Hazen and Shaver Love Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. A partner suggests combining more of your routines, plans, and social lives. What feels most natural?
I welcome more connection while preserving some separate interests.
I am open to selected shared routines but want clear areas that remain my own.
I become concerned about losing independence and resist most of the changes.
I agree to some changes but pull back if shared expectations keep expanding.
2. A relationship is becoming more emotionally committed. Which experience is most familiar?
I can move toward commitment while discussing any concerns openly.
I enjoy the connection but periodically need extra room to feel like myself.
I start focusing on the relationship's limitations and feel an urge to retreat.
I maintain the relationship but reduce how much of my inner life I share.
3. After a disagreement leaves some tension between you and a partner, what are you most likely to do?
Seek immediate reassurance that the relationship is intact before discussing the issue itself.
Take space and generally prefer to let the issue fade rather than revisit it.
Name the unresolved issue and make room for both perspectives when you reconnect.
Discuss it once the other person begins and the tone feels manageable.
4. A partner has been consistently reliable over time. How does that usually affect your trust?
I value the consistency but still look for reassurance when circumstances change.
I appreciate it while keeping emotional reliance limited.
I gradually let the consistent pattern support deeper trust and openness.
I feel reassured temporarily, but doubts can return quickly without fresh signs of closeness.
5. When an important relationship need is not being met, what do you tend to do?
I wait for signs that my partner understands, becoming more distressed if they do not.
I bring it up clearly, listen to their position, and look for a workable response.
I mention it cautiously but may soften the request to avoid creating tension.
I adapt on my own because depending on a partner for that need feels uncomfortable.
6. A partner says they need a quiet evening alone after a difficult week. Which response is closest to yours?
I understand the request and do not experience it as a statement about the relationship.
I accept it, though I feel better if we establish when we will talk next.
I worry that they are pulling away and monitor how warmly they communicate afterward.
I feel intensely unsettled and may press for contact or proof that we are okay.
7. A partner who normally replies quickly has not answered for several hours. What happens first for you?
I assume they are occupied and continue with my day.
I notice the delay and wonder about it, but I can redirect my attention.
I check my phone repeatedly and look for clues about what the silence means.
I struggle to focus and feel a strong urge to contact them again for reassurance.
8. Your partner wants to spend a weekend pursuing an interest without you. Which response fits you best?
I support the plan and feel comfortable making independent plans of my own.
I agree, though part of me wonders whether the distance means something.
I prefer the extra independence and may feel relieved that less closeness is expected.
I am mostly comfortable after we briefly confirm when we will reconnect.
9. Imagine a date feels affectionate, but your partner seems distracted near the end. How would you interpret it?
I would strongly question whether their feelings had changed and need clarification soon.
I would register the change but consider several ordinary explanations.
I would prefer not to analyze it or invite a conversation about feelings.
I would replay the evening and search for something I might have done wrong.
10. When something personal is weighing on you, how do you usually involve a romantic partner?
I share what is happening but reveal the most vulnerable parts gradually.
I explain my feelings and ask for the kind of support that would help.
I mainly share practical details while keeping vulnerable feelings protected.
I hold back at first but hope my partner notices and checks on me.
11. When a partner turns to you with intense emotions and wants sustained support, what is your usual reaction?
I can stay emotionally engaged while also being honest about my capacity.
I listen for a while but soon shift toward practical solutions.
I feel crowded and look for a way to shorten or redirect the exchange.
I offer support, though prolonged emotional dependence makes me uneasy.
12. In the middle of relationship conflict, what kind of distance do you generally want?
Enough time to settle myself, followed by a planned return to the conversation.
Very little; I would rather restore closeness as soon as possible.
Substantial space, without pressure to say when I will be ready to reconnect.
A long pause, and I may hope the issue no longer needs discussion afterward.
13. How much reassurance do you typically want about a partner's feelings for you?
Regular reassurance matters because uncertainty can return even after a warm interaction.
I appreciate occasional reassurance, especially during stressful periods.
I prefer affection to be understood without much verbal confirmation.
I seek reassurance when the partner's tone or availability seems different.
14. How do you tend to respond when a partner offers care that would require you to rely on them?
I accept when it is useful and do not view the reliance as a loss of autonomy.
I accept smaller forms of help but prefer to handle major needs myself.
I appreciate the offer, though receiving help may feel slightly awkward.
I usually decline because depending on someone feels exposing or restrictive.
15. During a serious argument, how present is the fear that the relationship could end?
It may cross my mind if the disagreement remains unresolved for a long time.
It becomes a major concern, and I urgently seek signs that my partner will stay.
I focus more on the issue or on getting space than on possible abandonment.
The fear is noticeable and influences how strongly I pursue a response.