Love Is Like War Test

In 3 minutes, learn how you handle relationship conflict, from manipulation to passivity to playful ease. Get clear, practical insight to set boundaries and improve communication fast.

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How the Scales are Structured

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34/60

Total Score (TS)

Measures how consistently you maintain balance, fairness, and principled boundaries when navigating relationship conflict.

Imbalanced

Balanced

Rigid/Extreme

15 – 29: Imbalanced | 30 – 49: Balanced | 50 – 60: Rigid/Extreme

A score of 34 falls in the Balanced range, suggesting a generally fair, steady approach to conflict with a willingness to help while keeping things even.

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DATA-BASED USER COHORTS

Who Usually Takes This Test?

In Relationship Conflict Loop

41%OF USERS

People who keep running into the same fights with a partner and want to understand their default conflict style before it escalates again.

Post-Breakup Pattern Seekers

34%OF USERS

Recently single people trying to make sense of what went wrong and spot whether they played the schemer, the victim, or the peacemaker.

Curious Drama-Free Daters

25%OF USERS

People who like quick self-tests and want a light but revealing check on how they handle tension while dating without turning it into a big deal.

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RESULTS YOU CAN ACTUALLY USE

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Points scored (Ps)

Average

32.2

Normal range

23.7 — 40.7

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Frequently Asked Questions

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What does this test measure?

It assesses typical responses to conflict and tension in romantic relationships. It classifies patterns such as manipulation, passivity, and low-risk, playful engagement.

How should responses be selected?

Select the option that best matches what would most likely be done in the described situation. Answer based on typical behavior rather than an ideal response.

How long does it take and how many items are included?

Estimated completion time is about 3 minutes. The test includes 15 brief scenario-based items.

How should results be interpreted?

Results describe an interaction style that may appear under relationship stress. They do not diagnose mental health conditions or predict outcomes with certainty.

Can the results be used in counseling or training settings?

Results can support discussion of boundaries, communication habits, and conflict strategies. They may be used as a starting point for couples counseling or skills-based workshops.

WHAT THE TEST MEASURES

About This Assessment

Love Is Like War Test

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The measure is designed to explore how an individual typically responds to interpersonal conflict and tension in romantic contexts. Love Is Like War presents brief relationship scenarios intended to elicit common interaction strategies (e.g., assertive, avoidant, or manipulative responses) and may support discussion of perceived roles in conflict. It was developed by Z. Rubin.

The instrument consists of 15 items and typically takes about 3 minutes to complete. Scores are generally interpreted as an overview of preferred conflict-management style rather than a diagnostic indicator; results should be considered alongside clinical interview and relevant contextual information. In clinical or coaching settings, Love Is Like War may be used as a structured prompt to clarify patterns, identify areas for skills-building, and guide further assessment when indicated.

Author: Z. Rubin

Literature: Hendrick, S. S., & Hendrick, C. Love styles. In R. J. Sternberg & M. L. Barnes (Eds.), The psychology of love. Yale University Press. 1988.

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