6 LOVE STYLES · YOUR MIX

Love Styles Test

How do you love — and why do you keep falling for the same kind of person?

See what pulls you in, what makes distance feel dangerous, why you give more than you get and which relationship pattern you keep repeating⁠—even if you’re single now.

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Friendship into love

Often

Early chemistry

Strong

Worry in silence

At times

What your mix reveals

Example from your answers

Storge

LEADS

Strong

Eros

SECOND

Strong

Agape

Often

Pragma

Often

Mania

At times

Ludus

QUIET

Rarely

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Six ways to love. Everyone mixes them differently.

Love styles in John Alan Lee’s model

Statements, seven per style — singles welcome

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SOUND FAMILIAR?

Two people can both be “in love” and mean completely different things.

Some fall in one evening, some after years of friendship, some never stop checking their phone. Each of these moments belongs to a different love style — most people recognise two or three.

Eros · passion

You know within minutes

One conversation and the pull is already there. Your coffee goes cold because you forgot it existed.

“Twenty minutes in, and I already know.”

Mania · longing

A quiet phone sounds loud

When someone you love stops replying, you start replaying everything you said, and sleep can wait.

“Seen at 9:40. Did I say something wrong?”

Storge · friendship

It just grew

Your strongest feelings started as friendship. You can’t point to the day it turned into love.

“When did I start loving you? I honestly can’t say.”

Ludus · play

Serious makes you restless

You love the flirting at the start. When it turns into “so what are we?”, you want a little air.

“It’s getting serious. Maybe I need some air.”

Pragma · reason

Your head has a vote

Before you fall, you quietly check whether your plans, families and everyday habits could work together.

“Do our five-year plans even fit?”

Agape · devotion

You give without counting

Your time, energy and money are there whenever they’re needed, and you rarely check what comes back.

“I don’t mind getting wet. I never do.”

Recognised yourself in two or three?

That’s how it works for almost everyone. The test shows which style leads, which one comes second — and which one you barely use.

SAMPLE QUESTIONS

3 real statements from the test. How true are they for you?

Answer for how you usually love, not just in your current or last relationship.

Choose an answer to see what it says

Storge — friendship love

From the test

My strongest romantic feelings have grown out of friendship.

Friendship may be your route into love

Trust and easy conversation may matter before attraction feels romantic. Other answers show whether you need friendship first or value it once feelings begin.

Your strongest feelings tend to spark quickly, without a long friendship first. Other answers will show what part attraction plays for you.

Sometimes love grows out of friendship for you, sometimes it arrives at once. Other answers will show what matters more to you at the start.

Mania — possessive love

From the test

If someone I love goes quiet for a while, I start to worry and replay what I might have done wrong.

Silence quickly becomes self-doubt

When someone important goes quiet, you may blame something you said. Other answers show whether this follows attraction or happens across relationships.

A loved one going quiet usually doesn't worry you: you don't look for your own fault in it. Other answers will show how you experience closeness and distance.

Silence sometimes makes you wonder, but you don't replay everything. Other answers will show what it depends on.

Agape — selfless love

From the test

In love, I make sure I get as much as I give.

You tend to give without keeping score

You may offer time and care without checking whether the exchange is equal. Other answers will show whether this feels generous and mutual⁠—or leaves your own needs behind.

You don't keep strict score, but you notice when you give far more. Other answers will show how you choose a partner.

An equal exchange matters to you: you make sure the relationship is mutual. Other answers will show how practical your choices can be.

These are 3 of the 42 real statements. No sign-up to begin.

HOW IT WORKS

From “why do I love like this?” to a clear answer in three steps.

Answer for how you usually love — in a relationship, dating or single.

My strongest romantic feelings have grown out of friendship.

Strongly disagree

Strongly agree

STEP 1

Answer 42 statements

Think across different relationships and stages of life, not only about the last person. Your first honest reaction is usually the most useful.

Connections

Spark

Strong

Fear

Often

Give

At times

STEP 2

See what your answers reveal

Find the ways you fall, protect your freedom, seek safety, plan ahead, worry and give⁠—and how those tendencies work together.

TRY THIS WEEK

Before you reply to a slow text, write down what you actually know.

THEN NOTICE

Does the evening feel calmer when you wait for facts?

STEP 3

Use it in real life

Compare a real relationship with your pattern, ask Freudly AI a sharper question and try one change in the next conversation.

WHAT IT MEASURES

Six colours of love — three pure, three mixed.

Lee’s six styles describe different needs in love: spark, freedom, friendship, fit, reassurance and devotion. Your combination shows which need speaks first⁠—and which one you tend to ignore.

