Should I Leave My Baby Daddy Quiz
How the Scales are Structured
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Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Example Questions From the Test
- Practical support and parenting arrangements are not made conditional on sexual contact.
- He has implied that sex would improve closeness or cooperation, without attaching a concrete consequence.
- He pressures me by threatening withdrawal of affection, money, housing, or parenting help.
- He has forced or obtained sexual contact by threatening my housing, finances, child access, safety, or another serious consequence.
- He stops without punishing, pressuring, or repeatedly challenging my decision.
- He shows disappointment or asks again, but accepts a clear second answer.
- He repeatedly argues, guilt-trips, sulks, or pressures me until I feel worn down.
- He continues, forces contact, threatens me, or uses physical restraint despite my refusal.
- I can access what is mine and participate fairly in shared financial decisions.
- He is overly critical of some spending or asks for more detail than feels comfortable.
- He restricts routine access, hides information, creates debt in my name, or makes me account for nearly every expense.
- He withholds money, identification, medication, documents, or account access to stop me leaving or meeting basic needs.
Should I Leave My Baby Daddy Quiz - Description and methodology of the test
People weighing a difficult co-parenting or safety decision may use the Should I Leave My Baby Daddy Quiz to organize concerns that are difficult to name. It is intended for a parent reflecting on pressure, control, fear, sexual boundaries, and practical support. The result offers a starting point for a co-parenting safety assessment, helping clarify which patterns deserve attention, support, or careful planning.
What This Assessment Explores
This questionnaire examines whether a partner’s conduct affects autonomy, physical safety, consent, reproductive decisions, emotional wellbeing, practical support, and a child’s care. It suits a parent deciding whether conflict reflects strain or pressure, intimidation, punishment, or control. For relationship safety planning, any serious experience deserves attention even when another score is lower.
The three displayed scales organize the result as follows:
- Emotional Control and Care (0-15) reflects control, degradation, support, and care; bands are No scored indicator (0), Pattern to notice (1-2), and Support and planning warranted (3-15).
- Physical Force and Safety (0-15) reflects intimidation, injury, threats, and danger; bands are No scored indicator (0), Concern to examine (1-2), and Act on the concern (3-15).
- Sexual Boundaries and Reproductive Choice (0-15) reflects pressure, consent, and reproductive interference; bands are No scored indicator (0), Boundary concern (1-2), and Support is warranted (3-15).
Methodology and Scientific Basis
Each item describes a concrete situation and offers four ordered responses, moving from respect for autonomy and safety toward more coercive, dangerous, or controlling conduct. Choosing the closest description is more nuanced than a yes-or-no answer. Responses are grouped into the displayed scores; the ranges do not show how many points each option contributes.
The content is conceptually consistent with the Composite Abuse Scale Revised Short Form (CASR-SF), especially its coverage of controlling, emotional, physical, and sexual abuse experiences. Reproductive pressure and interference align with McCauley et al. (2017). Monitoring, isolation, financial restriction, and parenting consequences used to control choices are examples of coercive control signs aligned with Bledsoe and Sar (2011). These are conceptual links, not evidence that this online questionnaire adapts, validates, or standardizes those instruments.
Because the scores are unvalidated reflective prompts rather than diagnostic, legal, or clinical cutoffs, interpret individual responses alongside current circumstances. A red-flag experience overrides a reassuring total, while fear, memory, current conflict, and available support can shape self-report; immediate danger or injury calls for safety-focused help rather than waiting for a score.
- Ford-Gilboe, Marilyn, C. Nadine Wathen, Colleen Varcoe, Harriet L. MacMillan, Kelly Scott-Storey, Tara Mantler, Kelsey Hegarty, and Nancy Perrin. "Development of a brief measure of intimate partner violence experiences: the Composite Abuse Scale (Revised)-Short Form (CASR-SF)." BMJ Open 6(12) (2016): e012824. 10.1136/bmjopen-2016-012824
- McCauley, Heather L., Jay G. Silverman, Kelley A. Jones, Daniel J. Tancredi, Michele R. Decker, Marie C. McCormick, S. Bryn Austin, Heather A. Anderson, and Elizabeth Miller. "Psychometric Properties and Refinement of the Reproductive Coercion Scale." Contraception 95(3) (2017): 292-298. 10.1016/j.contraception.2016.09.010
- Bledsoe, Linda K., and Bibhuti K. Sar. "Intimate Partner Violence Control Scale: Development and Initial Testing." Journal of Family Violence 26(3) (2011): 171-184. 10.1007/s10896-010-9351-3
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