Should I Leave My Baby Daddy Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. Has co-parenting, money, housing, affection, or relationship status been tied to sexual access?
Practical support and parenting arrangements are not made conditional on sexual contact.
He has implied that sex would improve closeness or cooperation, without attaching a concrete consequence.
He pressures me by threatening withdrawal of affection, money, housing, or parenting help.
He has forced or obtained sexual contact by threatening my housing, finances, child access, safety, or another serious consequence.
2. When you say no, stop, or that you are not interested in sexual contact, how does he respond?
He stops without punishing, pressuring, or repeatedly challenging my decision.
He shows disappointment or asks again, but accepts a clear second answer.
He repeatedly argues, guilt-trips, sulks, or pressures me until I feel worn down.
He continues, forces contact, threatens me, or uses physical restraint despite my refusal.
3. How much control do you have over money, identification, accounts, and essential documents?
I can access what is mine and participate fairly in shared financial decisions.
He is overly critical of some spending or asks for more detail than feels comfortable.
He restricts routine access, hides information, creates debt in my name, or makes me account for nearly every expense.
He withholds money, identification, medication, documents, or account access to stop me leaving or meeting basic needs.
4. If you try to leave a heated interaction, what usually happens?
He allows me to leave and waits until I choose to resume contact.
He follows the argument with repeated calls, messages, or demands, but does not prevent me leaving.
He blocks the route or briefly takes my phone, keys, or transportation access.
He locks me in, restrains or chases me, or forces me into a room or vehicle.
5. How much have safety concerns changed the way you move through daily life?
I do not change my movements or routines because I fear his physical reaction.
I sometimes adjust when or where I raise a topic to avoid an intimidating response.
I keep an exit available, alert someone, or avoid being alone with him because I fear escalation.
I have fled, hidden, sought emergency or medical help, or been unable to leave because of danger or injury.
6. After you express a need or disagreement, how does he usually respond?
He may disagree, but addresses the issue without attacking my worth or reality.
He becomes dismissive or sarcastic, then can return to a more respectful conversation.
He regularly humiliates me, calls me degrading names, or insists events I remember never happened.
He uses sustained degradation, threats, or exposure of private information to make me comply or feel trapped.
7. During a heated disagreement, what best describes his physical behavior?
He keeps physical space and lets either of us pause the conversation.
He may crowd me or stand in my way at first, but moves when directly asked.
He punches walls, breaks objects, or drives in a way that frightens me.
He has hit, choked, restrained, injured, threatened to injure, or used a weapon against me.
8. When he becomes angry while caring for your child, which situation comes closest?
He continues handling the child safely or hands care to another responsible person.
He becomes abrupt or rough in tone, then responds when I raise the concern.
He handles the child roughly, ignores an evident hazard, or leaves without arranging safe supervision.
He has shaken, struck, injured, deliberately endangered, or threatened to hurt the child.
9. Which description best matches how anger is expressed around possessions, pets, or the home?
Anger is expressed without using belongings, animals, or the surroundings to intimidate anyone.
Doors may be slammed or his own items thrown away from other people.
He damages my belongings, punches nearby surfaces, or creates a scene meant to frighten me.
He has hurt or threatened an animal, used a weapon, set a fire, or destroyed something while threatening harm.
10. How are parenting time, custody concerns, or the child's relationship with each parent used during conflict?
He keeps the child's needs separate from adult disagreements and uses appropriate channels for disputes.
He makes guilt-inducing comments about access or loyalty but later returns to practical discussion.
He repeatedly threatens to withhold contact, undermine me to the child, or use custody fears to control unrelated choices.
He uses fabricated allegations, threats of disappearance with the child, homelessness, deportation, or another severe consequence to force compliance.
11. How does he handle intimate photos, recordings, messages, or sexual information about you?
He asks permission and respects my limits about creating, keeping, or sharing them.
He has pushed for intimate material after I hesitated, but accepted a firm refusal.
He keeps, accesses, or shows intimate material in ways I did not clearly agree to.
He has secretly recorded me or threatened, used, or shared intimate material to punish, exploit, or control me.
12. How are decisions about contraception, pregnancy, or having another child handled?
My choices are respected, and shared decisions are discussed without pressure.
He strongly pushes his preference, although I can still make and carry out my own choice.
He monitors contraception, pressures me about pregnancy outcomes, or interferes with appointments.
He has sabotaged contraception, removed protection without agreement, forced pregnancy-related decisions, or threatened harm over them.
13. When your child needs food, supervision, healthcare, or other essential care, what best matches his response when resources are reasonably available?
He helps meet the need or works with me to find realistic support.
He is inconsistent or needs reminders, but makes a meaningful effort once the need is clear.
He repeatedly leaves most essential care to me despite having the ability and agreed responsibility to help.
He deliberately withholds essentials or necessary care as punishment, or abandons the child in a clearly dangerous situation.
14. Suppose you plan to see friends, family, or another source of support. What is most likely?
He respects the plan even if he would prefer more time together.
He complains or seeks reassurance, but I can go without ongoing consequences.
He repeatedly disrupts plans, monitors me, demands proof of where I am, or punishes me afterward.
He prevents contact, confiscates communication access, impersonates me, or threatens serious consequences if I seek support.
15. What best describes sexual contact when you are asleep, heavily impaired, or otherwise unable to participate freely?
He waits until I am awake, able to choose, and actively willing.
He has initiated in an agreed way but stops immediately if I do not actively respond.
He treats earlier consent or our relationship as permission even when I cannot clearly agree in the moment.
He has continued sexual contact when I was asleep, incapacitated, unconscious, or physically unable to consent.