Existential Motivations Test in the MLO, TEMMO - the question form
Questions: 36 · 7 minutes
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1. I feel that my partner values me as a person.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
2. I feel that my partner treats me fairly.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Generally untrue
4 – Mostly true
5 – Generally true
6 – Completely true
3. These relationships make my life more structured.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Somewhat does not describe me
4 – Somewhat describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Describes me completely
4. These relationships make me feel protected.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Somewhat does not describe me
4 – Somewhat describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Describes me completely
5. There is closeness in our relationship.
1 – Does not apply at all
2 – Mostly does not apply
3 – Rather does not apply
4 – Rather applies
5 – Mostly applies
6 – Completely applies
6. I feel that my partner often does not notice me.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
7. Over time, our relationship becomes filled with new, important meaning.
1 – Does not apply at all
2 – Mostly does not apply
3 – Somewhat does not apply
4 – Somewhat applies
5 – Mostly applies
6 – Completely applies
8. I feel constrained in this relationship.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly not true
3 – Rather not true
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
9. Time spent together strengthens the bond between us.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly not true
3 – Rather not true
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
10. I feel that my partner neglects me.
1 – Does not describe at all
2 – Mostly does not describe
3 – Rather does not describe
4 – Rather describes
5 – Mostly describes
6 – Describes completely
11. My partner values my uniqueness and individuality.
1 – Does not describe at all
2 – Mostly does not describe
3 – Rather does not describe
4 – Rather describes
5 – Mostly describes
6 – Completely describes
12. In this relationship, I do not have enough personal space.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Completely describes me
13. Because of this relationship, my outlook on life broadens.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
14. I feel warmth in our relationship.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Completely describes me
15. The negative things that occur in our relationship do not destroy it.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
16. I feel that there is complete mutual understanding between us.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
17. Through this relationship, I have discovered many new and interesting things about the world and about myself.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Completely describes me
18. I feel that my partner is always on my side, no matter what happens.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
19. Because of this relationship, I feel involved in something important.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Describes me completely
20. I am very aware of my partner's pain and joy.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Completely describes me
21. I feel that my partner often hurts my feelings.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
22. I feel that something truly valuable can come out of our relationship.
1 – Does not apply at all
2 – Mostly does not apply
3 – Rather does not apply
4 – Rather applies
5 – Mostly applies
6 – Completely applies
23. Because of this relationship, I feel that I am not alone in life.
1 – Does not describe at all
2 – Mostly does not describe
3 – Somewhat does not describe
4 – Somewhat describes
5 – Mostly describes
6 – Completely describes
24. I can describe our relationship as equal.
1 – Does not describe at all
2 – Largely does not describe
3 – Rather does not describe
4 – Mostly describes
5 – Largely describes
6 – Describes completely
25. Because of this relationship, my opportunities expand.
1 – Does not apply at all
2 – Mostly does not apply
3 – Rather does not apply
4 – Rather applies
5 – Mostly applies
6 – Completely applies
26. I would describe our relationship as stable.
1 – Does not describe at all
2 – Mostly does not describe
3 – Rather does not describe
4 – Rather describes
5 – Mostly describes
6 – Describes completely
27. When my partner is nearby, I feel that life is good.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly not true
3 – Somewhat not true
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
28. Through this relationship, I find my direction in life.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Largely does not describe me
3 – Mostly does not describe me
4 – Mostly describes me
5 – Largely describes me
6 – Completely describes me
29. Our relationship has a solid foundation.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
30. I do not consider the time spent in this relationship to have been wasted.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
31. I am glad to spend a lot of time on this relationship.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Somewhat does not describe me
4 – Somewhat describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Completely describes me
32. I feel that I need more distance in this relationship.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Describes me completely
33. This relationship is an important part of my life.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly not true
3 – Rather not true
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
34. I feel that my partner respects me and what is important to me.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
35. I consistently feel connected to my partner.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Somewhat does not describe me
4 – Somewhat describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Completely describes me
36. I think our relationship has a future.
1 – Does not apply at all
2 – Mostly does not apply
3 – Rather does not apply
4 – Rather applies
5 – Mostly applies
6 – Completely applies
1. I feel that my partner values me as a person.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
2. I feel that my partner treats me fairly.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
3. These relationships make my life more structured.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
4. Because of this relationship, I feel protected.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
5. There is closeness in our relationship.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
6. I feel that my partner often does not notice me.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Describes me completely
7. Over time, our relationship becomes filled with new important meaning.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly not true
3 – Rather not true
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
8. I feel constrained in this relationship.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
9. Time spent together strengthens the bond between us.
1 – Does not describe at all
2 – Mostly does not describe
3 – Rather does not describe
4 – Rather describes
5 – Mostly describes
6 – Describes completely
10. I feel that my partner neglects me.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
11. My partner values my uniqueness and individuality.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
12. In this relationship, I do not have enough personal space.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
13. These relationships broaden my horizons in life.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
14. I feel warmth in our relationship.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
15. The negative things that occur in our relationship do not destroy it.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly not true
3 – Somewhat not true
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
16. I feel that there is complete mutual understanding between us.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly not true
3 – Rather not true
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
17. Because of this relationship, I have discovered many new and interesting things about the world and about myself.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Somewhat describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Describes me completely
18. I have a sense that my partner is always on my side, no matter what happens.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
19. Because of this relationship, I feel involved in something important.
1 – Does not apply at all
2 – Mostly does not apply
3 – Rather does not apply
4 – Rather applies
5 – Mostly applies
6 – Completely applies
20. I am attuned to my partner’s pain and joy.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
21. I feel that my partner often hurts my feelings.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
22. I feel that something truly valuable could come from our relationship.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Completely describes me
23. Because of this relationship, I feel that I am not alone in life.
1 – Does not describe at all
2 – Mostly does not describe
3 – Rather does not describe
4 – Rather describes
5 – Mostly describes
6 – Completely describes
24. I would describe our relationship as equal.
1 – Does not describe at all
2 – Mostly does not describe
3 – Somewhat does not describe
4 – Somewhat describes
5 – Mostly describes
6 – Completely describes
25. Because of this relationship, my opportunities expand.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
26. I can describe our relationship as stable.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Rather untrue
4 – Rather true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
27. When my partner is near, I feel that life is good.
1 – Does not apply at all
2 – Mostly does not apply
3 – Rather does not apply
4 – Rather applies
5 – Mostly applies
6 – Completely applies
28. Because of this relationship, I find my direction in life.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Describes me completely
29. Our relationship has a solid foundation.
1 – Does not describe at all
2 – Mostly does not describe
3 – Rather does not describe
4 – Somewhat describes
5 – Mostly describes
6 – Completely describes
30. I do not consider the time spent in this relationship to have been wasted.
1 – Not at all true
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
31. I am glad to devote a lot of time to this relationship.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly not true
3 – Somewhat not true
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
32. I feel that I need more distance in this relationship.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
33. These relationships occupy an important place in my life.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly not true
3 – Somewhat not true
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
34. I feel that my partner respects me and what is important to me.
1 – Does not describe me at all
2 – Mostly does not describe me
3 – Rather does not describe me
4 – Rather describes me
5 – Mostly describes me
6 – Completely describes me
35. I constantly feel connected to my partner.
1 – Not true at all
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
36. I think our relationship has a future.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true