Was My Ex a Narcissist Quiz

In 10 minutes, get clarity on patterns that can show up in controlling or harmful past relationships. Free and no sign-up, it helps you focus on impact without turning a score into a diagnosis.
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July 22, 2026
July 22, 2026
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6/15
Control and Physical Safety (CaPS)
This scale reflects how often you experienced controlling, intimidating, or physically unsafe dynamics in the relationship.
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Signals to consider
Support-focused response
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A score of 6 falls in the Support-focused response range, suggesting multiple experiences related to control or safety that warrant prioritizing practical safety steps and outside support.
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8/15
Emotional Manipulation and Accountability (EMaA)
This scale reflects how often your ex used emotional pressure, blame-shifting, or refusal to take responsibility in ways that affected you.
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Support-focused response
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A score of 8 falls in the Support-focused response range, suggesting a notable pattern of emotional manipulation or lack of accountability that may be worth discussing with trusted support.
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9/15
Personal and Sexual Boundaries (PaSB)
This scale reflects how often your ex may have ignored, pressured, or crossed your personal or sexual boundaries.
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Support-focused
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A score of 9 falls in the Support-focused range, suggesting multiple boundary concerns worth reflecting on and potentially discussing with trusted support.
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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

Recently out of a breakup
44%OF USERS
People trying to make sense of a confusing or painful relationship and check whether patterns like manipulation, gaslighting, or blame-shifting were present.
Healing from emotional harm
33%OF USERS
People noticing lingering anxiety, self-doubt, or shame after the relationship and wanting clarity about what happened without jumping to a diagnosis.
Friends and family concerned
23%OF USERS
People supporting someone who dated a controlling partner and looking for language to recognize harmful dynamics and focus on safety and boundaries.
BASED ON AGGREGATED, ANONYMIZED DATA FROM TENS OF THOUSANDS OF FREUDLY USERS.
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Control and Physical Safety (CaPS)
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4.3
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2.26.3
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Emotional Manipulation and Accountability (EMaA)
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6.5
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48.9
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Personal and Sexual Boundaries (PaSB)
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4.8
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CLEAR ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

Frequently Asked Questions

What does this quiz measure?
It screens for patterns sometimes seen in controlling, manipulative, or harmful relationships and their impact. It does not determine whether a former partner had narcissistic personality disorder or any other diagnosis.
How should the results be interpreted?
Use the results as a reflection prompt rather than a label. Focus on specific behaviors, frequency, context, and the effect on safety and well-being.
Can the quiz confirm abuse or neglect?
It cannot confirm abuse, neglect, or intent. Poverty, scarce services, or unavailable care can also contribute to neglect-like experiences and should not automatically be treated as intentional control.
How long does it take and how many questions are included?
Completion typically takes about 10 minutes. The quiz includes 15 questions.
What should be done if the content raises safety concerns?
If there is immediate danger, contact emergency services. Otherwise, consider contacting a trusted person or a local relationship-abuse service for support.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
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Was My Ex a Narcissist Quiz - Symptoms and Signs

This free, no-sign-up reflection explores behaviors sometimes associated with controlling or harmful relationships, but it cannot determine whether an ex had narcissistic personality disorder or any other diagnosis. Consider the specific patterns and their effect on you rather than using the score as a label. Harm can involve peers or adults. Poverty, scarce services, or unavailable care can also shape neglect-like experiences and should not automatically be treated as intentional control. If you feel unsafe, contact a trusted person, a local relationship-abuse service, or emergency services when danger is immediate.

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