Mom Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. If an object was used for physical punishment, what most closely reflects your experience?
An object struck me more than once and caused pain but no injury I noticed.
No object was used to strike me.
An object struck me once, with only brief discomfort afterward.
An object caused injury, struck my head or neck, or was used in a way that could cause serious harm.
2. How often do you blame yourself for the punishment or for your mother's loss of control?
I often assume I caused it or deserved it, even when another part of me questions that belief.
There was no physical punishment for me to interpret this way.
Someone currently threatens or harms me if I reject the blame or describe the punishment differently.
I occasionally wonder whether my behavior made the punishment understandable.
3. What support is available if you want to talk about what happened?
I would like support but feel uncertain about whom to approach or how I will be received.
There is no related experience or current concern for which I want support.
Seeking support could trigger threats or retaliation, or I currently have no safe person to contact.
At least one trusted person is available, although starting the conversation may feel difficult.
4. How does this history affect everyday life now?
It occasionally influences how I handle conflict, touch, discipline, or family gatherings.
It does not create an effect I currently notice.
There is a current injury, immediate safety concern, or threat requiring prompt help.
It repeatedly affects relationships, sleep, concentration, parenting choices, or daily routines.
5. When punishment was discussed, what kind of language was used?
There were repeated angry lectures or yelling, but no stated or implied threat of harm.
There was no intimidating language connected with punishment.
There were harsh remarks that upset me, but they were isolated and did not imply harm.
There was any explicit threat to hurt, kill, abandon, or seriously endanger me or someone else.
6. Before interacting with your mother or maternal caregiver, how much did you adjust your behavior to manage possible anger?
I frequently changed what I said, wore, ate, or did to avoid an angry eruption.
I did not feel a need to monitor or manage her reactions.
I sometimes checked her mood before raising a difficult topic.
I changed my behavior because she had explicitly threatened harm, confinement, or retaliation.
7. How were you treated if you considered telling someone about physical punishment?
I was pressured through guilt, shame, or repeated minimization to keep it within the family.
I was not told or pressured to conceal it.
I was threatened, punished, or physically harmed for telling or planning to tell.
Privacy was requested once, without pressure or consequences for speaking.
8. During conflict, how were grabbing, pushing, pinning, or restraint used?
I was forcibly pinned, choked, prevented from breathing, or restrained in a dangerous way.
There was an isolated rough grab or push without lingering pain.
Those actions did not happen.
Rough grabbing or pushing happened repeatedly and caused pain but no injury I noticed.
9. Which description best matches being hit, slapped, or spanked by your mother or maternal caregiver?
It did not happen.
It happened once or twice and caused brief pain but no lingering soreness.
It happened repeatedly and sometimes left lingering soreness, but no injury I noticed.
Any incident caused a bruise, cut, burn, head impact, breathing problem, or other injury.
10. What happened if you tried to leave an argument or punishment situation?
My privacy was sometimes ignored, such as a door being opened, but I remained able to leave.
I was blocked, locked in, chased, forcibly returned, or threatened for trying to leave.
I was able to step away without being pursued or controlled.
I was occasionally followed while the conversation continued, but I could still leave freely.
11. How was anger expressed around objects or the home?
Doors or cupboards were occasionally slammed, without objects being damaged or directed toward anyone.
Objects were thrown at or near someone, a weapon was displayed, or property was destroyed as an explicit threat.
Anger was not expressed through objects or damage.
Repeated pounding, slamming, or breaking of objects created an intimidating atmosphere, without an explicit threat.
12. What happens now when you remember or discuss the physical punishment?
I sometimes feel brief discomfort, but it passes without changing what I do.
I feel as though danger is happening now, lose track of my surroundings, or cannot regain a sense of stability without help.
I do not notice a current reaction connected with it.
I have a strong reaction and need time, distance, or a coping routine to settle.
13. What physical effects remained after punishment?
Brief tenderness or discomfort that faded quickly.
A bruise, cut, burn, head impact, mobility problem, or any effect that needed or should have received medical attention.
No physical punishment occurred and no related physical effect remained.
Pain or soreness lasted into the next day, without a visible injury.
14. How does the experience affect your current contact or boundaries with your mother or maternal caregiver?
I sometimes plan topics or timing carefully to make contact more manageable.
Current contact includes threats, force, stalking, confinement, or fear of immediate harm.
It does not currently affect my contact decisions or boundaries.
I limit contact, avoid being alone with her, or rely on firm boundaries because of distress or fear.
15. Looking across the incidents, which pattern is closest?
Physical punishment became repeated or more painful, without an injury or explicit threat that I recall.
There was no physical punishment.
Any force involved an injury, dangerous body area, weapon, choking, or threat of serious harm.
There was one isolated incident of brief painful contact without injury or threat.