Family Emotional Communications, FEC Test - the question form

1. In my family, we usually did not tell each other about our mood.

2. In our family, it was customary to discuss one another’s personal problems and feelings.

3. In our family, it was customary to express affectionate feelings toward one another.

4. In our family, restraint in expressing feelings was valued.

5. Since childhood, I was taught to keep family problems and difficulties hidden from other people.

6. In my family, it was considered inappropriate to complain about problems or difficulties to people outside the family (non-relatives).

7. In our family, it was easy to share complaints with each other about things that were bothering us.

8. In my family, children were scolded or punished for showing anger or aggression.

9. In our family, restrained and stoic behavior was valued in situations of grief, disappointment, or failure.

10. My mother (father) became very upset and worried even about my minor setbacks.

11. My mother (father) often worried about me.

12. In my family, we often talked about the difficulties and dangers of life.

13. My mother (father) always tried to protect me from all possible mistakes and dangers.

14. If I was in a bad mood, my mother (father) also became discouraged.

15. My mother (father) often worried that something might happen to me.

16. My mother (father) often expressed worry about health.

17. My parents got angry if I expressed any dissatisfaction with life.

18. My parents dismissed my feelings and problems, believing that I was making too much of them.

19. My mother (father) became very upset about my failures.

20. When I made mistakes, my mother or father often criticized me.

21. It was important to my mother (father) to be proud of me.

22. My mother (father) often praised me.

23. As a child, I was often told that I should strive for perfection and do my best in everything I undertook.

24. As a child, I often felt that my parents were dissatisfied with me.

25. In my family, I was often compared to other, more successful children.

26. In my family, children were taught not to trust strangers (people outside the family).

27. When talking about other people, my parents were more likely to criticize them than to praise them.

28. When I had problems in childhood, my mother or father often solved them for me.

29. My mother or father often interfered in my affairs and insisted on their own solutions.

30. My mother (father) tried to keep track of everything I did in order to better control me.