Love and Friendship Test

Learn your attachment style in love and friendship in about 4 minutes. Get clear insight for growth, better communication, and a strong framework for counseling conversations.
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October 2, 2025
October 2, 2025
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4/8
Secure (S)
Measures the degree of secure (reliable) attachment reflected in dependability, openness, and comfort with vulnerability in close relationships.
Low security
Moderate security
High security
0 – 2: Low security | 3 – 5: Moderate security | 6 – 8: High security
A score of 4 suggests a moderate level of secure attachment, with some consistent capacity for openness and support alongside areas that may feel less steady under stress.
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2/8
Anxious (A)
Measures the tendency toward anxious attachment patterns such as fear of rejection, loneliness, and self-sacrificing behavior in close relationships.
Low
Moderate
High
0 – 2: Low | 3 – 5: Moderate | 6 – 8: High
A score of 2 indicates low anxious attachment tendencies, suggesting relatively little fear of rejection or overcompensating behavior in relationships.
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5/8
Anxious-Avoidant (AA)
Measures the degree of ambivalence in close relationships, combining a desire for closeness with discomfort that leads to distancing and heightened insecurity.
Low
Moderate
High
0 – 2: Low | 3 – 5: Moderate | 6 – 8: High
A score of 5 suggests a moderate anxious-avoidant pattern, where closeness may be strongly desired but is often mixed with doubt, overanalysis, and periods of pulling away.
example score
7/8
Dismissive-Avoidant (DA)
Measures the tendency to downplay closeness and rely on emotional or physical distance in relationships.
Low
Moderate
High
0 – 2: Low | 3 – 5: Moderate | 6 – 8: High
A score of 7 falls in the High range, suggesting a strong pattern of keeping emotional distance and finding closeness feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

Couples in a rough patch
41%OF USERS
Partners take it together to understand recurring conflicts, reassurance needs, and distancing patterns so they can communicate more clearly.
Self-growth seekers
34%OF USERS
People take it solo to identify their attachment tendencies and learn what helps them feel safe and connected in close relationships.
Therapy and coaching clients
25%OF USERS
Clients use it with a counselor to name patterns from past experiences and guide practical goals for healthier bonds.
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Safe (reliable) (S()
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4.5
Normal range
3.1 — 5.9
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Anxious (A)
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5.3
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3.9 — 6.7
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Anxious-avoidant (A)
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Avoidant-dismissive (A)
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6
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4.7 — 7.2
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8
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Frequently Asked Questions

What does this test measure?
It screens for common attachment strategies in close relationships: secure, anxious, and avoidant. It summarizes patterns linked to emotional needs, boundaries, and responses to closeness and conflict.
How long does it take and how many items are included?
Estimated completion time is about 4 minutes. The questionnaire contains 18 items.
Who can take it?
It is appropriate for adults who want a brief overview of relationship patterns. It may be completed individually or separately by two people for comparison.
How should responses be selected?
Choose the option that best reflects typical behavior across recent close relationships. Avoid answering based on one unusual event or an idealized preference.
How should results be used in counseling or self-reflection?
Results provide a starting framework for discussing needs, triggers, and protective strategies. They do not replace diagnosis and should be interpreted alongside history and current context.
WHAT THE TEST MEASURES
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Love and Friendship Test

Love and Friendship Test - Symptoms and Signs

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This measure is intended to support a brief self-report screening of interpersonal feelings and attitudes in close relationships. The Love and Friendship Test is commonly described as a quick questionnaire that can be used to facilitate discussion of relational patterns and perceived emotional connection. Rubin is cited in association with this instrument.

The measure includes 18 items and typically takes about 4 minutes to complete. Item content is generally oriented toward perceptions of closeness, affection, and friendship-related sentiments, and results are best interpreted as descriptive indicators rather than diagnostic conclusions.

In clinical or counseling contexts, the Love and Friendship Test may be used to structure conversation about relationship functioning, clarify themes relevant to treatment goals, and identify areas that warrant further assessment with validated measures and clinical interview.

Author: Zick Rubin
Literature: Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. R. Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. 1987.
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