Personality Orientation in Communication, NLO-A Test - the question form

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1. For the other person to understand me correctly, ...

I should talk about what concerns and interests them.

They should have the same point of view as I do.

The main thing is that they have a good understanding of the topic being discussed.

I should say what they can understand and agree with.

I will not always try to achieve this.

2. I expect the other person to be...

a clear and firm position

in agreement with me

some personal benefit for myself

involved in addressing work-related matters

open and willing to accept my help

3. What the other person feels and experiences...

1 – I take to heart

2 – may influence my behavior

3 – may be of interest

4 – should not interfere with getting things done

5 – should not be shown to others

4. I would like the other person in conversation with me to take the following position:

1 – one that is comfortable for me

2 – any position; it does not matter

3 – a leader

4 – an empathic listener

5 – one that is comfortable for them

5. The other person's trust in me...

1 – is not of substantial importance for getting things done

2 – is needed if this person matters to me

3 – should be complete

4 – makes communication calmer and easier

5 – is very important to me, and I will try to live up to it

6. If a conflict is starting to develop in our communication, the other person...

should give in

can count on my willingness to help and to compromise

should not do what I do not want

would be better off focusing on their own business

should prevent it

7. When the other person does not understand me, ...

1 – it means I explained poorly, and I should help them understand

2 – I should listen to their point of view

3 – it does not bother me if it does not interfere with getting things done

4 – I stop communicating with them

5 – I will explain it to them if I need to

8. It is important to me that, in communicating with me, the other person proceeds from...

1 – my interests

2 – a desire not to aggravate the relationship

3 – what is pleasant for me

4 – what concerns them

5 – the interests of the task

9. If the other person stops listening to me, ...

1 – it does not bother me

2 – I feel offended and end the conversation

3 – it means it is my fault

4 – I will try to influence them in a different way

5 – I will listen to them

10. I like communication when...

it is calm, and I agree with the other person

I benefit from the other person

I feel that the other person needs me

there is a practical outcome

I enjoy it

11. To understand the other person correctly, ...

they must share my views

there should be less talk and more action

I need to agree with their point of view

I need to observe them carefully

I need to focus fully on their problems

12. I think it is appropriate if the person I am talking to expects from me...

agreement

what I intend to offer them

nothing

help and support

a clear and firm position

13. What I feel and experience should...

depend on the other person’s feelings

not be noticeable to the other person

not interfere with the task at hand

be important to the other person, and they should feel it too

not be a concern for the other person

14. In communication, I try to take a position that is…

1 – comfortable for the other person

2 – it does not matter which

3 – an empathic listener

4 – comfortable for me

5 – a leader

15. Trusting the person you are talking to...

1 – only in very rare cases (if it makes sense to do so)

2 – you should, if it is in the interest of getting things done

3 – you can, if their position is convincing

4 – you can, if our views align

5 – you should, because it will help them

16. If a conflict is brewing in communication, I...

1 – will focus on the task at hand

2 – will try to smooth it over

3 – will act in line with my own interests

4 – will give in to help the other person

5 – will insist that I am right

17. In communication, I am guided by...

the desire to assert my point of view

the desire to gain as much benefit for myself as possible

the need to solve another person's problems and help them

the need to avoid conflict

the interests of the task at hand

18. When I do not understand the other person, ...

it does not bother me

I worry a lot and look for my own mistake

I reconsider my point of view

it means they are explaining it poorly

I will try to understand if I need to

19. For me, the main purpose of communication is to...

to help and support the other person

to resolve a practical matter

to enjoy myself

to avoid conflict

to gain some kind of benefit

20. If I think the other person is wrong, then...

I lose interest in them.

I think about how I can help them.

I will insist that they acknowledge and correct their mistake.

I will not escalate the situation.

It does not bother me; it is their problem.

1. For the other person to understand me correctly, ...

1 – I should talk about what concerns them and interests them

2 – they should share the same point of view as I do

3 – the main thing is that they understand the topic being discussed well

4 – I should say what is clear to them and what they agree with

5 – I will not always try to achieve this

2. I expect the other person to be…

1 – to have a clear and firm position

2 – in agreement with me

3 – of some benefit to me

4 – involved in addressing practical work-related matters

5 – open and willing to accept my help

3. What the other person feels and is going through...

1 – I take to heart

2 – may influence my behavior

3 – may be of interest

4 – should not interfere with the matter at hand

5 – should not be shown to others

4. I would like the other person to take a position in communicating with me that is…

1 – comfortable for me

2 – it does not matter which

3 – a leader

4 – a sympathetic listener

5 – comfortable for them

5. The other person’s trust in me...

1 – has no significant importance for the task

2 – is needed if this person matters to me

3 – should be complete

4 – makes communication calmer and easier

5 – is very important to me, and I will try to live up to it

6. If a conflict is developing between us in conversation, the other person...

1 – should give in

2 – can count on my willingness to help and to give in

3 – should not do what I do not want

4 – it is better for them to focus on getting on with their work

5 – should prevent it from happening

7. When the other person does not understand me, ...

1 – it means I am not explaining well and should help them

2 – I should listen to their point of view

3 – it does not matter to me as long as it does not interfere with the task

4 – I stop communicating with them

5 – I will explain it to them if I need to

8. It is important to me that, when communicating with me, the other person proceeds from...

1 – my interests

2 – a desire not to escalate tensions

3 – what is pleasant for me

4 – what is concerning them

5 – the interests of the task

9. If the other person stops listening to me, ...

1 – it does not bother me

2 – I feel offended and stop the conversation

3 – it means it is my fault

4 – I will try to influence them in a different way

5 – I will listen to them

10. I like communication when...

1 – it is calm, and I agree with the other person

2 – I benefit from the other person

3 – I feel that the other person needs me

4 – there is a practical outcome

5 – I find it enjoyable

11. To understand the other person correctly, ...

1 – they should share my views

2 – there should be less talking and more action

3 – I should agree with their point of view

4 – I need to observe them carefully

5 – I need to focus completely on their problems

12. I think it is appropriate when the other person expects from me...

1 – agreement

2 – what I intend to offer them

3 – nothing

4 – help and support

5 – a clear and firm position

13. What I feel and experience should…

depend on what the other person is feeling

not be noticeable to the other person

not interfere with the task at hand

be important to the other person, and they should also share these feelings

not trouble the other person

14. In communication, I try to take a position that is...

Comfortable for the other person

It does not matter which one

A sympathetic listener

Comfortable for me

A leader

15. Trusting the person you are talking to...

Only in very rare cases (if it makes sense)

If it is in the best interests of the task

If their position is convincing

If our views are the same

Because it will help them

16. If a conflict is developing in a conversation, I...

1 – focus on the task at hand

2 – try to smooth it over

3 – act in line with my own interests

4 – give in in order to help the other person

5 – insist that I am right

17. In communication, I am guided by...

the wish to assert my point of view

the desire to gain as much benefit for myself as possible

the need to solve another person’s problems and help them

the need to avoid conflict

the interests of the task

18. When I do not understand the other person, ...

it does not bother me.

I get very upset and look for my own mistake.

I reconsider my point of view.

it means they are explaining poorly.

I will try to understand if I need to.

19. For me, the main purpose of communication is to: