Wainhood Codependency Scale Test - the question form
Questions: 20 · 4 minutes
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1. I tend to take responsibility for other people’s feelings and/or behavior.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
2. I have difficulty identifying my feelings (for example, happiness, anger, embarrassment, sadness, or excitement).
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
3. I find it difficult to express my feelings.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
4. I feel fear or anxiety when I think about how others will react to my feelings or behavior.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
5. I minimize problems and deny or distort the truth about the feelings or behavior of the people I interact with.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
6. I find it difficult to establish or maintain close relationships.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
7. I am afraid of being rejected.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
8. I try to be perfect in everything and judge myself harshly.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
9. I have difficulty making decisions.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
10. I tend to rely on other people's opinions rather than act on my own judgment.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
11. I tend to put other people's wants and needs first.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
12. I tend to value other people's opinions more than my own.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
13. My sense of self-worth comes from external sources, depending on the opinions or actions of other people whom I believe know better.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
14. I find it difficult to be vulnerable and ask for help.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
15. I am either being controlled or trying to control others, and I make sure I am never held responsible.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
16. I am overly loyal to others, even when that loyalty is not justified.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
17. I tend to see situations as "all or nothing."
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
18. I am very tolerant of inconsistency and mixed messages.
1 - Never
2 - Sometimes
3 - Often
4 - Almost always
19. There are emotional crises and chaos in my life.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
20. I try to seek out relationships where I feel needed, and then try to maintain them.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
1. I tend to take responsibility for other people's feelings and/or behavior.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
2. I have difficulty identifying my feelings (for example, happiness, anger, embarrassment, sadness, or excitement).
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
3. I find it difficult to express my feelings.
1 - Never
2 - Sometimes
3 - Often
4 - Almost always
4. I feel fear or anxiety when I think about how others will react to my feelings or behavior.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
5. I minimize problems and deny or distort the truth about the feelings or behavior of the people I interact with.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
6. I find it difficult to establish or maintain close relationships.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
7. I am afraid of being rejected.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
8. I try to be perfect in everything and am very self-critical.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
9. I have difficulty making decisions.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
10. I tend to rely on other people's opinions rather than acting on my own judgment.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
11. I tend to put other people's wants and needs first.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
12. I tend to value other people's opinions more than my own.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
13. My sense of self-worth comes from outside of me, depending on other people’s opinions or actions, whom I believe know better.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
14. I find it difficult to be vulnerable and ask for help.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
15. I am either being controlled or trying to control others, and I also make sure I never end up being responsible.
Never
Sometimes
Often
Almost always
16. I am too loyal to others, even when that loyalty is not warranted.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
17. I tend to see situations in "all-or-nothing" terms.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
18. I am very tolerant of inconsistency and mixed messages.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
19. There are emotional crises and chaos in my life.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
20. I try to seek relationships where I feel needed, and then try to maintain them.
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always