Sexual Assertiveness Test

Can you ask for what you want in bed and turn down what you don't? This sexual assertiveness test turns 25 quick statements into one score from 0 to 100, then shows how you take the initiative, refuse and raise protection, plus how closely you read the other person. It takes about 5 minutes.

Questions: 255 minutes

Sexual Assertiveness Test: saying what you want

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Scale Explorer

How the Scales are Structured

Sexual assertivenessSa

How freely you speak up for yourself in sex, on a 0 to 100 scale.

example score66/100

66/100Moderate assertivenessexample score

0 – 39Low assertiveness

40 – 70Moderate assertiveness

71 – 100High assertiveness

Your sexual assertiveness is 66 out of 100: Moderate assertiveness.

InitiativeI

Asking for what you want and making the first move.

example score15/24

15/24Moderateexample score

0 – 9Low

10 – 16Moderate

17 – 24High

You scored 15 out of 24: Moderate.

Saying noSn

Turning down what you do not want, even under pressure.

example score18/28

18/28Moderateexample score

0 – 11Low

12 – 19Moderate

20 – 28High

You scored 18 out of 28: Moderate.

Protection and healthPah

Raising protection, contraception and tests.

example score15/24

15/24Moderateexample score

0 – 9Low

10 – 16Moderate

17 – 24High

You scored 15 out of 24: Moderate.

Consent awarenessCa

Checking in, reading hesitation and stopping.

example score15/24

15/24Moderateexample score

0 – 9Low

10 – 16Moderate

17 – 24High

You scored 15 out of 24: Moderate.

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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

Long-term partners

38%OF USERS

You have been together for years and notice that one of you always starts things or always gives in.

Dating and new partners

35%OF USERS

You meet new people and want to feel sure about asking, refusing and bringing up protection.

Finding a firmer voice

27%OF USERS

You have gone along with things you did not want and would like your no to come out more easily.

BASED ON AGGREGATED, ANONYMIZED DATA FROM TENS OF THOUSANDS OF FREUDLY USERS.

Benchmarking

See How You Compare

Once you complete the test, your results are compared with real-world data from people in your country.
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.

Shaded area — where most people score

Dot — the average

You — your score lands on each curve after the test— your score, after the test

Sexual assertivenessSa

You?

Average56.6

Typical rangeTypical45.1 – 68.1

Possible0 – 100

InitiativeI

You?

Average13

Typical rangeTypical10 – 16

Possible0 – 24

Saying noSn

You?

Average16

Typical rangeTypical12.6 – 19.4

Possible0 – 28

Protection and healthPah

You?

Average14

Typical rangeTypical10.6 – 17.4

Possible0 – 24

Consent awarenessCa

You?

Average15

Typical rangeTypical12 – 18

Possible0 – 24

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SAMPLE QUESTIONS

Example Questions From the Test

Think of your usual sexual experiences over the past year, with one partner or with different people. If you are single right now, answer for your most recent experiences. For each statement, choose how often it happens, from Never to Very often. Go with your first honest reaction rather than the answer that sounds right. Some statements describe the opposite habit, so read each one to the end. There are 25 statements, and the whole test takes about 5 minutes.

- Never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Very often
- Never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Very often
- Never
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Very often

These are 3 of the 25 real questions — the rest appear in the test. No sign-up needed to start.

WHAT THE TEST MEASURES

Sexual Assertiveness Test - Description and methodology of the test

close relationships

sex

sexuality

Many people talk easily about work, money or feelings, yet go quiet the moment sex comes up. Asking for what you want, turning down what you do not want and raising protection all rely on one skill: speaking up for yourself in an intimate moment. This sexual assertiveness test shows how strong that skill is for you. It also shows where your sexual boundaries hold and where they give way.

What the test measures

Researchers such as Patricia Morokoff have long described sexual assertiveness as several related skills rather than one trait. Your result opens with one overall score from 0 to 100, built from three parts. Initiative covers asking for the touch you like, suggesting something new and making the first move. Saying no is about saying no to sex when you are not in the mood, stopping partway and holding your position under pressure. Protection and health covers raising condoms and contraception early, asking about recent tests and keeping up with your own checkups. A fourth scale stands apart: consent awareness, or how closely you notice hesitation, pause to check in and stop when asked. It is not added to the main score, because it describes how you hear the other person.

How it works and how to read your result

You rate 25 short statements by how often each one happens, from Never to Very often. Statements from the four scales are mixed, and eight describe the opposite habit, such as going along with something you do not want, so they are scored in reverse. Answer for your usual experience over the past year rather than one memorable night. Your result shows:

your overall score from 0 to 100 and whether it falls in the low, moderate or high range.
which of initiative, refusal and protection is your strongest skill and which is your weakest.
how your attention to the other person compares with your own assertiveness.
how your answers compare with other people in your country.

Two people with the same score can look very different. One asks for what they like but struggles to refuse, another says no easily yet never mentions condoms, and that gap is exactly where safer sex tends to break down. Start with your weakest skill: one short, rehearsed sentence often changes more than a long talk.

Literature:

Morokoff, P. J., Quina, K., Harlow, L. L., Whitmire, L., Grimley, D. M., Gibson, P. R., & Burkholder, G. J. (1997). Sexual Assertiveness Scale (SAS) for women: Development and validation. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 73(4), 790-804.
Humphreys, T. P., & Brousseau, M. M. (2010). The Sexual Consent Scale-Revised: Development, reliability, and preliminary validity. Journal of Sex Research, 47(5), 420-428.

Updated: 2026-10-28