What Is My Core Wound Quiz
Questions: 16 · 10 minutes
1. A close friend is moving far away. Which response feels most familiar?
I make extra plans and check-ins because I want to protect the bond during the transition.
I begin grieving the friendship as though losing it is the most likely outcome.
I expect the friendship to change but believe it can adapt.
I repeatedly look for proof that I will still matter once they have a new life elsewhere.
2. When someone gives you a sincere compliment, which response is closest to your inner experience?
I appreciate it, though part of me questions whether they fully mean it.
I accept it as one person's genuine positive view of me.
I feel that they would withdraw the praise if they knew the real me.
I look for signs that they are simply being polite or want something.
3. An authority figure makes a decision that affects you without asking for your input. What is your likely inner response?
I become preoccupied with having had no say, even if the practical effect is manageable.
It evokes strong helplessness regardless of whether the decision has a reasonable basis.
I seek an explanation or use an available appeal process if the issue matters.
I identify what I can still influence and choose my next response from there.
4. When you begin depending on someone emotionally, what usually happens inside you?
I feel a strong urge either to hold on tightly or to detach before they can leave.
I allow the bond to deepen while maintaining my other routines and connections.
I notice the vulnerability and need some time to become comfortable with it.
I alternate between seeking extra closeness and pulling back when signals feel uncertain.
5. You must make an important decision without knowing every possible outcome. What do you tend to do?
I gather enough information to make a reasonable choice and accept some uncertainty.
I feel unable to move until I can achieve certainty, even when certainty is not available.
I seek additional information because it helps me feel more grounded.
I delay the decision while trying to control more of the remaining variables.
6. You offer an idea in a group, but it receives little response. What is your most likely interpretation?
I feel exposed and become reluctant to contribute again during that conversation.
I assume the timing or group focus may have worked against the idea.
It feels like confirmation that people do not value what I contribute.
I wonder whether I could have presented it more clearly.
7. Someone offers to help with a task but would complete it differently from you. Which response fits best?
I state the parts that matter to me and leave flexibility around the rest.
I accept their method if it can produce an acceptable result.
I closely direct or redo the work because not controlling the process feels unsettling.
Depending on their approach feels deeply threatening, so I need to take the task back.
8. Someone important to you has not replied for much longer than usual. What most closely matches your reaction?
I quickly fear I am being left and feel driven to seek reassurance.
I notice the delay but continue my day, trusting that they will answer when able.
I review our recent interactions and find it difficult to settle until they respond.
I briefly wonder whether something shifted between us, then give the situation time.
9. A close person changes shared plans without telling you first. What happens next for you?
I suspect there is important information they are intentionally withholding.
I ask what happened, explain the impact, and update the plan with them.
I assume concealed motives and struggle to believe their explanation.
I note the reliability issue and discuss how to handle changes in the future.
10. Friends are choosing an activity, and your preference differs from everyone else's. What do you tend to do?
I mention my preference while remaining open to the group's choice.
I hide it because the possibility of being judged feels too exposing.
I share a softened version so it will not stand out as much.
I choose the option that seems most acceptable and avoid revealing what I wanted.
11. Two friends stop talking when you enter the room. Which response is closest to yours?
I immediately feel sure they were deceiving or excluding me and emotionally close off.
I wonder whether the conversation involved me and may seek context later.
I allow for unrelated explanations and notice what happens next.
I watch closely for further signs that they are hiding something from me.
12. You are turned down for a role or opportunity you wanted. Which reaction sounds most familiar?
I feel disappointed and review whether there is anything useful to learn.
I replay my personal flaws and imagine that others saw them clearly.
I can view the decision as a question of fit, timing, or competition rather than total worth.
It confirms a deeper belief that I am fundamentally not good enough.
13. A partner or close friend asks for a little space after a tense conversation. How does that request tend to land?
I can respect it after clarifying what they mean, then turn to other parts of my life.
I accept it, although some uncertainty stays with me.
Even with reassurance, it feels like a sign that our connection may be ending.
I monitor their behavior for signs that the relationship is fading.
14. Someone apologizes after breaking a meaningful promise. How do you usually evaluate the apology?
I consider both the apology and what they do afterward before deciding how to proceed.
I accept it cautiously but need some consistency before feeling settled.
I assume the apology is mainly a strategy to regain access or avoid consequences.
I expect the betrayal to repeat unless they provide extensive proof over time.
15. A collaborator offers to handle an important task for you. Which approach feels most natural?
I let them handle it after agreeing on the outcome and a reasonable check-in.
I refuse to rely on them because dependence feels likely to end in disappointment or exploitation.
I give them a smaller part first so I can see how the arrangement works.
I keep a backup plan and check their work frequently in case they let me down.
16. A group changes the day's itinerary after you had prepared for the original plan. How do you react?
I become tense when I cannot influence the change and push to recover some control.
I ask whether my needs can be included in the revised plan.
I adapt if the new plan is workable, even if it was not my preference.
I feel trapped or overwhelmed and urgently need to take charge of the situation.