Relationship OCD Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. During affection, conversation, or time together, how often did you monitor your feelings to check whether you felt enough love, attraction, or excitement?
I checked my feelings occasionally, then returned to the moment.
I did not monitor my feelings in this way.
I checked repeatedly, making it difficult to stay present.
I checked on several occasions and became distracted by the results.
2. How much did you feel compelled to achieve complete certainty about your feelings, compatibility, or the relationship’s future?
The need for certainty appeared occasionally but did not persist.
I often felt I had to resolve the uncertainty before I could focus elsewhere.
I felt unable to move forward without certainty and pursued it repeatedly.
I did not feel compelled to achieve complete certainty.
3. How often did you become preoccupied with comparing your attraction to your partner with your attraction to other people?
I compared them several times and found it distracting.
This did not happen.
I became caught in repeated comparisons that were hard to stop.
I made an occasional comparison that did not hold my attention for long.
4. Did you test the relationship—for example, by imagining a breakup, withdrawing affection, or comparing your reaction with how you thought you should feel?
I used a test once or twice.
I used tests repeatedly and treated my moment-to-moment reactions as evidence.
I used tests on several occasions to try to settle uncertainty.
I did not test the relationship in these ways.
5. When relationship uncertainty rose, how often did you ask your partner, friends, or family whether the relationship seemed right?
I asked repeatedly or returned to the question after receiving an answer.
I sought reassurance once or twice.
I did not seek reassurance from other people.
I sought reassurance on several occasions, usually for temporary relief.
6. During the past four weeks, how often did unwanted doubts about whether you love your partner enough or chose the right relationship return after you thought the issue was settled?
They returned repeatedly and were difficult to disengage from.
This did not happen.
They returned once or twice and passed fairly quickly.
They returned on several occasions and occupied my attention for a while.
7. How much did relationship worries interfere with work, study, household responsibilities, sleep, or concentration?
They caused repeated or substantial disruption in one or more areas.
They did not interfere with these areas.
They caused a brief or minor disruption.
They caused noticeable disruption on several occasions.
8. How much did the anxiety affect your ability to communicate openly or feel connected in the relationship?
It affected communication or connection on several occasions.
It did not affect my communication or sense of connection.
It repeatedly created major distance, conflict, or difficulty engaging in the relationship.
It caused one brief or limited difficulty.
9. Did uncertainty delay decisions you genuinely needed or wanted to make, such as arranging plans, defining boundaries, or discussing a next step?
It delayed several decisions or led me to revisit them repeatedly.
It repeatedly prevented me from making or carrying out important decisions.
It briefly delayed one decision.
It did not delay decisions.
10. After a relationship doubt appeared, how much did you research online, review advice, or make mental or written lists of evidence?
I did this repeatedly and still felt driven to search or review more.
I did not research or compile evidence to settle doubts.
I did this once or twice for a limited period.
I did this several times and received only temporary clarity.
11. How often did you disclose the same doubts or replay the same relationship conversation mainly to obtain relief or certainty?
This did not happen.
I did this on several occasions, and relief tended not to last.
I did this once or twice and then let the topic rest.
I repeated disclosures or conversations frequently despite earlier answers.
12. When you could not resolve a relationship question, how intense and persistent was your emotional distress?
I experienced some distress, but it was brief.
I experienced strong distress that persisted or repeatedly overwhelmed my attention.
I did not experience distress about unresolved relationship questions.
I experienced noticeable distress that took time to settle.
13. When you noticed a minor trait or flaw in your partner, how strongly did your mind fixate on what it might mean for the relationship?
A concern arose once or twice, then eased without much mental effort.
I became consumed by the trait and repeatedly questioned the relationship because of it.
This kind of fixation did not happen.
The trait triggered recurring analysis that took a noticeable effort to leave alone.
14. During the past four weeks, did you avoid dates, affection, future-planning conversations, or other relationship situations because they might trigger doubt?
I avoided several situations or participated only with substantial difficulty.
I avoided one situation or hesitated briefly because of the anxiety.
I repeatedly avoided important parts of the relationship because the anxiety felt unmanageable.
I did not avoid relationship situations for this reason.
15. After an enjoyable or affectionate moment, what happened in your mind?
I sometimes developed a doubt, but it remained brief.
I repeatedly analyzed whether the moment felt genuine or strong enough.
I did not experience intrusive analysis of the moment.
I spent a noticeable amount of time evaluating what my feelings meant.