Eros

Primary

Mania

Eros + Ludus

Ludus

Primary

Pragma

Ludus + Storge

Storge

Primary

Agape

Eros + Storge

Your mix

Six styles · a mix

Primary styles

Mixed styles = two primaries

Eros — passionate love

Primary style

How strongly passion, chemistry and early attraction shape the way you love.

WHAT IT CAN LOOK LIKE

You recognise “your” kind of person almost instantly

You’d rather have intensity than comfort

Ludus — playful love

Primary style

How much you treat love as a light, playful game and protect your freedom.

WHAT IT CAN LOOK LIKE

The chase is the best part

You pull back when things get too serious

Storge — friendship love

Primary style

How much your love grows out of friendship, trust and calm companionship.

WHAT IT CAN LOOK LIKE

Your partner should be your closest friend

Love that feels like coming home

Mania — possessive love

Eros + Ludus

How much worry, jealousy and emotional highs and lows come with love for you.

WHAT IT CAN LOOK LIKE

Silence starts a worry spiral

Your mood swings with the relationship

Pragma — practical love

Ludus + Storge

How much compatibility, common sense and future plans guide your choice of partner.

WHAT IT CAN LOOK LIKE

You check whether life goals fit

You won’t let yourself fall for a clear mismatch

Agape — selfless love

Eros + Storge

How much you give in love without counting and put the other person’s happiness first.

WHAT IT CAN LOOK LIKE

Their happiness comes before yours

You’d let them go if it made them happy

ONLY IN THIS TEST

How fast you fall — and what silence does to you afterwards.

Fast attraction and fear during silence can reinforce each other: the more promising the start feels, the easier a late reply becomes a verdict. This map helps you notice which part begins first.

Where spark and silence meet

When someone important goes quiet ↑

Danger

Cautious start, anxious middle

Worry outweighs the spark

Fire and fear

Some worry

Two speeds

Right in the middle

Fire with a flicker of fear

Secure

A steady line

A balanced picture

Passion without panic

Slowly

At a normal pace

Within minutes

How fast feelings grow →

Fire and fear: excitement can turn waiting into a verdict

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EXAMPLE READING · FIRE AND FEAR

The spark and the worry come from the same place

You fall fast, so a good start already feels like something to lose. When they go quiet, that hope turns into a search for what you did wrong.

Try this

After a good date, write down what you actually know before you read anything into a slow reply.

COMPATIBILITY

Why some pairs click — and some argue about the same thing for years.

Similar styles usually understand each other without effort. A few combinations rub in the same place every time. Knowing both styles turns that argument into a pattern you can see coming.

You

Them

Eros

Ludus

Storge

Pragma

Mania

Agape

Same style — easy to understand each other

Tends to clash

Easy fit

Storge + Storge

Two friends who never run out of things to say.

Easy fit

Eros + Eros

Both want heat, both open up fast.

Tends to clash

Mania + Ludus

One needs reassurance, the other needs air.

Tends to clash

Eros + Pragma

One wants fireworks, the other wants a plan.

YOUR REPORT

See why the same relationship story keeps repeating.

Your leading style is only the start. The useful part is seeing how spark, safety, freedom and closeness combine in a real relationship.

Why friendship may matter more than instant chemistry

Why silence after a great date can feel like rejection

What makes you pull back when things turn serious

Where you give more than you receive⁠—and which boundary restores balance

Your answers are read together, so the profile can show why a strong spark and fear of silence may come from the same need.

Your love style profile

Eros

Strong

Mania

At times

Ludus

Rarely

Pragma

Often

Storge

Strong

Agape

Often

Storge

Strong

Eros

Strong

Agape

Often

Pragma

Often

Mania

At times

Ludus

Rarely

What this means

You fall through closeness first and heat second: love has to feel safe before it can feel exciting. Games bore you, which is why fast, flirty starts rarely turn into anything for you.

YOUR REPORT ALSO SHOWS

How quickly attraction switches on for you

How much you give and whether it comes back

The combinations that keep ending in the same argument

Three concrete steps for your next relationship

Example profile. Yours is built from your own answers.

BEYOND THE PROFILE

Freudly AI talks with you about your answers — not about love in general.

Bring a past relationship, a crush’s texts or tonight’s argument. Freudly AI connects the answers behind it and helps you test one useful change.

Ask about a real moment

Bring a message, date or argument that still bothers you

Find the pattern

Connect attraction, silence, freedom and giving

Try one change

Three concrete steps for your next relationship

Mood journal

Notice the highs and lows love brings, and what settles them

Freudly AI

Knows your love style profile

I’m not a jealous person. So why does my result say silence is an alarm for me?

There’s a revealing split in your answers: jealousy without a reason is unlike you, but when someone you love goes quiet, you immediately start looking for what you did wrong.

