing their number

Rated 4.8 / 5 by 243,000+ Freudly users

58/100 · Kink-curious

I started out expecting a silly online quiz. Then the questions got specific and a bit too accurate. My result: kink-curious, with a caregiver streak I can’t argue with.

Hannah W. · 29, Manchester

Took the test

66/100 · Kink-curious

We took it on the sofa, separately, then swapped phones. She came out a strong dom, me a strong sub. Neither of us had ever said it out loud. We have now.

Tom R. · 31, Toronto, with his partner

Took the test

39/100 · Vanilla with a twist

I’ve never really tried anything, so I nearly skipped it. It’s about what turns you on, even if you’ve never tried it. Turns out my twist is primal. Noted.

Megan L. · 24, Brisbane, no experience

Took the test

77/100 · Very kinky

I was sure I’d come out dominant. I got Switch, almost dead even on both sides. Annoyingly, that explains every relationship I’ve ever been in.

Chris D. · 35, Austin

Took the test

73/100 · Very kinky

Brat and submissive, both strong. Spot on. One star off because I wanted the partner chapter in the quick result, but I opened the trial and read the whole thing in one go.

Olivia S. · 27, London

Took the test

45/100 · Kink-curious

We’ve been married for eight years and we still learned something new. The what-to-try-next chapter gave us a very good Friday.

Jake M. · 33, Sydney, married

Took the test

FULL ACCESS

Read your whole profile, then talk it through

Your quick result is yours either way. The trial opens your 16-chapter profile and Freudly AI, so you can go from your number to what to do with it.

What’s included

Your full kink profile, all 16 chapters

All six roles and your kink range, explained

The partner role that fits yours best

What to try next and how to bring it up

Freudly AI that already knows your profile

Your answers are never shown to anyone

Freudly

3-day trial

Free

Freudly AI and the mood journal

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5 minutes

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Your answers stay private

FAQ

What people ask before they start

What does the How Kinky Are You quiz show?

It shows your kink level from 0 to 100 and the band you fall into, your three strongest roles, the one that fits you least, and your kink range. The six roles are dominant, submissive, switch, brat, caregiver, and primal.

How long does it take?

About five minutes. There are 42 short statements, and your first reaction is the one to go with.

What counts as kinky here?

Anything past vanilla: power games, role play, teasing, bondage, blindfolds, toys, spanking, rough play, and the tender part afterward. Each one feeds a different scale, so your number reflects the whole picture.

I’ve never tried any of this stuff. Is the quiz still for me?

Yes. The questions ask what turns you on, not what you’ve done, and a fantasy you’ve never acted on counts just as much. Plenty of people take the quiz to work out where to start.

What’s the difference between a brat and a submissive?

A submissive enjoys letting go and following the lead. A brat enjoys teasing, talking back, and breaking the rules so someone has to tame them. Lots of people score high on both, and that combination gets its own reading.

Can I be both dominant and submissive?

Absolutely. The switch scale measures exactly that, and each side is also scored on its own, so you’ll see whether you’re evenly split or lean one way.

Is it private?

Yes. You can take it without signing up, and your answers aren’t shown to anyone. Your result only goes where you choose to send it.

What’s the most common result?

It’s a mix rather than one pure role. Each role is scored on its own, and it’s common to get two or three strong ones side by side. With almost 7 in 10 adults having tried BDSM or fantasized about it, landing above vanilla is anything but unusual.

UNDER THE HOOD

What’s behind your number

Unlike quick ten-question BDSM tests, this one uses seven scales and 42 statements, a third of them reverse-scored, to build a score you can rely on.

Roles taken from research

The six roles follow how dominant, submissive, switch, and other styles show up in published studies, not internet folklore.

Reversed questions catch autopilot answers

14 of the 42 statements are worded the other way around, so rushing through or agreeing with everything won’t push your score up.

One number from every answer

Your kink level adds up all 42 answers and maps them from 0 to 100. On top of that, each role gets its own score from 6 to 30.

Reviewed by Daniel Hall, psychologist

How your number is built

statements, each rated from 1 to 5

scales: six roles plus your kink range

reverse-scored, so answering on autopilot won’t work

0⁠–100

your kink level

Research behind it

Holvoet et al. (2017). Fifty Shades of Belgian Gray. J Sex Med

Wismeijer & van Assen (2013). Psychological characteristics of BDSM practitioners

Hebert & Weaver (2015). Perks, problems, and the people who play. Can J Hum Sex

Updated: 2026-10-08

How Kinky Are You? Quiz — Description and methodology

Curious where your fantasies sit on the kink scale: mild, wild, or somewhere in between? The How Kinky Are You Quiz turns that curiosity into a number. It looks at what you enjoy in sex and play, from taking charge to letting go and from tender aftercare to rough, breathless nights, and shows how far beyond vanilla your tastes really go.

What the kink test measures

The headline result is your kink level from 0 to 100, built from seven separate scales. Six of them are classic BDSM roles. A dominant enjoys calling the shots and setting the rules. A submissive enjoys letting go and following orders. A switch wants both sides and the swap between them. A brat teases and pushes back so that someone has to tame them. A caregiver loves praise, gentle guidance, and holding a partner close afterward. A primal player wants sex that feels wild and physical. The seventh scale, kink range, counts how many different kinks appeal to you: bondage, role play, toys, blindfolds, spanking, and the urge to try something new. Every role gets its own score, so a dominant with a soft caregiving streak shows up just like that.

How the BDSM test works and what you get

There are 42 short statements, and most people finish in about five minutes. For each one you choose how much it sounds like you, from Not me at all to Totally me. A third of the statements are worded the other way around, such as a preference for slow, gentle sex, which keeps the scores accurate when you answer quickly. Answer based on what turns you on; don’t simply report what you’ve already tried. Your result includes:

your kink level from 0 to 100, labeled from vanilla with a twist to very kinky;
your three strongest BDSM roles and the one that suits you least;
your kink range, from a couple of favorites to fantasies that go everywhere;
a comparison with other people who took the quiz.

Many people who take this BDSM test are surprised by their mix. A result can show a strong submissive side next to a playful brat streak, or a dominant who scores high on care. That combination is your kink profile, and it says far more than any single label.

Comments

How Kinky Are You? Quiz

That thing you keep thinking about? Lots of other people are thinking about it too.

So, how kinky are you? You’re somewhere on this scale.

Which of these makes you think “okay, that’s me”?

Three real questions. Go with your gut.

Five minutes from curious to your number

Your kinks don’t fit one label

What kind of partner brings out your kinky side?

Everything your answers tell you, in 16 chapters

Talk it through with someone who’s read your answers

Curious, still deciding, or already playing?

What people said after seeing their number

Read your whole profile, then talk it through

What people ask before they start

What’s behind your number

Your number is waiting. Go on, you’re curious!

How Kinky Are You? Quiz — Description and methodology

What the kink test measures

How the BDSM test works and what you get