Is He a Narcissist or Sociopath Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. How are contraception, condoms, STI precautions, or other safer-sex boundaries handled?
We discuss them honestly, and he respects the agreed boundary before any activity occurs.
He has initially argued about a boundary but accepted it before sexual activity continued.
He repeatedly pressures me to abandon precautions or makes affection conditional on doing so.
He has sabotaged or secretly removed protection, or knowingly lied about information needed for informed consent.
2. When he is angry, what physical behavior toward you has occurred?
He has not used unwanted physical proximity or contact to influence me.
He has crowded or touched me after I asked for space, but stopped immediately when corrected.
He repeatedly crowds, pursues, or intimidates me physically after I request distance.
He has pushed, grabbed, restrained, hit, kicked, choked, injured, or otherwise forced physical contact.
3. If conflict happens while he is driving or controlling another potentially dangerous situation, what does he do?
He keeps the situation controlled or pauses the discussion until it can continue safely.
He becomes visibly irritated but continues to follow ordinary safety rules.
He drives or handles the situation aggressively despite my requests to slow down or stop.
He threatens a crash or injury, deliberately creates immediate danger, or prevents me from leaving after stopping.
4. If you say no to sexual activity or change your mind after intimacy has started, how does he respond?
He stops without making me defend the decision.
He may express disappointment, but does not keep asking or punish me.
He repeatedly asks, bargains, sulks, or uses guilt after I have declined.
He continues, restrains me, threatens me, or forces sexual contact after consent is absent or withdrawn.
5. How does he treat your sexual messages, images, experiences, or other intimate information?
He asks before saving or sharing anything and respects the answer.
He made one boundary mistake, then took responsibility and stopped when asked.
He repeatedly ignores stated privacy limits or uses intimate details to embarrass me.
He shares or threatens to share intimate material to punish, exploit, blackmail, or control me.
6. When you rely on him for practical help that he has freely agreed and is able to provide, what pattern do you notice?
He follows through or communicates respectfully when circumstances genuinely prevent it.
He is inconsistent, but acknowledges the impact and works with me on alternatives.
He repeatedly leaves important needs unmet without discussion, despite having the ability to help.
He deliberately withholds money, transport, medication access, care, or other essentials to punish or control me.
7. Suppose you tell him that you are upset and need emotional support. What usually happens?
He listens and responds with care, even if he does not fully understand at first.
His response is limited or awkward, but he acknowledges my feelings and checks back later.
He routinely minimizes the issue, redirects attention to himself, or treats my feelings as an inconvenience.
He uses what I disclose to humiliate, blackmail, frighten, or control me.
8. How does he respond to your friendships, family ties, work, study, or time apart?
He respects those parts of my life and does not treat independence as disloyalty.
He sometimes expresses insecurity, but accepts my choices without ongoing pressure.
He uses guilt, repeated checking, accusations, or demands for access to monitor my connections.
He threatens me or others, exposes private information, or imposes punishment to isolate me.
9. What has happened when sleep, intoxication, illness, fear, or another condition affected your ability to give clear consent?
He waits until I am clearly able and willing to make an active choice.
He once misread mild uncertainty but stopped immediately when he noticed or was told.
He treats passivity, silence, prior consent, or a relationship label as permission.
He initiates or continues sexual activity when I am asleep, severely intoxicated, physically unable to respond, or otherwise incapable of consenting.
10. What pattern best describes his treatment of possessions, the home, or animals during conflict?
He does not use property or animals to express anger at or control me.
He has handled something carelessly in frustration, then acknowledged it and changed the behavior.
He repeatedly handles my belongings recklessly or damages items through uncontrolled anger after being asked to stop.
He deliberately destroys property, harms an animal, or threatens either action to frighten, punish, or control me.
11. When you disagree with him about something important, what most closely matches his response?
He asks about my view and can disagree without punishing me.
He becomes defensive or withdraws briefly, but later returns to the conversation.
He mocks my judgment, rewrites what I said, or repeatedly insists that only his view is reasonable.
He threatens exposure, abandonment, retaliation, or another consequence to force agreement.
12. After he realizes that his behavior has hurt you, how does he handle responsibility?
He names what he did, hears the impact, and makes a genuine effort to repair it.
He takes some responsibility, although defensiveness or delay makes repair harder.
He usually blames me, denies clear events, or makes me responsible for his reaction.
He retaliates or threatens consequences because I raised the harm.
13. How much have you changed your behavior because of concern about his physical reaction?
I do not alter my movement, contacts, or routine out of concern that he will become physically intimidating.
I sometimes avoid a minor topic because his raised voice or physical tension makes me uncomfortable.
I regularly monitor my words, plans, or whereabouts to prevent physical intimidation or dangerous anger.
I have hidden, fled, sought emergency help, or made an escape plan because of threats, confinement, force, or injury.
14. When sexual interest does not match, how does he handle the difference?
He accepts the mismatch without withdrawing ordinary affection or respect.
He shows disappointment but does not keep pressing or create consequences.
He uses prolonged sulking, accusations, guilt, or relationship pressure to seek compliance.
He threatens, retaliates, uses force, or makes access to necessities depend on sexual compliance.
15. During a heated conflict, what best describes how he uses physical space?
He allows distance, lets me leave, and does not use his body or objects to control my movement.
He may raise his voice or appear tense, but backs away when I request space.
He repeatedly follows me between rooms or stands very close after I ask for distance, while still allowing passage.
He blocks an exit, restrains me, corners me, displays a weapon, or threatens physical harm.