Love Test

People who want to understand how they approach closeness, conflict, and emotional dependence can use this love test as a structured reflection tool. It suits reflection on their own reactions or a partner’s behavior in close relationships. An attachment style test can organize observations about reassurance, boundaries, vulnerability, and repair without reducing a relationship to one simple label.

What This Test Measures

Across the scenarios, this lover test examines plans, conflict, vulnerability, reassurance, support, separation, and commitment, showing how a person seeks closeness, protects independence, manages strong feelings, and responds to uncertainty. Four dimensions organize the result:

• Secure (0-8) reflects reliability, openness, availability, and supportive closeness; Low security (0-2), Moderate security (3-5), and High security (6-8) are shown.
• Anxious (0-8) reflects rejection fear, loneliness, self-sacrifice, and efforts to restore closeness; Low (0-2), Moderate (3-5), and High (6-8) are shown.
• Anxious-Avoidant (0-8) reflects wanting closeness while withdrawing, emotional overanalysis, and suspiciousness; Low (0-2), Moderate (3-5), and High (6-8) are shown.
• Dismissive-Avoidant (0-8) reflects distancing, limited engagement, and viewing vulnerability or closeness as unsafe; Low (0-2), Moderate (3-5), and High (6-8) are shown.

Methodology and Evidence Base

Each item uses a forced-choice format: four descriptions present a situation, and the respondent chooses the option best fitting the person considered. Scenarios cover availability, conflict repair, vulnerability, dependence, boundaries, separation, jealousy, and commitment, so interpretation rests on response patterns rather than one answer.

Scoring is profile-based, not a single result. Responses are summarized across four attachment dimensions, each receiving a score and level band. The profile lets you test your love through recurring responses while treating the result as a context-dependent snapshot.

Conceptually, the questionnaire aligns with the Relationship Questionnaire (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991) and Hazan and Shaver’s 1987 account of romantic attachment, but is not a direct adaptation of either. Rubin’s 1970 work addresses romantic love; Fraley, Waller, and Brennan’s 2000 analysis emphasizes caution when interpreting self-report attachment measures.

The profile is an online self-report tool without established norms for every user. Mood, recent conflict, wishful thinking, limited self-awareness, or incomplete knowledge of another person can influence answers; results should guide reflection rather than assign a permanent label or infer unsupported motives.