Is He Using Me Quiz

In 10 minutes, clarify whether a current or recent relationship shows one-sided use, control, sexual pressure, or safety concerns. No sign-up, 15 questions, and clear score bands help you decide what to do next.
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July 22, 2026
July 22, 2026
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6/15
Emotional Control and One-Sided Use (ECaOSU)
Measures signs of emotional control, coercion, or one-sided use in a current or recent relationship.
No indicators endorsed
Something to examine
Act on the concern
0NaNNo indicators endorsed12Something to examine315Act on the concern
A score of 6 falls in the “Act on the concern” range, suggesting repeated or impactful patterns of emotional control or one-sided use that merit added support and clearer boundaries.
example score
8/15
Physical Safety and Threats (PSaT)
Assesses indications of physical intimidation, threats, restraint, weapon involvement, directed violence, or injury in the relationship.
No indicator endorsed
Something to examine
Act on the concern
0No indicator endorsed12Something to examine315Act on the concern
A score of 8 falls in the “Act on the concern” range, suggesting multiple physical-safety warning signs were endorsed and should be taken seriously on their own.
example score
9/15
Sexual Boundaries and Pressure (SBaP)
Measures signs of sexual-boundary violations, coercion, pressure, or reproductive interference in the relationship.
No indicator endorsed
Something to examine
Act on the concern
0NaNNo indicator endorsed12Something to examine315Act on the concern
A score of 9 falls in the “Act on the concern” range, indicating multiple endorsed signs of sexual pressure or boundary violations that warrant attention regardless of intent.
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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

Doubting a new relationship
41%OF USERS
People noticing mixed signals early on and wondering if attention, money, sex, or favors are being taken without real care in return.
Feeling pressured or controlled
34%OF USERS
People experiencing guilt, jealousy, threats, sexual pressure, or monitoring and wanting a clearer picture of whether the situation is becoming unsafe.
Recovering after a breakup
25%OF USERS
People looking back on a recent connection to make sense of red flags, rebuild boundaries, and feel confident about what happened.
BASED ON AGGREGATED, ANONYMIZED DATA FROM TENS OF THOUSANDS OF FREUDLY USERS.
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Emotional Control and One-Sided Use (ECaOU)
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9
Normal range
6.511.5
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15
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Physical Safety and Threats (PSaT)
Average
4.8
Normal range
2.17.5
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15
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Sexual Boundaries and Pressure (SBaP)
Average
8.7
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6.510.8
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15
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CLEAR ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

Frequently Asked Questions

What does this quiz measure?
It screens for patterns linked to one-sided use, emotional control, sexual pressure, and physical safety in a current or recent connection. It summarizes responses into unvalidated score bands for reflection.
How long does it take and how many items are included?
Completion typically takes about 10 minutes. The quiz includes 15 questions.
Can the results confirm his motives or diagnose abuse?
No; it cannot determine motives, confirm intent, or diagnose abuse. It does not replace clinical, legal, or crisis support.
Who is this quiz for?
It applies to experiences involving an adult or a peer in a dating or relationship context. Any concerning experience may be relevant, including nonphysical pressure or control.
What should be done if safety is a concern?
If there are threats, force, coercion, injury, or fear, contact a trusted person or a local relationship-abuse service. Use emergency services when there is immediate danger.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment

Is He Using Me Quiz - Symptoms and Signs

This quick, no-sign-up relationship check helps you examine one-sided use, emotional control, sexual pressure, and physical safety in a current or recent connection. It cannot determine his motives, diagnose abuse, or replace professional advice; its score bands are unvalidated reflective summaries. Harm can involve an adult or a peer. Any concerning experience matters, especially threats, force, coercion, or injury. If you feel unsafe, contact a trusted person or a local relationship-abuse service; use emergency services for immediate danger.

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