Assertiveness Questionnaire Test - the question form
Questions: 80 · 15 minutes
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1. I often reflect on the meaning or purpose of my birth and life.
Yes, often
No, rarely
2. The work I regularly do gives me genuine pleasure.
Yes, it does
No, it does not
3. I feel fully in control of my life and destiny.
Yes, I feel that way
No, I do not feel that way
4. I do not feel compassion, empathy, or pity for other people.
Yes
No, I do
5. I am convinced that not a drop falls from the sky without God's will.
Yes, I am convinced
No, I am not convinced
6. I am usually able to remain true to myself despite social provocation and temptation (e.g., pressure or emotional blackmail from friends or family).
Yes, usually
No, usually not
7. I do not have a cherished dream that warms my heart and gives my life meaning.
Yes, I do not have a cherished dream
No, I do
8. I have the right to seek and know the truth.
Yes, I do
No, I do not
9. I try to be considerate and attentive to others so that I can offer my help in time.
Yes, I try to
No. Why should I?
10. I feel uncomfortable asking other people for help. If they refuse, my self-respect suffers.
Yes, I feel uncomfortable.
No, I feel comfortable.
11. If someone asks me for something and I cannot help, it is hard for me to say "no."
Yes, it is hard
No, it is not hard
12. I can insist on my point of view calmly and methodically.
Yes, I can
No, I cannot
13. I do not like planning. The main thing is to get started, and then whatever happens, happens.
Yes
No
14. If I am sold spoiled goods at a supermarket, I will definitely take them back and ask for a replacement or a refund.
Yes, definitely
No, I would probably just throw it away
15. When looking for a solution to a problem, I often follow the principle: "Anything is permitted that is not prohibited."
Yes, I often do
No, I rarely do
16. I prefer doing something pleasant for others rather than receiving it from them.
Yes
No
17. In any negotiation, each side is concerned only with its own benefit.
Yes, only with their own
No, not only
18. I do not become flustered by an aggressive, pushy person and do not let them manipulate me.
Yes
No, I do become flustered
19. I often give in to praise and flattery and become compliant and accommodating.
Yes, often
No, rarely
20. I can assess my thoughts and actions objectively.
Yes, I can
No, I cannot
21. When I fail, I panic and start to feel that I am inferior to others.
Yes, I feel inferior
No, I do not feel inferior
22. I criticize myself strongly for mistakes and failures, but I do not praise myself at all for achievements and successes.
Yes
No
23. When I am overwhelmed by strong, unwanted feelings, I cannot do anything about them and just wait until I calm down.
Yes, I cannot do anything about it
No, I can get rid of them
24. I sometimes enjoy using alcohol or drugs, despite their harmful effects on health.
Yes, I do
No. I avoid using them
25. If you try hard enough, you can avoid making any mistakes in life.
Yes, if you try hard enough
No, no matter how hard you try
26. I can easily admit that I do not know something, do not understand something, or cannot do something.
Yes
No, I cannot
27. I believe that mistakes, setbacks, or failures are an inevitable part of any real undertaking.
Yes, I think so
No, I do not think so
28. In a group of people I do not know, I behave in a reserved way.
Yes
No
29. When someone is aggressive toward me, I respond with aggression.
Yes
No, not with aggression, but with dignity
30. I do not like people who try to push themselves into being my friends.
Yes, I do not like it
No, that is their right
31. People might say I am inconsistent because I change my decisions so often. But life does not stand still either.
Yes, they might say that
No, I don’t think they would
32. The information I keep is my own, and it is my personal choice whom to share it with and whom not to.
Yes
No, I need to explain myself and be understood
33. I often make excuses even when no one asks me to.
Yes, very much
No
34. I cannot do a job poorly; I would rather not take it on.
Yes, I cannot
No, I can if circumstances require it
35. Self-irony is what helps me get through awkward situations.
Yes
No
36. Boredom is my usual state, and I look for ways to pass the time. Weekends and holidays feel like a punishment to me.
Yes, I look for ways to pass the time
No, I do not have time to be bored
37. I feel proud of my friends' and peers' successes.
Yes
No. Let them be proud of me.
