Family Emotional Communications, FEC Test - the question form
Questions: 30 · 6 minutes
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1. In my family, we usually did not tell each other about our mood.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
2. In our family, it was customary to discuss one another’s personal problems and feelings.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
3. In our family, it was customary to express affectionate feelings toward one another.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
4. In our family, restraint in expressing feelings was valued.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
5. Since childhood, I was taught to keep family problems and difficulties hidden from other people.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
6. In my family, it was considered inappropriate to complain about problems or difficulties to people outside the family (non-relatives).
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
7. In our family, it was easy to share complaints with each other about things that were bothering us.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
8. In my family, children were scolded or punished for showing anger or aggression.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
9. In our family, restrained and stoic behavior was valued in situations of grief, disappointment, or failure.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
10. My mother (father) became very upset and worried even about my minor setbacks.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
11. My mother (father) often worried about me.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
12. In my family, we often talked about the difficulties and dangers of life.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
13. My mother (father) always tried to protect me from all possible mistakes and dangers.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
14. If I was in a bad mood, my mother (father) also became discouraged.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
15. My mother (father) often worried that something might happen to me.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
16. My mother (father) often expressed worry about health.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
17. My parents got angry if I expressed any dissatisfaction with life.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
18. My parents dismissed my feelings and problems, believing that I was making too much of them.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
19. My mother (father) became very upset about my failures.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
20. When I made mistakes, my mother or father often criticized me.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
21. It was important to my mother (father) to be proud of me.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
22. My mother (father) often praised me.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
23. As a child, I was often told that I should strive for perfection and do my best in everything I undertook.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
24. As a child, I often felt that my parents were dissatisfied with me.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
25. In my family, I was often compared to other, more successful children.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
26. In my family, children were taught not to trust strangers (people outside the family).
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
27. When talking about other people, my parents were more likely to criticize them than to praise them.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
28. When I had problems in childhood, my mother or father often solved them for me.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
29. My mother or father often interfered in my affairs and insisted on their own solutions.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
30. My mother (father) tried to keep track of everything I did in order to better control me.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
1. In my family, people generally did not talk to each other about their mood.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
2. In our family, it was customary to discuss one another’s personal problems and emotional experiences.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
3. In our family, it was common to express affectionate feelings toward one another.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
4. In our family, restraint in showing emotions was valued.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
5. From childhood, I was taught to keep family problems and difficulties hidden from other people.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
6. In my family, it was considered improper to complain about problems or difficulties to people outside the family (non-relatives).
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
7. In our family, it was easy to talk to each other about problems.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
8. In our family, children were scolded or punished for showing anger or aggression.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
9. In our family, restrained and stoic behavior was valued in situations of grief, disappointment, or failure.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
10. My mother (father) became very upset and worried about even minor failures of mine.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
11. My mother (father) often worried about me.
1 - Definitely yes
2 - Probably yes
3 - Probably no
4 - Definitely no
12. In my family, we often talked about the difficulties and dangers of life.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
13. My mother (father) always tried to protect me from all possible mistakes and dangers.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
14. If I was in a bad mood, my mother (father) would also become discouraged.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
15. My mother (father) often feared that something might happen to me.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
16. My mother (father) often expressed concern about health.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
17. My parents got angry if I expressed any dissatisfaction with life.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
18. My parents dismissed my feelings and problems, saying I was exaggerating my difficulties.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
19. My mother (father) became very upset when I failed.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
20. My mother or father often criticized me for my mistakes.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
21. It was important to my mother (father) to be proud of me.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
22. My mother or father often praised me.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
23. As a child, I was often told that I should strive for perfection and do my very best in everything I took on.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
24. As a child, I often felt that my parents were dissatisfied with me.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
25. In my family, I was often compared to other, more successful children.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
26. In our family, children were taught not to trust strangers (people outside the family).
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
27. When talking about other people, my parents criticized them more often than they praised them.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably no
4 – Definitely no
28. When I had problems as a child, my mother (father) often solved them for me.
1 – Definitely yes
2 – Probably yes
3 – Probably not
4 – Definitely not
29. My mother (father) often interfered in my affairs and insisted on their own solutions.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no
30. My mother/father tried to keep up with everything I did in order to control me better.
Definitely yes
Probably yes
Probably no
Definitely no