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Relationship Emotional Schemas Scale (RESS) Test

Understand how you perceive your partner responding to your difficult emotions in just 3 minutes. Get a clear snapshot of key patterns to guide healthier communication and therapy goals.
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How the Scales are Structured
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3/6
Rumination (R)
Rumination measures how much a person tends to repeatedly revisit and dwell on negative emotions during relationship stress.
Low
Moderate
High
0 – 2: Low | 3 – 4: Moderate | 5 – 6: High
A score of 3 suggests a moderate tendency to dwell on unpleasant feelings, with some difficulty letting them go at times.
example score
2/6
Acceptance (A)
Acceptance measures how willing you are to allow and acknowledge your emotions without judging them.
Low acceptance
Moderate acceptance
High acceptance
0 – 2: Low acceptance | 3 – 4: Moderate acceptance | 5 – 6: High acceptance
A score of 2 suggests low acceptance, indicating you may often judge or struggle to make room for difficult emotions when relationship tension arises.
example score
2/6
Duration (D)
Duration measures how long emotional responses tend to persist within relationship situations.
Brief
Moderate
Prolonged
0 – 2: Brief | 3 – 4: Moderate | 5 – 6: Prolonged
A score of 2 suggests emotions in relationship contexts tend to pass relatively quickly rather than lingering for long periods.
example score
3/6
Blame (B)
Accusation measures the extent to which a person attributes responsibility for their emotional distress to their partner rather than to their own emotional experience.
Low
Moderate
High
0 – 2: Low | 3 – 4: Moderate | 5 – 6: High
A score of 3 suggests a moderate tendency to place some responsibility for difficult feelings on the partner, alongside some capacity to recognize personal ownership of emotions.
example score
3/6
Emotional Expression (EE)
Measures how openly a person expresses and shares their emotions within a relationship during difficult moments.
Reserved
Selective
Open
0 – 2: Reserved | 3 – 4: Selective | 5 – 6: Open
A score of 3 suggests a selective style of emotional expression, where feelings may be shared in some situations but held back in others.
example score
4/6
Consensus (C)
Consensus measures how strongly a person wants their emotional experience and expression to align with their partner’s.
Low consensus
Moderate consensus
High consensus
0 – 2: Low consensus | 3 – 4: Moderate consensus | 5 – 6: High consensus
A score of 4 suggests a moderate preference for emotional harmony, with noticeable but flexible expectations that a partner will match or validate your emotional tone.
example score
4/6
Rationality (R)
Rationality measures how strongly you rely on logical analysis and reflection when making sense of emotions in your relationship.
Low rationality
Balanced
High rationality
0 – 2: Low rationality | 3 – 4: Balanced | 5 – 6: High rationality
A score of 4 suggests a generally balanced approach, with a noticeable tendency to use reason to understand emotions when relationship tension arises.
example score
4/6
Emotional Numbness (EN)
Measures perceived emotional detachment or suppression of feelings in relationship situations, especially when distress is present.
Low numbness
Moderate numbness
High numbness
0 – 2: Low numbness | 3 – 4: Moderate numbness | 5 – 6: High numbness
A score of 4 falls in the Moderate numbness range, suggesting you may often feel somewhat emotionally shut down or find it harder to empathize and express feelings during relationship tension.
example score
2/6
Control (C)
Control measures how effectively you regulate and express your emotions during relationship tension.
Low control
Moderate control
High control
0 – 2: Low control | 3 – 4: Moderate control | 5 – 6: High control
A score of 2 suggests low emotional control in relationship stress, with emotions more likely to feel hard to manage or express steadily.
example score
2/6
Values (V)
Measures how strongly a person relies on their personal values to guide how they express and respond to emotions in the relationship.
Low values-guided
Moderate values-guided
High values-guided
0 – 2: Low values-guided | 3 – 4: Moderate values-guided | 5 – 6: High values-guided
A score of 2 suggests emotions in the relationship are less consistently guided by internal values and may be shaped more by the moment or the partner’s perceived reactions.
example score
3/6
Differentiation (D)
Differentiation measures how well you can distinguish your own emotions from your partner’s emotions during relationship stress.
Low differentiation
Moderate differentiation
High differentiation
0 – 2: Low differentiation | 3 – 4: Moderate differentiation | 5 – 6: High differentiation
A score of 3 suggests a moderate ability to keep your feelings separate from your partner’s, with some blending likely in more emotionally charged moments.
example score
3/6
Validation (V)
Validation measures how much a person experiences their emotions as accepted and acknowledged as meaningful in the relationship context.
Low validation
Moderate validation
High validation
0 – 2: Low validation | 3 – 4: Moderate validation | 5 – 6: High validation
A score of 3 suggests a moderate level of validation, with some ability to recognize feelings as meaningful but also a tendency to downplay them at times.
example score
4/6
Emotional Clarity (EC)
Clarity measures how clearly a person can identify and differentiate their own emotions within relationship situations.
Low clarity
Moderate clarity
High clarity
0 – 2: Low clarity | 3 – 4: Moderate clarity | 5 – 6: High clarity
A score of 4 suggests moderately good awareness of your feelings in relationship moments, with occasional difficulty pinpointing or separating specific emotions under stress.
example score
3/6
Guilt and Shame (GaS)
Measures the tendency to feel guilt and shame when experiencing and expressing difficult emotions in the relationship context.
Low
Moderate
High
0 – 2: Low | 3 – 4: Moderate | 5 – 6: High
A score of 3 suggests a moderate tendency to experience guilt or shame around emotions, which may sometimes constrain open emotional expression with a partner.
