Would Anyone Care If I Disappeared Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. During the past two weeks, which statement best matches your thoughts about disappearing?
I have not had thoughts about disappearing or no longer being alive.
I have wished I could briefly escape everything, without wanting to die.
I have wished I could disappear permanently or not wake up.
I have thought about ending my life.
2. Which statement comes closest to how you think your existence affects other people?
I do not generally see my existence as a burden to others.
I sometimes worry that my needs inconvenience people.
I often feel that people would have easier lives without my needs.
I believe people would be better off if I were no longer alive.
3. How prepared are you to find urgent support if thoughts of dying become stronger?
I know a person, crisis service, or emergency setting I could contact promptly.
I know support exists, but I would need time to locate the right contact.
I would struggle to identify where to turn or how to begin.
I would avoid crisis help because I would not want anyone to stop me.
4. When someone does not answer an important message, what meaning do you usually give it?
I generally assume they are occupied and will respond when they can.
I briefly wonder whether they forgot about me.
I take it as a sign that I matter less to them than I thought.
I see it as proof that nobody would care if I disappeared.
5. Suppose you unexpectedly missed several usual activities. What would you expect others to do?
I expect at least one person would notice and check on me.
I think someone might notice eventually, although perhaps not immediately.
I doubt anyone would notice unless they needed something from me.
I believe people would feel relieved rather than concerned.
6. If you began to fear that you might act on thoughts of dying, which response is most realistic?
I would move away from possible means and immediately contact someone who could stay with me.
I would first try to get through it alone, but I would probably seek help if it persisted.
I do not have a clear idea of whom I would contact or where I would go.
I might remain alone with access to a method and not seek help.
7. What best describes your safety right now?
I am not thinking about harming myself and can remain safe right now.
Thoughts of disappearing are passing through my mind, but I have no urge to act.
I feel an urge to harm myself, although I do not expect to act immediately.
I might act soon, have begun acting, or have a method available to me.
8. How accessible does other people's care feel to you lately?
I can name at least one person whose care feels real to me.
I think care is probably there, although I have trouble feeling it sometimes.
I rarely believe signs that someone cares about me.
I feel convinced that nobody genuinely cares whether I am here.
9. A person you know notices you seem different and asks whether you are okay. How are you most likely to respond?
I tell them enough of the truth to let them support me.
I minimize at first but may open up if they continue listening.
I deny everything while privately hoping they will realize I need help.
I push them away, block contact, or leave so they cannot intervene.
10. How far have thoughts about ending your life progressed?
I have not considered ending my life.
The idea has crossed my mind, but only in a vague or abstract way.
I have considered a possible method, place, or time without taking preparatory steps.
I have made a specific plan, gathered means, rehearsed, or begun preparations.
11. Imagine you are alone after a deeply upsetting event. Which reaction is closest to what you would expect?
I would feel upset, but disappearing or dying would not enter my mind.
I would fantasize about leaving my current life or contacts behind for a while.
I would hope I could vanish permanently or that something would end my life.
I would consider taking action to end my life or seriously harm myself.
12. When distress suddenly spikes, what do you usually do first?
I contact someone I trust or go where supportive people are present.
I try handling it alone for a while, then usually tell someone.
I hide how distressed I am even though part of me wants support.
I cut off contact so nobody can interrupt what I might do.
13. After feeling overlooked at a gathering, class, workplace, or online group, what are you most likely to do?
I reconnect with someone or remind myself that being overlooked can be accidental.
I wait to see whether someone else initiates contact.
I leave quietly and dwell on the idea that nobody noticed me.
I withdraw for an extended period to test whether anyone notices I am gone.
14. If you needed someone with you tonight, which statement best fits?
I can identify someone I could contact and would be willing to ask.
I know someone I could contact, but I would hesitate to ask.
I cannot identify anyone who would realistically be available.
I would deliberately avoid or refuse contact even if I feared I might harm myself.
15. Which statement best reflects anything you have previously done in connection with disappearing or dying?
I have not taken any action connected with disappearing or dying.
I have privately written or collected thoughts about disappearing, without preparing to die.
I have drafted goodbye messages, given away meaningful belongings, or put affairs in order because I expected to die.
I have attempted to end my life, started an attempt and stopped, or was interrupted during one.