Love Addiction Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. How does a romantic connection affect the way you express your preferences and values?
I soften some opinions until I feel more secure in the connection.
I substantially reshape my identity or core values to prevent abandonment.
I can express meaningful differences while remaining respectful.
I hide important differences because honesty seems likely to cost me the relationship.
2. When a relationship feels uncertain, what do you tend to do?
I seek reassurance once, then try to tolerate not knowing.
I repeatedly ask for reassurance or search messages and online activity for clues.
I reflect on the available information and allow time before responding.
The need to pursue certainty feels impossible to resist, even when my actions are harming me or the relationship.
3. When being alone feels painful, what are you most likely to do?
I can make space for the feeling without urgently finding a relationship.
I seek company or distraction while still considering whether a connection suits me.
I pursue or maintain a poor-fit connection mainly to escape the distress of being alone.
I enter or return to a relationship I believe is unsafe because being without it feels intolerable.
4. Early in a promising connection, how do imagined future possibilities affect you?
I quickly treat the imagined bond as essential and make major commitments before knowing the person well.
I sometimes daydream while keeping present facts in view.
I build an elaborate future in my mind, and it begins influencing current choices.
I enjoy the possibilities without treating them as evidence or commitments.
5. How much does romantic reassurance determine your sense of worth?
I appreciate reassurance, but it does not define my basic worth.
A lack of reassurance makes me insecure for a while.
I repeatedly depend on romantic validation to feel acceptable or settled.
Without that validation, I feel worthless or hopeless and struggle to regulate myself or function.
6. A date or request for time together conflicts with a commitment that matters to your wellbeing. What are you most likely to do?
I routinely abandon health, work, study, or care obligations because losing the connection feels too frightening.
I keep or renegotiate the commitment without treating the relationship as automatically more important.
I occasionally adjust my plans, even when I later wish I had not.
I often cancel important plans to prevent the other person from losing interest.
7. You recognize that a relationship repeatedly crosses limits you consider important. What best describes your likely response?
I may delay a decision while hoping that the pattern changes.
I feel trapped and continue despite serious harm because separation feels unbearable.
I act on my limits, including leaving if repair is not possible.
I remain through repeated violations, even though I know the pattern is damaging me.
8. When a romantic bond becomes central in your life, what tends to happen to friendships, family ties, or other sources of support?
I sometimes skip contact with others during the excitement of the relationship.
I maintain several meaningful connections and make room for them.
I become largely isolated because nearly all my available attention goes to the bond.
I withdraw from others often enough that my support network noticeably weakens.
9. Following rejection or a breakup, which response most closely reflects your experience?
I feel significant pain while using support and continuing essential routines.
I ruminate more than I want to, but I remain able to function.
My sleep, eating, work, or study is repeatedly disrupted for days or longer.
I have thoughts of harming myself, feel unable to stay safe, or cannot meet basic needs.
10. Someone important to you suddenly becomes less warm or responsive. How does this usually affect your emotional state?
My mood shifts noticeably, but the change is temporary and manageable.
I become so destabilized that I cannot manage basic responsibilities or care for myself.
I feel disappointed while retaining a stable sense of myself.
My mood changes sharply for hours and is difficult to regulate without their reassurance.
11. What practical effect have romantic pursuits or relationship crises had on your responsibilities?
They have occasionally caused a delay or distracted day.
They have placed work, education, housing, finances, or care of a dependent in serious jeopardy.
They have not meaningfully interfered with my responsibilities.
They have led to recurring missed deadlines, absences, or neglected obligations.
12. You are waiting for a reply from someone you feel strongly attached to. What most closely matches your usual response?
I can put my phone aside and return to what I was doing.
I notice the pull to check and look once sooner than I intended.
I check repeatedly enough that it interrupts my task or mood.
I feel unable to stop checking or sending more messages, despite deciding not to.
13. When you set a limit on contacting, checking on, or thinking about someone, what usually happens?
I often break the limit repeatedly before I can regain control of my attention.
I can follow the limit with little difficulty.
I feel some discomfort but usually keep the limit I chose.
I cannot maintain even a short limit, and the pattern seriously disrupts sleep, work, or my safety.
14. When someone you love wants more attention than you can comfortably give, how do you respond?
I usually state what I can offer and allow them to have their reaction.
I sometimes agree at first, then renegotiate after noticing my limits.
I frequently comply and become resentful or depleted afterward.
I feel unable to refuse even when agreeing would seriously harm my health, responsibilities, or sense of self.
15. During an ordinary day, how much do thoughts about a romantic interest take over your attention?
They dominate long stretches and can interfere with sleep or basic tasks.
They return during quiet moments but are usually easy to redirect.
They arise occasionally without pulling me away from what matters.
They repeatedly interrupt conversations, work, study, or other activities.