38. I like being fully absorbed in a real task, forgetting everything else and focusing only on it.
Yes
No
39. Feeling another person’s support makes me feel more confident and protected.
Yes
No, I am not familiar with this feeling
40. Caring for a loved one is one of the main values in my life. When I am able to take care of them, I feel glad.
Yes
No
41. When there is disagreement in negotiations, I firmly insist that my position is the only possible one.
Yes, I firmly insist
No
42. I feel free when I decide for myself what to do and how to do it.
Yes
No
43. For the most part, I work and live not with enjoyment, but rather out of obligation.
Yes, for the most part
No, for the most part I do so with enjoyment
44. In crowded public transportation, I do not pay attention to whether my presence is comfortable for others.
Yes, I do not pay attention
No, I do pay attention
45. I continue to be amazed by the remarkable workings of nature and the human body.
Yes
No, I am not amazed by this
46. What others think and say about me is more important to me than what I think about myself.
Yes, more important
No
47. I have difficulty forgiving others for things I readily forgive myself for.
Yes
No
48. I often feel like an active participant in my own life and future.
Yes, often
No
49. There is a right to a "white lie," for example telling a terminally ill person that they are healthy.
Yes
There is no right to any lie
50. I often expect life to take a bad turn, and I am not at all confident about my future.
Yes
No
51. Genuine caring for others and serving them requires serious sacrifice, not just small gestures of attention.
Yes
No
52. I prefer not to take on responsibilities toward others and try not to make promises to anyone.
Yes
No
53. I do not like it when someone says to me, "you must..." instead of asking, "please...".
Yes, I do not like it
No, I do not consider this particularly important
54. When the person I am talking to becomes quite tiresome, I can politely ask them to change the subject or continue another time without feeling awkward.
Yes
No
55. The concepts of "honor" and "conscience" are outdated and only get in the way of living.
Yes
No, they are not outdated
56. As a rule, after completing a task, I do not increase the difficulty of the next one, to avoid the risk of failing and losing self-respect.
Yes, I do not increase it
No, I increase the difficulty and take the risk
57. I feel happy when I help a frail person cross the road or get past an obstacle.
Yes, I do
No, I feel it is my duty
58. I try to do everything to the highest standard, in a way no one else can.
Yes, I try to
No, it depends on what I stand to gain
59. If I were not afraid of surgery and possible complications, I would significantly change my appearance.
Yes
No, under no circumstances
60. I often regret things that I am unable to change.
Yes, often
No, rarely
61. I do not tolerate being teased in a group setting.
Yes
No
62. I always throw a used plastic bottle in a trash bin; if there is no bin, I take it home.
Yes
No
63. I sometimes feel sorry for Christmas trees that are cut down in the forest.
Yes
No
64.
Yes
No
65. When I do not understand something, it is difficult for me to ask again without worrying about looking foolish.
Yes
No
66. I am not free from superstitions or belief in fate predictions, and I believe in psychics.
Yes
No
67. At a pedestrian crossing, I am not inclined to give way to cars.
Yes, I do not give way
No, I tend to give way
68. True service to other people cannot be anything but selfless.
Yes
No, it can
69. I find it difficult to say, "I was wrong."
Yes
No
70. There is no point in analyzing my mistakes; what is done is done.
Yes
No
71. Any criticism only irritates me.
Yes
No
72. If someone in the checkout line says, "Can you hurry up?", I calmly reply that I cannot.
Yes
No
73. When buying something expensive, I would like others to be jealous.
Yes
No, I would not
74. I pursue my goals in life without regard for others.
Yes
No
75. I am not very persistent in achieving my goals.
Yes
No
76. I do not depend on others' goodwill and would not respond to a request like, "Be a friend—run out and get some beer."