From outside it is a quiet evening. In your head: “Seen at 9:40. It’s 11:10. Was it the joke? Don’t text again.” The silence starts writing a story before you have any facts.

So here is the sharper question: do you doubt the person⁠—or the sudden possibility that something this good could disappear?

If anxiety peaks after the best dates, possibility⁠—not distrust⁠—may be the trigger. Before checking the chat, ask: “What facts changed since the date?”

It’s always worst right after a really good first date. Is that connected?

WHO TAKES IT

For anyone who wants to understand how they love.

The three situations people most often bring to the love styles test. Which one is yours?

Single and curious

You want to understand why you keep falling for the same type.

“Why them, again?”

In a relationship

You want to compare styles to understand your arguments and what each of you needs.

“Why do we fight about this?”

After a breakup

You are looking back at a past relationship to choose differently next time.

“What will I repeat?”

REVIEWS

What changed.

Rated 4.8 / 5 · 243,000+ users

Dating apps finally made sense

I thought I was bad at dating. The report showed I need friendship before romance, while apps ask me to decide from a photo. I stopped forcing quick chemistry and started giving good conversations a second date.

Emma C. · United Kingdom

Took the test

Silence stopped meaning rejection

After a good date, one slow reply could ruin my evening. I realised the fear arrived when I was excited, not when the other person had done anything wrong. Now I wait for facts before writing the ending myself.

Jordan P. · United States

Took the test

We changed one recurring argument

I used to call my partner careless; he called me controlling. We saw that I need a plan to feel safe and he needs room to breathe. Now we fix one plan and leave the rest open. Small change, much calmer weekends.

Priya S. · Canada

Took the test

I gave chemistry more room

I screened every date for long-term fit before I enjoyed it. The profile caught that. I still care about shared plans, but now I ask whether I like being with the person before interviewing them about the future.

Daniel R. · Ireland

Took the test

I did not send the message

Two weeks after a breakup, I was about to write at two in the morning. Freudly AI helped me see I wanted relief from uncertainty, not the relationship back. I put the message in my notes and slept.

Sofia L. · Australia

Took the test

I stayed past three months

I called it independence, but I always pulled away when someone started counting on me. The report helped me tell freedom from an exit plan. This time I said I needed space instead of disappearing.

Alex K. · Germany

Took the test

USE IT

Understand how you love⁠—and choose what to do differently.

Take the test for free. Then use 3 free days to explore your personal reading, ask Freudly AI about a real relationship and try one useful change.

What’s included

Why strong chemistry can still lead you wrong

What silence, jealousy and distance trigger in you

How your style meets a partner’s need for freedom or reassurance

The relationship pattern you are most likely to repeat

Freudly AI for a real message, date, conflict or decision

Mood journal to notice what unsettles and steadies you

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FAQ

Questions, answered.

What are the six love styles?

Sociologist John Alan Lee described six ways of loving: Eros (passionate), Ludus (playful), Storge (friendship-based), Pragma (practical), Mania (possessive) and Agape (selfless). Most people combine several of them — the test shows how strongly each one runs in you and in what order.

Is this the love languages quiz?

Yes. Every statement is about how you approach attraction and love in general, so you can answer it whether you are in a relationship, dating or single.

Can I take the test if I’m single?

Yes. Love styles are attitudes rather than fixed traits. They shift with age, experience and the relationships you have had, so retaking the test after a year or after an important relationship often shows a different mix.

What will I learn about myself?

Similar styles usually fit best: two friendship lovers or two passionate lovers understand each other easily. Pairs such as Mania and Ludus tend to clash, because one needs constant reassurance and the other needs freedom. Your full result explains how your own mix fits each style.

Which love styles are most compatible?

Can a love style change over time?

How is this different from an attachment style test?

Attachment describes how secure you feel in close relationships. Love styles describe what you look for in love and how you express it. The two complement each other, which is why many people take both.

What is the test based on?

On sociologist John Alan Lee's theory of six love styles, which later research on love attitudes built on. The 42 statements are our own wording, and the result shows how strongly each style shows up in the way you love.

Is this love style quiz free?

Yes — this is a free love quiz with instant results: your answers are scored the moment you finish, and no sign-up is needed to start. Your personal reading and Freudly AI then come with 3 free days.

Three tests people mix up

Love styles

You are here

What you look for in love, how you fall and what you do when you fear losing someone.

Attachment style

How secure you feel when someone gets close — and what you do when they pull away.

Love languages

How you prefer to show and receive affection day to day.

