What Are We Quiz
How the Scales are Structured
Who Usually Takes This Test?
See How You Compare
Below is a preview of how scores are typically distributed across each scale.
Example Questions From the Test
- Keep things light without increasing expectations
- Spend more intentional time together and learn where the feelings lead
- Agree that we are building a committed partnership
- Focus on becoming trusted friends before treating it as a romance
- I would prefer a simpler introduction that keeps expectations minimal
- I would enjoy the hint of romance and wonder what the connection is becoming
- I would want us to use a clear partner label
- I would rather be introduced as a close friend until the bond feels established
- A spontaneous outing with chemistry and no pressure to define what follows
- An intimate setting where we can explore our romantic interest
- A conversation about values, goals, and long-term compatibility
- A shared hobby or relaxed activity where we can enjoy being ourselves
What Are We Quiz - Description and methodology of the test
People who feel uncertain about a developing connection can use the What Are We Quiz to examine what kind of closeness feels right to them. It is intended for readers weighing dating expectations, emotional pace, independence, and commitment, and it can serve as a relationship expectations quiz without forcing a premature label. The profile helps turn mixed signals into preferences that can be discussed more clearly.
What This Assessment Explores
These situations explore labels, exclusivity, communication, openness, friendship, shared routines, major decisions, and the pace of attraction or commitment. Uncertainty about defining or approaching a developing connection can make an are-we-in-a-relationship quiz a useful reflection on which style best matches present preferences, while mutual intentions require conversation.
The four displayed dimensions are:
- Casual Connection (0-12) measures fit with autonomy and present enjoyment: Structured Elsewhere (0-4), Open to Casual (5-8), or Casual Fit (9-12).
- Committed Partnership (0-12) measures fit with mutual commitment and shared life: Independence Emphasis (0-4), Commitment Potential (5-8), or Partnership Fit (9-12).
- Emerging Romance (0-12) measures fit with growing attraction and emotional investment: Different Pace (0-4), Growing Interest (5-8), or Romantic Momentum (9-12).
- Friendship-First Bond (0-12) measures affinity for closeness rooted in trust and companionship: Romance-Led (0-4), Friendly Foundation (5-8), or Friendship-First Fit (9-12).
Methodology and Scientific Basis
Each item presents a dating situation followed by four response options. The choices represent low-pressure independence, developing romance, committed partnership, or friendship as a foundation. Together, these choices explore how you want the connection to function-the preference question behind a what are we relationship quiz-rather than guessing another person's private feelings.
The scoring is comparative. Responses contribute to four displayed scale scores, and the highest score indicates the strongest affinity; scores within one point suggest a blended result. The bands are descriptive levels for the profile, not fixed identities or relationship verdicts.
Stinson et al. (2022) offers a conceptual parallel on friendship as a route into romance; Jackson and Kirkpatrick (2007) address multidimensional sociosexuality, and Rusbult et al. (1998) commitment and investment. These works do not validate the four custom scales. No published norms or validation study establishes this online questionnaire as standardized.
Because answers are self-reported, the profile can shift with current context, self-awareness, and candor. It describes your stated preferences, not another person's intentions or the final status of a connection.
- Stinson, D. A., Cameron, J. J., & Hoplock, L. B. (2022). The Friends-to-Lovers Pathway to Romance: Prevalent, Preferred, and Overlooked by Science. Social Psychological and Personality Science, 13(2), 562-571. 10.1177/19485506211026992
- Jackson, J. J., & Kirkpatrick, L. A. (2007). The Structure and Measurement of Human Mating Strategies: Toward a Multidimensional Model of Sociosexuality. Evolution and Human Behavior, 28(6), 382-391. 10.1016/j.evolhumbehav.2007.04.005
- Rusbult, C. E., Martz, J. M., & Agnew, C. R. (1998). The Investment Model Scale: Measuring Commitment Level, Satisfaction Level, Quality of Alternatives, and Investment Size. Personal Relationships, 5(4), 357-387. 10.1111/j.1475-6811.1998.tb00177.x
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