Emotional Schemas Scale in Relationships, RESS Test - the question form
Questions: 14 · 3 minutes
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1. My partner helps me see meaning in my emotions.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
2. When I talk about my emotions, my partner makes me feel cared for.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not completely untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
3. My partner criticizes me and tries to make me feel guilty and ashamed about my emotions.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Slightly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Quite true
6 – Completely true
4. My partner helps me understand that it is normal to have mixed feelings.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
5. My partner links my painful feelings to important values.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
6. My partner thinks that I do not control my feelings.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
7. When I talk about my feelings, my partner seems unemotional and indifferent.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
8. My partner thinks that I am irrational most of the time.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
9. My partner thinks that my painful feelings last forever.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
10. My partner helps me see that others feel the same way I do.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
11. My partner accepts and tolerates my painful feelings and does not pressure me to change.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not entirely untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
12. It seems that my partner repeatedly thinks about why I feel the way I feel.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not entirely true
3 – Not entirely untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
13. My partner encourages me to express my feelings and to talk about how I feel.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
14. My partner blames me for looking sad.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
1. My partner helps me see meaning in my emotions.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
2. When I talk about my emotions, my partner makes me feel cared for.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Mostly untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Quite true
6 – Completely true
3. My partner criticizes me and tries to make me feel guilty and ashamed about my emotions.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not entirely true
3 – Not entirely untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
4. My partner helps me understand that it is normal to have mixed feelings.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
5. My partner connects my painful feelings with important values.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not entirely untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
6. My partner thinks I do not control my feelings.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
7. When I talk about my feelings, my partner seems emotionally unresponsive and indifferent.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not entirely untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
8. My partner thinks that I am irrational most of the time.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not entirely untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
9. My partner thinks that my painful feelings last forever.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not entirely true
3 – Not entirely untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
10. My partner helps me see that other people feel the same way I do.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Fairly true
6 – Completely true
11. My partner accepts and tolerates my painful feelings and does not pressure me to change.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Rather untrue
3 – Somewhat untrue
4 – Slightly true
5 – Quite true
6 – Completely true
12. It seems that my partner repeatedly thinks about why I feel the way I do.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Quite true
6 – Completely true
13. My partner encourages me to express my feelings and to talk about how I feel.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not entirely true
3 – Not entirely untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Mostly true
6 – Completely true
14. My partner blames me for looking sad.
1 – Completely untrue
2 – Not quite true
3 – Not quite untrue
4 – Somewhat true
5 – Quite true
6 – Completely true