Was My Ex a Narcissist Quiz
In 10 minutes, get clarity on patterns that can show up in controlling or harmful past relationships. Free and no sign-up, it helps you focus on impact without turning a score into a diagnosis.
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Control and Physical Safety (CaPS)
Control and Physical Safety (CaPS)
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4.3
Normal range
2.2 — 6.3
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Emotional Manipulation and Accountability (EMaA)
Emotional Manipulation and Accountability (EMaA)
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6.5
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4 — 8.9
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Personal and Sexual Boundaries (PaSB)
Personal and Sexual Boundaries (PaSB)
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4.8
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2.1 — 7.4
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SAMPLE QUESTIONS
Example Questions From the Test
- They mocked my vulnerability or later used personal disclosures against me.
- They exploited my distress to force compliance or threatened serious consequences if I sought support.
- They responded with care, even when they did not fully understand what I needed.
- They seemed uncomfortable or withdrew at first, but later checked in.
- They intentionally drove dangerously, threatened a crash, or refused to let me leave the vehicle.
- They became distracted by the argument but corrected their driving when I raised concern.
- They drove faster, tailgated, or ignored my repeated requests to slow down.
- They kept driving normally or pulled over so the conflict did not affect safety.
- They accepted the decision without trying to punish or pressure me.
- They threatened self-harm, retaliation, exposure of private material, or serious damage to my life to make me stay.
- They asked more than once to reconsider but eventually respected my answer.
- They bombarded me with messages, enlisted other people, or repeatedly used guilt after I asked them to stop.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
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Was My Ex a Narcissist Quiz - Symptoms and Signs
This free, no-sign-up reflection explores behaviors sometimes associated with controlling or harmful relationships, but it cannot determine whether an ex had narcissistic personality disorder or any other diagnosis. Consider the specific patterns and their effect on you rather than using the score as a label. Harm can involve peers or adults. Poverty, scarce services, or unavailable care can also shape neglect-like experiences and should not automatically be treated as intentional control. If you feel unsafe, contact a trusted person, a local relationship-abuse service, or emergency services when danger is immediate.
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