Most relationship patterns that repeat, from waiting by the phone to going silent in an argument, trace back to how you learned to handle closeness. This attachment style quiz turns those patterns into two clear scores and a profile you can recognise in your own dating life, conflicts and friendships, using 36 short statements written for singles and couples alike.
What the test measures
The questionnaire follows the two-dimensional model that modern attachment research uses for adults. The first dimension, attachment anxiety, combines three facets: fear of abandonment, need for reassurance, and protest behaviour such as testing a partner or jealousy. The second, attachment avoidance, also combines three: discomfort with closeness, compulsive self-reliance, and deactivation, the tendency to shut down or switch feelings off under stress. Each facet is measured by six statements, and some are worded in the opposite direction to catch automatic answering. Crossing the two dimensions gives four attachment styles: secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant and fearful-avoidant, sometimes called disorganised. Because the scores are continuous, the result also shows how close you are to the border between two styles.
How it works and how to read your result
You rate 36 statements on a seven-point scale from strongly disagree to strongly agree, thinking of close relationships in general rather than one person. It takes about eight minutes. The scores are then turned into a map and a set of practical readings:
- two scores, attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance, each shown as low, moderate or high;
- your position on the four-style map and how firmly you sit inside your quadrant;
- the two facets that stand out most, for example reassurance-seeking or withdrawal in conflict;
- how your style typically plays out in dating, in arguments and in trust.
Read the two dimensions together rather than one at a time. High anxiety with low avoidance usually means you move towards people when you feel unsure, while high avoidance means you move away; a high score on both explains the push-pull many people describe. Styles are patterns rather than fixed traits, and secure habits can be learned.