Yes
No
77. When I express my own opinion, I am afraid of seeming like an outsider.
Yes
No
78. I cannot watch animals being killed, even in a movie, without feeling upset.
Yes
No, I can
79. If I do not like something, it is difficult to make me do it.
Yes
No
80. I am lucky to have been born; I might not have been.
Yes
No
1. I often reflect on the meaning or purpose of my birth and my life.
Yes, often
No, rarely
2. The work I regularly do brings me genuine enjoyment.
Yes, it does
No, it does not
3. I feel in control of my life and my future.
Yes, I do
No, I do not
4. I do not feel compassion, empathy, or pity for others.
Yes
No, I do
5. I am convinced that nothing happens without the will of the Almighty.
Yes, I am convinced
No, I am not convinced
6. Most of the time, I am able to remain true to myself despite social pressure and temptations (pressure or blackmail from friends or family).
Yes, most of the time I can
No, most of the time I cannot
7. I do not have a cherished dream that comforts me and gives my life meaning.
Yes, I do not have a cherished dream
No, I do
8. I have the right to seek and know the truth.
Yes, I do
No, I do not
9. I try to be attentive and considerate toward other people so that I can offer help in time.
Yes, I try to
No. Why should I?
10. I feel uncomfortable asking other people for help; if they refuse, it affects my self-respect.
Yes, I feel uncomfortable
No, I feel comfortable
11. If someone asks me for something and I cannot help, it is hard for me to say "no."
Yes, it is hard
No, it is not hard
12. I can insist on my point of view calmly and steadily.
Yes, I can
No, I cannot
13. I do not like to plan. The main thing is to get started and let things take their course.
Yes
No
14. If I am sold a spoiled product at a supermarket, I will definitely take it back and ask for a replacement or a refund.
Yes, definitely
No, I would probably just throw it away
15. When looking for a way to solve a problem, I often follow the principle that "anything is allowed unless it is prohibited."
Yes, I often do
No, rarely
16. I prefer doing something pleasant for others rather than receiving it from them.
Yes
No
17. In any negotiation, each side is concerned only with its own benefit.
Yes, only with its own
No, not only
18. I do not become flustered by an aggressive, pushy person and do not let them manipulate me.
Yes
No, I do become flustered
19. I often give in to praise and flattery and become compliant and accommodating.
Yes, often
No, rarely
20. I can objectively evaluate my thoughts and actions.
Yes, I can
No, I cannot
21. After a failure, I panic and start to feel that I am worse than others.
Yes, I feel that I am worse
No, I do not feel that way
22. I criticize myself strongly for mistakes and failures, but I do not praise myself for achievements or successes.
Yes
No
23. When I am overwhelmed by strong and unwanted feelings, I cannot do anything about them and I wait until I calm down.
Yes, I cannot do anything about it
No, I can get rid of it
24. I sometimes like to treat myself with alcohol or drugs, despite their harm to health.
Yes, I do
No. I avoid using them
25. If you try hard enough, you can avoid making any mistakes in life.
Yes, if you try hard enough
No, no matter how hard you try
26. I can easily admit that I do not know something, do not understand something, or cannot do something.
Yes
No, I cannot
27. I believe that mistakes, failures, or missteps are inevitable parts of any worthwhile endeavor.
Yes, I think so
No, I do not think so
28. In an unfamiliar group, I behave in a constrained way.
Yes
No
29. When someone is aggressive toward me, I respond with aggression.
Yes
No, not with aggression, but with dignity
30. I dislike people who try to force their friendship on me.
Yes, I dislike it
No, that is their right
31. People might say that I often change my mind and decisions.
Yes, they could say that
No, I don’t think they would
32. The information I keep is my own, and it is my personal choice whom to share it with and whom not to.
Yes
No, I should explain myself and be understood
33. I often make excuses even when no one has asked me to.
Yes, a lot
No
34. I cannot do a job poorly; I would rather not take it on.
Yes, I cannot
No, I can, if circumstances require it
35. Self-deprecating humor helps me get through awkward situations.
Yes
No
36. Boredom is my usual state, and I look for ways to pass the time. Weekends and holidays feel like a punishment to me.
Yes, I look for something to do
No, I do not have time to be bored
37. I feel proud of the achievements of my peers and friends.
Yes
No. Let them be proud of me.
