Drama Triangle Questionnaire Test - the question form
Questions: 30 · 6 minutes
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1. When someone is angry with me, it is my fault.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
2. Other people's feelings and needs are more important than mine.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
3. People will think I am too aggressive if I show my feelings or speak about my needs directly.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
4. I worry about how others might react when I express my feelings or needs.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
5. I have to walk on eggshells to avoid doing something that would make other people angry with me or cause them to leave me.
1 - Almost never
2 - Sometimes
3 - Often
4 - Almost always
6. I have to give up my needs in relationships for other people to want to be with me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
7. I need to be perfect for others to love me and not leave me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
8. When making important decisions, I rely on others.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
9. I hold back in my reactions to what others say and do, rather than saying what I really think.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
10. How I feel about myself depends on what other people think of me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
11. It is unsafe for me to ask others directly for what I want or need.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
12. I avoid taking responsibility.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
13. When I face a problem, I can think of only two mutually conflicting ways to solve it.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
14. I need to make sure that what I do meets other people’s needs so that they will like me and want to be with me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
15. It is better to seek relationships in which I can meet other people’s needs and make them happy.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
16. If I have to ask the people I love for something I want or need, it means they do not love me enough to know what I need.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
17. I find it difficult to understand what I want or what my needs are.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
18. I cannot let others get too close to me, or my life will be taken over by their needs.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
19. I find it hard to understand how I really feel.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
20. When I first meet someone, I exaggerate my achievements to make them like me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
21. If people knew who I really am, they would not want to be with me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
22. I am afraid that people will find out that I am not who they think I am.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
23. I cannot ask other people for help, even when I need it, because they will think I am too needy.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
24. I feel controlled by what others expect of me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
25. I think it is very important to have the “right answers”; otherwise, others will think I am stupid.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
26. I cannot admit a mistake because I am afraid people might reject me if I do.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
27. I refuse offers of help from other people, even when I need it.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
28. I compare myself with others because I experience myself as either “one-up” or “one-down” in my relationships with them.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
29. It hurts when others do not acknowledge my achievements.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
30. I do not deserve other people’s love.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
1. When someone is angry with me, it is my fault.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
2. Other people's feelings and needs are more important than mine.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
3. People will think I am too aggressive if I express my feelings or speak directly about my needs.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
4. I worry about how others might react when I express my feelings or needs.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
5. I have to walk on eggshells so I do not do something that will make other people angry with me or cause them to leave me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
6. I have to give up my own needs in relationships for other people to want to be with me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
7. I must be perfect for others to love me and not leave me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
8. When making important decisions, I rely on others.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
9. I hold back in response to what others say and do, rather than saying what I really think.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
10. How I feel about myself depends on what other people think of me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
11. It is unsafe for me to ask others directly for what I want or need.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
12. I avoid taking responsibility.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
13. When I face a problem, I can think of only two opposing ways to solve it.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
14. I need to make sure that what I do meets other people's needs in order to be liked and for them to want to be with me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
15. It is better to seek relationships where I can meet other people's needs and make them happy.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
16. If I have to ask the people I love for something I want or need, it means they do not love me enough to know what I need.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
17. It is hard for me to understand what I want or what I need.
1 - Almost never
2 - Sometimes
3 - Often
4 - Almost always
18. I cannot allow others to get too close to me; otherwise my life will be consumed by their needs.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
19. It is hard for me to understand how I really feel.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
20. I exaggerate my achievements when I first meet someone in order to be liked.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
21. If people knew who I really am, they would not want to be with me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
22. I am afraid that people will find out I am not who they think I am.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
23. I cannot ask other people for help, even when I need it, because they will think I am too needy.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
24. I feel controlled by what others expect of me.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
25. I think it is very important to have the “right answers”; otherwise, others will think I am stupid.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
26. I cannot admit a mistake because I am afraid people might reject me if I do.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
27. I turn down offers of help from other people, even when I need it.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
28. I compare myself with others because I see myself as either “one-up” or “one-down” in my relationships with them.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
29. It hurts when others do not acknowledge my achievements.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always
30. I do not deserve other people's love.
1 – Almost never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Often
4 – Almost always