Am I Emotionally Cheating Quiz
Understand whether a connection outside your relationship may be crossing emotional boundaries in about 10 minutes. Free, no sign-up, 15 questions, with thoughtful results to guide safer conversations about limits.
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Emotional Intimacy Displacement (EID)
Emotional Intimacy Displacement (EID)
Average
4.7
Normal range
2.3 — 7
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15
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Romantic or Sexual Investment (RoSI)
Romantic or Sexual Investment (RoSI)
Average
8.9
Normal range
6.3 — 11.5
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15
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Secrecy and Boundary Alignment (SaBA)
Secrecy and Boundary Alignment (SaBA)
Average
7.3
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4.5 — 10.1
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15
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- It does not play a special role in how I handle the disagreement.
- I may seek perspective from them, as I might from another trusted friend.
- I turn to them for the comfort and validation I increasingly avoid seeking from my partner.
- I use the connection as my main emotional refuge and share intimate relationship details in ways I know undermine repair with my partner.
- My descriptions are broadly consistent across those settings.
- I use somewhat different language depending on the audience, but the basic nature of the connection stays the same.
- I downplay the closeness with my partner more than I do with friends or in my own thoughts.
- I present it as harmless to my partner while privately recognizing that it has crossed an agreed boundary.
- It varies naturally by topic, without this person consistently taking priority over my partner.
- I sometimes choose this person first because they have particular experience or interest in the subject.
- I usually feel more eager to tell this person than my partner, even about deeply personal events.
- I deliberately reserve major news and vulnerable feelings for this person while shutting my partner out.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
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Am I Emotionally Cheating Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
This free, no-sign-up quiz helps you reflect on whether a connection outside your relationship may be crossing emotional boundaries. Consider secrecy and agreements, where your emotional attention goes, and whether romantic or sexual energy is developing. Emotional cheating has no universal clinical definition, so results are reflective—not proof, diagnosis, or a verdict. Relationship structures and agreements differ. If discussing boundaries could bring intimidation, retaliation, or harm, prioritize safety and seek support from someone you trust or a local relationship-abuse service.
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