HOW THE TEST WORKS

Love styles test: description and methodology

The test is built on John Alan Lee’s typology of love (1973, 1977), later developed into a research tradition by Clyde and Susan Hendrick. Freudly’s 42 statements cover six styles, seven statements each, and every one is phrased about how you love in general — so it works whether you’re single or not.

Statements

42, rated on a five-point scale from “Strongly disagree” to “Strongly agree”.

Styles

Eros, Ludus, Storge, Pragma, Mania and Agape — seven statements each.

Scores

Every style scores 7⁠–35: Low 7⁠–16, Moderate 17⁠–26, High 27⁠–35.

How the score is calculated

Each answer gives 1 to 5 points to its style. Eight statements are worded in reverse, so the score reflects your real attitude rather than a habit of agreeing. The seven answers of each style add up to 7⁠–35; the six totals are ranked to find your leading, second and quietest style.

Answer each of 42

1 · 2 · 3 · 4 · 5 points

8 scored in reverse

Six totals, 7⁠–35

Leading · Second · Quietest

Lee’s colour wheel of love

Primaries

Eros · Ludus · Storge

Mania

Eros + Ludus

Pragma

Ludus + Storge

Agape

Eros + Storge

Lee compared love styles to colours. Eros, Ludus and Storge are the primaries; Mania mixes Eros and Ludus, Pragma mixes Ludus and Storge, Agape mixes Eros and Storge.

What it is based on

Lee introduced six love styles in Colours of Love and later research by Clyde and Susan Hendrick developed them into a widely studied model of love attitudes. The six styles describe passion, play, friendship, practical fit, anxious longing and selfless devotion.

How to get an accurate result

Think of how you usually feel across your relationships, not only the current or last one. Go with your first honest reaction rather than the answer that sounds best — no style is better than another.

Literature

Lee, J. A. (1973). Colours of Love: An Exploration of the Ways of Loving. Toronto: New Press.

Lee, J. A. (1977). A typology of styles of loving. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 3(2), 173⁠–182.

Hendrick, C., & Hendrick, S. S. (1986). A theory and method of love. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 50(2), 392⁠–402.

Hendrick, S. S., & Hendrick, C. (1992). Romantic Love. Newbury Park, CA: Sage.

Hendrick, C., Hendrick, S. S., & Dicke, A. (1998). The Love Attitudes Scale: Short form. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 15(2), 147⁠–159.

Updated: 2026-10-02

Love Styles Test - Description and methodology of the test

Some people know within one evening that they are in love, while others realise it only after years of friendship. This love style test measures which way of loving drives you, using 42 statements about attraction, closeness, jealousy and commitment. It works whether you are in a relationship or single, because every statement describes how you approach love in general rather than one particular partner.

What the test measures: six ways of loving

The test is built on the model of sociologist John Alan Lee, later developed into a research tradition by Clyde and Susan Hendrick. It scores six styles with seven statements each. Eros is passionate love driven by early attraction and chemistry. Ludus treats love as a playful game and protects freedom. Storge grows slowly out of friendship and trust. Pragma chooses a partner with the head, checking life goals and everyday fit. Mania is intense, anxious love with jealousy and strong mood swings. Agape is selfless love that puts the other person first. Nobody belongs to only one style: the result shows how strongly each of the six is expressed in you, which style dominates, which comes second and which one you use least.

How the test works and how to read your result

You rate each statement on a five-point scale from strongly disagree to strongly agree. Answer for how you usually feel in love, not only in your current or last relationship. A few statements are worded in reverse, so the score reflects your real attitude rather than a habit of agreeing. Each style receives a score from 7 to 35, and the profile is read through three elements:

your dominant style, the lens through which you choose and love;
your secondary style, which adds its own colour and often explains contradictions;
your least expressed style, the need a partner may miss in you.

The profile is also the key to compatibility. Partners with similar styles usually understand each other easily, while pairs such as Mania and Ludus or Eros and Pragma tend to argue about the same things again and again. Knowing both styles turns those arguments into patterns you can predict and change.

Comments

Love Styles Test

Six ways to love. Everyone mixes them differently.

Two people can both be “in love” and mean completely different things.

3 real statements from the test. How true are they for you?

From “why do I love like this?” to a clear answer in three steps.

Six colours of love — three pure, three mixed.

How fast you fall — and what silence does to you afterwards.

Why some pairs click — and some argue about the same thing for years.

See why the same relationship story keeps repeating.

Freudly AI talks with you about your answers — not about love in general.

For anyone who wants to understand how they love.

What changed.

Understand how you love⁠—and choose what to do differently.

Questions, answered.

Love styles test: description and methodology

Which colours make up your love?

Love Styles Test - Description and methodology of the test

What the test measures: six ways of loving

How the test works and how to read your result