Is the Relationship Over Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. Which description best matches affectionate contact between you recently?
It usually feels unwanted, forced, or emotionally empty to me
It is rare and I feel mostly neutral about that
It appears naturally at times and usually feels welcome
It is a wanted and meaningful part of how we connect
2. When you picture your life two years from now, where does your partner fit?
I feel more at ease imagining a life that no longer includes the relationship
Their place in my future is unclear or depends on major changes
I can picture us together, although some important details remain open
Including them feels natural and consistent with the life I want
3. After a disagreement cools down, what typically happens next?
We move on without addressing it, and the same issue tends to return
One of us tries to revisit it, but the conversation rarely changes much
We can usually discuss at least part of what happened
We both revisit it, acknowledge our parts, and make specific adjustments
4. If practical obstacles and other people's opinions disappeared for a day, what choice would feel most honest?
I would move toward ending the relationship
I would ask for space before deciding whether to continue
I would stay while seeking clarity about specific unresolved concerns
I would freely choose to continue building the relationship
5. After spending several days apart, how do you usually feel about seeing your partner again?
I feel disappointed that the time apart is ending
I feel little change either way
I look forward to some parts of being together again
I genuinely miss them and feel eager to reconnect
6. Your partner forgets a small commitment that mattered to you. Which outcome is most typical?
I expect that raising it will not lead anywhere useful
We acknowledge it briefly, but I remain doubtful about follow-through
We talk about its impact and usually reach some understanding
They take responsibility, and their later actions generally support the repair
7. How compatible are your priorities around major life choices such as location, family, lifestyle, or work?
Our central priorities point toward substantially different lives
We share some priorities, but at least one major conflict remains unresolved
Our priorities mostly fit, with differences that seem negotiable
Our main priorities align, and we make room for each person's goals
8. During a demanding week, how is the work of maintaining the relationship handled?
I experience it as mostly resting on one person
Effort shifts between us, but the imbalance often goes unaddressed
We usually notice when one person is carrying more and discuss it
We actively redistribute effort and check what each person can manage
9. Looking at your most recent rough patch, how much did both of you participate in improving it?
Neither of us found a workable way to engage with it
Most of the effort came from one person
Both of us made some effort, though not always at the same time
Both of us stayed engaged and contributed meaningful changes
10. Imagine that your emotional connection could improve through honest effort. What is your immediate reaction?
I do not feel a real desire to rebuild it
I am unsure whether I want to invest emotionally again
I would be willing to explore rebuilding it
I actively want to restore and deepen the connection
11. Which statement comes closest to why you are currently staying in the relationship?
Leaving feels difficult mainly because of pressure, history, or disruption
I am waiting to see whether my desire to stay becomes clearer
I still value the relationship, though I have meaningful doubts
I continue to choose the relationship because it supports the life I want
12. When you unexpectedly have a free evening together, what do you most often want?
To spend most of it separately because distance feels more comfortable
To do our own things nearby without much interaction
To share part of the evening while keeping some individual time
To use the opportunity to talk, laugh, or enjoy something together
13. Something personally important happens to you. How naturally do you want to share it with your partner?
I usually prefer not to involve them
I tend to mention it later as a practical update
I often want them to be among the first people I tell
My instinct is to tell them and experience their response with them
14. A promising opportunity would require both of you to reconsider existing plans. How would you expect the decision to unfold?
Our desired futures would probably prove incompatible
One person would likely give up too much to keep the relationship intact
We could explore compromises, though the process might reveal difficult gaps
We would treat both futures as important and look for a genuinely shared plan
15. When you clearly express a reasonable emotional need, how does your partner usually respond?
The conversation closes before my need is meaningfully considered
They hear me, but little tends to change afterward
They try to understand, even if responding well takes time
They engage with the need and work with me on a realistic response