Questionnaire on Types of Motivation in Romantic Relationships, CMQ Test - the question form
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1. I do not know why. In fact, I do not feel like making any effort to maintain our relationship.
1 – Does not apply to reality at all
2 – Does not apply to reality
3 – Rather does not apply to reality
4 – Neither applies nor does not apply
5 – Rather applies to reality
6 – Applies to reality
7 – Completely applies to reality
2. Because I need to be with a partner in order to feel valued.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Not true
3 – Rather not true
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Rather true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
3. Because my relationship with my partner is the best way I know to develop as a person.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
4. I do not know why. Unfortunately, I think our relationship may end, and I do not know how to keep it going.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
5. Because being in a relationship gives me a valuable opportunity to do something new.
1 – Does not reflect reality at all
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Reflects reality completely
6. Because I love the countless crazy and fun moments I experience with my partner.
1 – Absolutely does not reflect reality
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Somewhat does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Somewhat reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Absolutely reflects reality
7. Because I would feel guilty if I broke up with my partner.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
8. I do not know. I feel helpless when I think that sooner or later we will have to break up.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Mostly untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Mostly true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
9. Because my relationship with my partner allows me to have regular sexual intimacy with the person I have chosen.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Mostly untrue
4 – Somewhat true and somewhat untrue
5 – Mostly true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
10. Because people who are important to me (children, family, friends) are proud of my relationship with my partner, and I would not want to disappoint them.
1 – Completely not true
2 – Not true
3 – Mostly not true
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Mostly true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
11. Because my partner would not be able to cope with a breakup.
1 – Completely untrue of me
2 – Untrue of me
3 – Somewhat untrue of me
4 – Neither true nor untrue of me
5 – Somewhat true of me
6 – True of me
7 – Completely true of me
12. Because this is the person I chose to help me achieve important goals.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not true
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
13. Nothing motivates me to maintain my relationship with my partner.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Not true
3 – Mostly not true
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Mostly true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
14. Because I feel pleasure and freedom in our sexual relationship.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not true
3 – Mostly untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Mostly true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
15. Because this relationship gives me the opportunity to learn to express my opinion better on various issues.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not true
3 – Mostly untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Mostly true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
16. Because being in a long-term relationship with my partner is easy for me, as it helps me achieve goals I set previously.
1 – Absolutely does not reflect reality
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Completely reflects reality
17. Because it means I can share my emotions and special moments in life with someone.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
18. Because my relationship with my partner is an obligation that I must fulfill.
1 – Completely untrue of me
2 – Untrue of me
3 – Somewhat untrue of me
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true of me
6 – True of me
7 – Completely true of me
19. Because we have some meaningful, ongoing shared experiences that I enjoy.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Not true
3 – Mostly untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Mostly true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
20. Because being in a relationship with my partner is a unique situation in which I have to develop skills I did not even know I had.
1 – Does not reflect reality at all
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Completely reflects reality
21. Because time spent with my partner is stimulating and enjoyable for me.
1 – Does not reflect reality at all
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Reflects reality completely
1. I do not know why. In fact, I do not want to make any effort to maintain our relationship.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
2. Because I need to be with a partner in order to feel valued.
1 – Absolutely does not reflect reality
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Somewhat does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Somewhat reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Completely reflects reality
3. Because my relationship with my partner is the best way I know to grow as a person.
1 – Does not reflect reality at all
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Absolutely reflects reality
4. I do not know why. Unfortunately, I think our relationship may end, and I do not know how to keep it going.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not true
3 – Mostly not true
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Mostly true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
5. Because being a couple is one of the valuable opportunities for me to do something new.
1 – Completely does not reflect reality
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Completely reflects reality
6. Because I love the countless crazy and fun moments I experience with my partner.
1 – Absolutely does not reflect reality
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Absolutely reflects reality
7. Because I would feel guilty if I broke up with my partner.
1 – Does not reflect reality at all
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Completely reflects reality
8. I do not know. I feel helpless when I think that sooner or later we will have to break up.
1 – Absolutely does not reflect reality
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Absolutely reflects reality
9. Because my relationship with my partner allows me to have ongoing sexual intimacy with the person I have chosen.
1 – Does not reflect reality at all
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Somewhat reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Completely reflects reality
10. Because people who are important to me (children, family, friends) are proud of my relationship with my partner, and I would not want to disappoint them.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not true
3 – Somewhat not true
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
11. Because my partner would not be able to cope with a breakup.
1 – Completely does not reflect reality
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Mostly does not reflect reality
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Mostly reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Completely reflects reality
12. Because this is the person I chose to help me achieve important goals.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not true
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
13. Nothing motivates me to maintain my relationship with my partner.
1 – Does not reflect reality at all
2 – Does not reflect reality
3 – Rather does not reflect reality
4 – Neither reflects nor does not reflect reality
5 – Rather reflects reality
6 – Reflects reality
7 – Reflects reality completely
14. Because I feel pleasure and freedom in our sex life.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
15. Because this relationship gives me an opportunity to learn to express my opinions better on different issues.
1 – Absolutely not true
2 – Not true
3 – Rather not true
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Rather true
6 – True
7 – Absolutely true
16. Because it is easy for me to be in a long-term relationship with a partner, as it helps me achieve goals I set earlier.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
17. Because for me, it means I can share my emotions and special moments in life with someone.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor false
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
18. Because my relationship with my partner is an obligation that I must fulfill.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Not true
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Rather true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
19. Because we have meaningful, ongoing shared experiences that I enjoy.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
20. Because being in a relationship with my partner is a unique situation in which I need to develop skills I did not even realize I had to develop.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Mostly untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Mostly true
6 – True
7 – Completely true
21. Because spending time with my partner is stimulating and enjoyable for me.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Neither true nor untrue
5 – Somewhat true
6 – True
7 – Completely true