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Who Usually Takes This Test?
Couples in recurring conflict
44%OF USERS
People who keep having the same arguments and want to understand how they experience their partner’s response when they’re hurt, upset, or stressed.
Individuals feeling emotionally dismissed
33%OF USERS
People who feel judged, ignored, or misunderstood in their relationship and want clearer language for what happens when they share difficult emotions.
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23%OF USERS
People in counseling who want a quick snapshot of emotional patterns in their relationship to set concrete goals for communication and trust.
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Rumination (R)
Average
2.9
Normal range
1.9 — 4
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6
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Acceptance (A)
Average
3
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2.2 — 3.8
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6
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Duration (D)
Average
2.4
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1.3 — 3.4
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6
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Accusation (A)
Average
4.1
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3.3 — 4.9
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6
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Expression (E)
Average
3.6
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2.5 — 4.7
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6
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Consensus (C)
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2.5
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1.6 — 3.5
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6
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Rationality (R)
Average
3.7
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2.9 — 4.5
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6
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Emotional Numbness (EN)
Average
2.7
Normal range
1.8 — 3.6
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0
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6
majority
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Control (C)
Average
3.9
Normal range
3 — 4.8
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0
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6
majority
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Values (V)
Average
1.6
Normal range
0.5 — 2.7
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0
max.
6
majority
This curve shows how scores are typically distributed.
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Differentiation (D)
Average
3.5
Normal range
2.4 — 4.5
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0
max.
6
majority
This curve shows how scores are typically distributed.
Once you complete the test, your result will appear here so you can see where you land.
Validation (V)
Average
3.1
Normal range
2 — 4.2
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0
max.
6
majority
This curve shows how scores are typically distributed.
Once you complete the test, your result will appear here so you can see where you land.
Clarity (C)
Average
2.8
Normal range
1.7 — 3.9
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0
max.
6
majority
This curve shows how scores are typically distributed.
Once you complete the test, your result will appear here so you can see where you land.
Guilt and Shame (GaS)
Average
2.1
Normal range
1 — 3.1
min.
0
max.
6
majority
This curve shows how scores are typically distributed.
Once you complete the test, your result will appear here so you can see where you land.
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What does this questionnaire measure?
It measures perceived partner responses to difficult emotions during relationship stress. It focuses on whether emotional experiences feel accepted, understood, dismissed, or judged.
How long does it take and how many items are included?
Estimated completion time is about 3 minutes. The questionnaire includes 14 items.
What time frame should be used when answering?
Use recent, typical interactions rather than a single unusual event. If more than one relationship is relevant, answer based on the primary partner.
Is it about the partner’s actual behavior or one person’s perception?
Responses reflect the respondent’s perception of the partner’s reactions. It is not a direct measure of the partner’s objective behavior.
How are results used in therapy or counseling?
Results can help identify emotional barriers and patterns that contribute to conflict or disconnection. They can inform goals related to trust, validation, and emotional communication.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
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Emotional Schemas Scale in Relationships, RESS Test

Relationship Emotional Schemas Scale (RESS) Test

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This brief self-report measure is designed to assess how an individual perceives a romantic partner’s responses to their emotional experience. The Relationship Emotional Schemas Scale (RESS) focuses on appraisals of how difficult feelings (e.g., hurt or distress) are received within the relationship, emphasizing the respondent’s subjective interpretation rather than objective partner behavior.

The instrument includes 14 items and typically takes about 3 minutes to complete. Items are intended to characterize perceived patterns such as acceptance, understanding, criticism, or invalidation in response to the respondent’s emotions, which may inform clinical case formulation and treatment planning for relationship-focused work. The Relationship Emotional Schemas Scale (RESS) is attributed to Susan M. Johnson and Robert L. Leahy.

Author: Robert L. Leahy, Susan M. Johnson
Literature: Leahy, R. L. Emotional schema therapy. Guilford Press. 2015.
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