Is He Using Me Quiz
In 10 minutes, clarify whether a current or recent relationship shows one-sided use, control, sexual pressure, or safety concerns. No sign-up, 15 questions, and clear score bands help you decide what to do next.
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Emotional Control and One-Sided Use (ECaOU)
Emotional Control and One-Sided Use (ECaOU)
Average
9
Normal range
6.5 — 11.5
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0
max.
15
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Physical Safety and Threats (PSaT)
Physical Safety and Threats (PSaT)
Average
4.8
Normal range
2.1 — 7.5
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0
max.
15
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Sexual Boundaries and Pressure (SBaP)
Sexual Boundaries and Pressure (SBaP)
Average
8.7
Normal range
6.5 — 10.8
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0
max.
15
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- He keeps a nonthreatening distance or pauses the discussion when emotions rise.
- He paces, raises his voice, or shuts a door hard, but does not direct physical force toward me.
- He crowds me, corners me, or uses his size and proximity to make me back down.
- He has pushed, hit, kicked, choked, burned, or otherwise physically injured me.
- He waits until I am awake, clear-headed, and actively able to agree.
- He has initiated while I was very tired but stopped immediately when I seemed uncertain.
- He minimizes signs of impairment or encourages more drinking when sexual activity is being discussed.
- He has attempted or engaged in sexual activity while I was asleep, unconscious, or unable to consent.
- He does not use objects or property to express intimidation.
- He has slammed down an object or struck furniture in frustration without directing it toward me.
- He has repeatedly punched walls, broken his own objects, or damaged the surroundings in a way that frightened me.
- He has thrown an object at me, destroyed my belongings to frighten me, displayed a weapon, or caused an injury.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
About This Assessment
Is He Using Me Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
This quick, no-sign-up relationship check helps you examine one-sided use, emotional control, sexual pressure, and physical safety in a current or recent connection. It cannot determine his motives, diagnose abuse, or replace professional advice; its score bands are unvalidated reflective summaries. Harm can involve an adult or a peer. Any concerning experience matters, especially threats, force, coercion, or injury. If you feel unsafe, contact a trusted person or a local relationship-abuse service; use emergency services for immediate danger.
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