Does My Dad Hate Me Quiz
Questions: 15 · 10 minutes
1. When he enforces a rule, which physical behavior is most typical?
He uses non-physical consequences and explains what rule was broken.
He can use loud gestures or an overly stern posture, but settles when he sees that I am distressed.
He strikes tables or objects nearby in anger, making me brace for what could happen next.
He hits, shoves, forcibly restrains, or uses punishment that causes pain or injury.
2. How does he handle your friendships, communication, or growing independence?
He sets age-appropriate limits and discusses the reasons, while allowing reasonable independence.
He worries and checks in more than I would like, but can usually negotiate limits with me.
He pressures me to drop certain relationships or checks my communication without a clear safety reason or agreement.
He uses threats, punishment, or intimidation to isolate me from supportive people.
3. During a heated argument, what does your dad or father figure do physically?
He keeps physical distance or pauses the conversation until both of us are calmer.
He may pace, raise his voice, or shut a door hard, without directing objects or force toward anyone.
He throws or kicks objects away from people, or strikes furniture without directly threatening me.
He hits, shoves, corners, restrains, throws something at me, or threatens physical harm.
4. How does your dad or father figure handle privacy when you are dressing, bathing, or using the bathroom?
He knocks, waits, and respects reasonable privacy; accidental interruptions are acknowledged and corrected.
He occasionally forgets to knock but leaves promptly when reminded.
He argues about my need for privacy or needs repeated reminders, though he leaves after a direct request.
He deliberately watches, enters after being told no, forces access, or records me in a private situation.
5. When food, healthcare, school supplies, or other essential needs are difficult to provide, what best describes his approach?
He prioritizes essential needs and seeks available help when money, access, or circumstances make that difficult.
Some needs are delayed despite visible efforts to solve the problem or find support.
Important needs often remain unmet because he dismisses them or refuses realistic available help.
He deliberately withholds food, necessary care, or another essential need as punishment or control.
6. After you make an ordinary mistake, which reaction is most typical?
He addresses the specific mistake without treating it as proof that I am a bad person.
His frustration can feel excessive, but he eventually focuses on what happened and what to do next.
He uses prolonged silent treatment, recurring name-calling, or old mistakes to shame me.
He intentionally degrades me as worthless or threatens major retaliation to force obedience.
7. What best describes physical affection or touch between you?
He checks what is welcome and respects it when I do not want a hug or other affection.
He sometimes assumes affection is welcome but stops immediately when I say so.
He often misses visible discomfort and needs clear reminders, but stops after a direct no.
He continues after I say no, forces intimate contact, or touches sexual areas without consent.
8. If you try to leave a tense room to calm down, what most closely matches his response?
He lets me leave and may arrange a time to continue the conversation.
He objects or asks me to stay, but accepts my decision to take space.
He follows me while continuing the argument, but does not block or physically stop me.
He blocks the exit, locks me in, restrains me, or threatens harm if I leave.
9. What happens when he is angry while driving you somewhere?
He keeps his driving controlled or waits until he is calm enough to drive.
He becomes tense or complains aloud but continues following ordinary road rules.
He sometimes speeds, brakes harshly, or drives aggressively while angry.
He threatens to crash, uses the vehicle to terrify me, or drives in a way that causes or nearly causes injury.
10. When you set a personal boundary that he dislikes, how does he respond?
He respects the boundary or discusses it without punishing me for raising it.
He questions it or seems hurt, but ultimately accepts my answer.
He uses guilt, anger, or repeated pressure, though he eventually backs off without force or threats.
He retaliates, threatens me, forces contact, or says I will be harmed or abandoned unless I comply.
11. When you disagree with your dad or father figure, what most closely matches his response?
He may disagree firmly, but he lets me speak and can return to the issue calmly.
He sometimes becomes cold or sharply critical, then later makes an effort to repair things.
He repeatedly mocks, insults, or belittles me instead of addressing the disagreement.
He says he wishes I did not exist, threatens to abandon me, or uses similarly severe statements to frighten me.
12. Which statement best matches his handling of sexual images, videos, or other explicit material around you?
He keeps explicit material away from me and immediately corrects any accidental exposure.
He has been careless about leaving explicit material visible but responds when asked to put it away.
He knowingly shows or leaves explicit material around me despite my stated discomfort.
He asks me for intimate images, secretly records me, or records, shares, or threatens to share intimate material involving me.
13. Which statement best describes how you prepare when you notice him becoming angry?
I expect an uncomfortable conversation, but I do not feel a need to protect my body or plan an escape.
I become alert to his tone and try to give the situation space.
I track exits, move breakable objects, or stay near other people because his physical reactions feel unpredictable.
I hide, flee, or seek immediate protection because he has threatened, forced, or injured me, or I believe harm may happen now.
14. How does he talk about your body, dating, or sexual topics?
He keeps conversations age-appropriate and respectful, even when a topic feels awkward.
He sometimes makes clumsy general jokes but changes course when he learns they are uncomfortable.
He repeatedly makes sexualized comments about my body or relationships despite knowing they upset me.
He makes sexual propositions, demands secrecy about sexual behavior, or threatens consequences connected to sex or my body.
15. Suppose you go to him because you are upset. What usually happens?
He listens, or honestly explains when he needs a little time before talking.
He is often distracted or uncomfortable with emotions, but sometimes checks back later.
He regularly dismisses my feelings, calls me dramatic, or turns the conversation against me.
He deliberately humiliates me, reveals private pain to punish me, or uses my distress to control me.