Love and Friendship Test - the question form
Questions: 18 · 4 minutes
1. When it is necessary to arrange a meeting in advance, this person:
tries not to make any promises;
makes promises but often does not keep them and changes their plans;
takes any opportunity and does everything possible to make the meeting happen;
checks their schedule and is willing to meet if/when they have time;
2. When conflict arises, this person:
avoids an argument by any means and withdraws;
expresses their feelings easily, states their needs, and listens to others;
is easily overwhelmed by emotions and starts to get angry;
takes the situation to heart and tries hard to preserve the relationship;
3. If a person has shown others their vulnerability in a situation, the next day they:
become distant, and this behavior may last for several days in a row;
feel more closely connected to you, without demanding anything;
become irritable or take a wait-and-see stance;
pull away slightly, but get over it quickly.
4. After an argument or disagreement, this person:
feels guilty, worries, and tries to quickly restore closeness;
easily distances themselves;
shows forgiveness and understanding;
sometimes tries to be closer, and at other times noticeably withdraws;
5. If you show that you are hurt, angry, or experiencing other strong emotions, this person:
may stay engaged and listen;
at first is very attentive and sympathetic, but later withdraws;
will try to help you cope with your feelings as much as possible;
acts cold and becomes distant;
6. If you are together at a crowded event, this person:
clings to you and stays by your side the whole time;
alternates between being too close and suddenly disappearing;
tries to remain independent and unruffled;
helps you feel calm and relaxed.
7. In terms of showing love and care, this person:
often expresses feelings easily;
is slow to show love and care, and does so rather rarely;
can be very loving, but also often shows negative emotions;
shows affection consistently.
8. This person talks about their needs:
Calmly and easily.
Rarely, although they show their emotions all the time.
Easily if irritated, although they usually do not show emotions.
Suddenly, out of the blue.
9. When faced with a problem, this person:
seeks support and tries not to be alone;
withdraws from others;
alternates between showing strong emotions and withdrawing;
prefers to be alone to think things through, but can easily rely on others.
10. If the conversation turns to marriage and children, this person:
expresses optimism and enthusiasm.
avoids discussing it.
talks about the importance and urgency of starting a family.
often makes negative comments about commitment and trust.
11. This person is afraid of being rejected and abandoned:
All the time.
After an argument.
Very rarely.
If they are afraid, they will tell the other person and try to prevent it from happening.
12. When this person feels hurt, they:
become passive-aggressive.
lash out at close others with accusations.
feel sad and worried.
talk about their feelings and needs.
13. If someone started showing romantic interest in this person's girlfriend or boyfriend, they would most likely:
Become very angry and withdraw.
Simply withdraw.
State their boundaries and needs.
Feel anxious and try to increase closeness with their partner as much as possible.
14. If I needed this person’s help, they would most likely:
try very hard to help, even at the expense of their own interests;
try very hard to help, but then feel resentful toward me for it;
step aside and not want to take responsibility;
support me, but only within limits they set for themselves.
15. If I pull away and act cold, this person:
also pulls away.
becomes worried and tries to get closer to me.
starts questioning me closely about what is going on.
tries to understand me and says that my coldness upsets them.
16. When I see this person again after a long separation, he or she:
is distant at first.
immediately shows pleasure, sometimes even too strongly.
is sometimes pleased, and sometimes distant.
is calm, pleased, and happy to see me.
17. This person makes me feel:
that I am seen, heard, and understood;
coldness and emotional distance;
that they are confused and torn between warmth and coldness;
that I am adored and idealized;
18. If I lose my temper, this person is most likely to:
Forgive me, but first express their upset out loud and state their boundaries.
Try very hard to make things right and seek approval.
Respond sharply, then feel guilty afterward.
Withdraw and keep their distance for several days.