38. I enjoy being fully absorbed in a real task, forgetting everything else and focusing only on it.
Yes
No
39. Another person’s supportive presence makes me feel more confident and protected.
Yes
No, I am not familiar with this feeling
40. Caring for someone close to me is one of the main values in my life. When I manage to take care of them, I feel pleased.
Yes
No
41. In a disagreement during negotiations, I insist firmly that my position is the only possible one.
Yes, I insist firmly
No
42. I feel free when I decide for myself what to do and how to do it.
Yes
No
43. For the most part, I work and live not with enjoyment, but rather out of obligation.
Yes, for the most part
No, for the most part with enjoyment
44. In crowded public transportation, I do not pay any attention to whether my presence is comfortable for others.
Yes, I do not pay attention
No, I do pay attention
45. I remain amazed by the remarkable way nature and the human body are made.
Yes
No, I am not amazed by this
46. What others think and say about me is more important than what I think about myself.
Yes, it is more important
No
47. I have difficulty forgiving others for things I easily forgive myself for.
Yes
No
48. I often feel that I am in control of my own life and future.
Yes, often
No
49. There is a right to a "benevolent lie" (for example, telling a terminally ill person that they are healthy).
Yes
There is no right to any lie
50. I often expect that something will go wrong, and I am not at all confident about my future.
Yes
No
51. Genuine concern for others and serving them requires serious sacrifice, not just small gestures of attention.
Yes
No
52. I prefer not to take on responsibilities to others, and I try not to make promises to anyone.
Yes
No
53. I do not like it when people say to me, "You must..." instead of asking, "Please could you...?"
Yes, I do not like it
No, it does not matter much to me
54. If someone is getting on my nerves, I can politely ask them to change the subject or continue another time without feeling awkward.
Yes
No
55. The concepts of "honor" and "conscience" are outdated and only make life harder.
Yes
No, they are not outdated
56. As a rule, after completing a task, I do not increase the difficulty of the next one, to avoid the risk of not coping and losing self-respect.
Yes, I do not increase it
No, I increase the difficulty and take the risk
57. I feel pleasure when I help a frail person cross the street or get past an obstacle.
Yes, I do
No, I feel a sense of duty
58. I try to do everything to the highest standard, better than anyone else could.
Yes, I try to
No, it depends on what I gain
59. If I were not afraid of surgery and possible complications, I would significantly change my appearance.
Yes
No, under no circumstances
60. I often regret things I cannot change.
Yes, often
No, rarely
61. I do not handle it well when people joke about me in a group.
Yes
No
62. I always throw a used plastic bottle in a trash bin, and if there is no bin, I take it home with me.
Yes
No
63. I sometimes feel sorry for Christmas trees that are cut down in the forest.
Yes
No
64.
Yes
No
65. If I do not understand something, it is difficult for me to ask again without fearing I will look foolish.
Yes
No
66. I am not free from superstitions or fortune-telling, and I believe in psychics.
Yes
No
67. At a pedestrian crossing, I am not inclined to yield to cars.
Yes, I do not yield
No, I tend to yield
68. True service to other people cannot be anything but selfless.
Yes
No, it can
69. I find it difficult to say, "I was wrong."
Yes
No
70. Analyzing my mistakes is pointless. What is done is done.
Yes
No
71. Any criticism only irritates me.
Yes
No
72. If someone in the checkout line asks, “Can you hurry up?!”, I calmly reply that I cannot.
Yes
No
73. When I buy something expensive, I would like others to feel envious.
Yes
No, I would not
74. I pursue my goals in life ruthlessly.
Yes
No
75. I am not very persistent in pursuing my goals.
Yes
No
76. I do not depend on other people’s goodwill and would not comply with a request like: “Be a friend—run and get some beer.”
Yes
No
77. When expressing my own opinion, I am afraid of seeming like an outsider.
Yes
No
78. I cannot watch animals being killed, even in a movie, without feeling upset.
Yes
No, I can
79. If I do not like something, it is difficult to make me do it.
Yes
No
80. I was lucky; I might not have been born.
Yes, I was lucky
No