Ability to Love Questionnaire Test

In 5 minutes, understand how you express love and how others experience it. 25 focused items reveal blind spots, reduce friction, and support stronger, more trusting relationships.

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Questions: 255 minutes

08:30

October 2, 2025

October 2, 2025
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October 2, 2025
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2,069 completions

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Verified by Daniel Hall

Psychologist with 25 years of experience

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How the Scales are Structured

example score

66/75

Total Score (TS)

This scale measures openness, acceptance of others, and how easily you express love in relationships.

Low acceptance

Moderate acceptance

High acceptance

25 – 48: Low acceptance | 49 – 59: Moderate acceptance | 60 – 75: High acceptance

A score of 66 falls in the High acceptance range, suggesting you are generally open, accepting, and able to express love in a consistent way.

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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

Relationship self-improvers

41%OF USERS

People who want to understand how their actions come across in close relationships and fix patterns that cause misunderstandings.

New or uncertain partners

33%OF USERS

People who are dating or in a fresh relationship and want clarity on whether they show care in a supportive way or unintentionally push others away.

Helpers and psychology learners

26%OF USERS

People who work with others or study relationship psychology and want a quick tool to reflect on love styles and communication habits.

BASED ON AGGREGATED, ANONYMIZED DATA FROM TENS OF THOUSANDS OF FREUDLY USERS.

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Once you complete the test, your results are compared with real-world data from people in your country.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.

Points Scored (PS)

Average

50.7

Normal range

43.2 — 58.2

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SAMPLE QUESTIONS

Example Questions From the Test

You may respond “yes,” “no,” or “I don’t know; this has never concerned me.” Do not spend a long time thinking about the questions; provide the first answer that comes to mind.

- Yes
- No
- I don't know
- Yes
- No
- I don't know
- Yes
- No
- I don't know

These are 3 of the 25 real questions — the rest appear in the test. No sign-up needed to start.

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WHAT THE TEST MEASURES

About This Assessment

Ability to Love Questionnaire Test - Symptoms and Signs

relationships

This brief self-report measure assesses perceived capacities and tendencies related to expressing and sustaining affectionate, supportive behavior in close relationships. The Ability to Love Questionnaire is intended to prompt structured reflection on how an individual’s relational behaviors may be experienced by others.

Developed by Robert J. Sternberg, it consists of 25 items and typically requires about 5 minutes to complete. Responses can be used to identify areas of relative strength and potential difficulty in relational functioning, including patterns that may contribute to misunderstanding, conflict, or reduced emotional closeness. The Ability to Love Questionnaire is best interpreted in context (e.g., alongside clinical interview or other measures) and is not a standalone diagnostic instrument.

Author: Robert J. Sternberg

Literature: Sternberg, R. J. A triangular theory of love. Psychological Review. 1986.

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