Is My Boyfriend a Misogynist Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. How does he approach contraception, pregnancy prevention, or other reproductive decisions?
He has repeatedly pressured me to accept his choice or dismissed the consequences for me.
He respects my decisions and treats protection as a shared responsibility.
He has sabotaged protection, ignored an agreement, or threatened consequences over a reproductive decision.
He has pushed his preference or complained about protection, but stopped when I held my boundary.
2. After paying for a date, buying a gift, or doing you a favor, how does he treat physical affection or sex?
He sometimes jokes or hints that affection is the expected return.
He does not treat affection or sex as something I owe him.
He becomes threatening, frightening, or physically forceful when he believes he is owed sexual access.
He repeatedly uses what he spent or did as leverage to make me feel obligated.
3. How much do you change your behavior because you fear a physically intimidating reaction from him?
I regularly plan what to say, where to stand, or how to leave because his reactions can be intimidating.
I do not anticipate physical intimidation when making ordinary choices or raising concerns.
I have avoided a topic or changed a plan once because I worried about his temper.
I change my behavior because he has directly threatened force, used force, or displayed a weapon.
4. When he is angry while driving or controlling another potentially dangerous situation, what happens?
He has driven dangerously or used the situation to frighten me after I asked him to stop.
He has threatened a crash, abandoned me somewhere unsafe, or deliberately put me in immediate danger.
He does not use driving or dangerous situations to express anger or gain control.
He has accelerated, braked, or handled the situation aggressively once in a way that worried me.
5. How does he treat your work, education, money, or long-term goals?
He respects my right to pursue goals and participate in financial decisions.
He has assumed his goals should come first because he is the man in the relationship.
He repeatedly pressures me to give up opportunities, hand over income, or depend on him.
He has taken my money, sabotaged work or study, or threatened me to enforce financial dependence.
6. How does he talk about women's sexuality, including yours?
He repeatedly shames women or applies stricter sexual standards to women than to men.
He avoids gendered sexual insults and does not shame me or other women for consensual choices.
He has used sexual slurs, exposure, or degrading humiliation to control, frighten, or punish me.
He has made an occasional gendered joke or judgment that left me uncomfortable.
7. When you disagree with him or express a strong opinion, how does he respond?
He sometimes dismisses my reaction with a gendered comment, such as calling women dramatic.
He can disagree without treating my gender as evidence that my view matters less.
He routinely claims women are irrational, inferior, or unfit to make important decisions.
He uses degrading slurs, public humiliation, or threats to silence me when I disagree.
8. Which description best fits his expectations about your phone, accounts, or location?
He has asked for frequent updates and become upset when I did not respond as quickly as he wanted.
He does not demand passwords, constant proof, or access to my location.
He repeatedly demands access, checks my communications, or requires me to prove where I am.
He has secretly tracked me, impersonated me, used surveillance, or threatened me over digital access.
9. What happens when you spend time with friends, relatives, classmates, or coworkers without him?
He respects those relationships and does not make me pay an emotional price for seeing people.
He has sulked, made possessive remarks, or asked for more reassurance than I wanted to give.
He repeatedly guilt-trips me, interrogates me, or creates conflict until I reduce contact.
He has threatened, trapped, stalked, or punished me to isolate me from other people.
10. If you try to leave a tense conversation, how does he respond?
He has blocked an exit, taken my keys, or physically prevented me from leaving.
He lets me leave, even if he would prefer to continue talking.
He has followed me or kept restarting the argument, but stopped when I firmly asked for space.
He has restrained, harmed, or threatened me to stop me from leaving.
11. How involved is he in deciding what you wear or how you present yourself?
He repeatedly checks, criticizes, or pressures me to change based on what he thinks a girlfriend should wear.
He may have preferences, but he recognizes that the final choice is mine.
He has made a disapproving comment that affected my choice on at least one occasion.
He has threatened, humiliated, confined, or harmed me over my clothing or appearance.
12. When you say no, pause, or show discomfort during sexual activity, what is closest to his response?
He notices or listens and stops without punishing me for it.
He has sulked or acted disappointed afterward on at least one occasion.
He repeatedly argues, bargains, or makes me feel guilty until I give in.
He has continued, restrained me, threatened me, or forced sexual contact after I did not consent.
13. How does he respond when physical play, tickling, wrestling, or restraint stops being comfortable for you?
He stops when asked and does not use play as a reason to cross physical boundaries.
He has taken a moment to stop or minimized my discomfort on one occasion.
He repeatedly keeps going after I tell him to stop or uses his strength to overpower me.
He has restrained, injured, suffocated, or terrified me, whether or not he called it a joke.
14. What best describes his behavior around intimate photos, messages, or sexual privacy?
He has shared intimate material without permission or threatened to share it to pressure or punish me.
He respects my privacy and accepts no when I do not want to send or share something.
He has made an unwelcome suggestive comment or request but did not continue after I objected.
He repeatedly pressures me for images, proof, or sexual details after I have declined.
15. During an argument, what has he done with his body or nearby objects?
He has stood over me, crowded me, or briefly blocked my path in a way that felt intimidating.
He keeps physical space and does not use objects or his size to intimidate me.
He has punched walls, broken possessions, or thrown objects to frighten me.
He has hit, kicked, choked, grabbed, injured, or threatened me with a weapon.